Views : 948,740
Genre: Comedy
Date of upload: Feb 26, 2021 ^^
Rating : 4.819 (1,579/33,369 LTDR)
RYD date created : 2022-04-09T21:46:00.44404Z
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Tony seems to like the, "crush women's self worth and self esteem so that they feel they should be grateful that their abuser is with them," approach to gaslighting. I can barely listen to him talk he's so disgusting. The way he just ignores that they're saying and spins his own narrative is maddening.
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I didn't realize it until decades later, but Tony Robbins may have single handedly ruined my life. When I was a child my single mom listened to Tony Robbins very often. As a result, my mental health medications and some light tutoring/therapy were replaced with a bunch of self-help nonsense. This, in return led to extremely poor grades (And eventually dropping out), self-blaming and extremely low self esteem, clinical depression, and multiple suicide attempts. Finally as an adult I'm coming to terms with the fact that a lot of my previous failings had more to do with my untreated mental illness and lack of familial support rather than "Not trying hard enough" or simply "Being too stupid", and I'm doing quite well now that I am in therapy and on the correct medications.
Thanks for nothing Tony.
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As an Italian woman I had to stop the video and take a minute when the footage from the Italian seminar was played.
"An Italian man that sleeps around and that's not a normal thing?"
"Is that not a pattern in the culture?"
Feminicide is a huge issue in Italy, a woman dies at the hands of a partner or loved one roughly every three days. "Romanticising" the idea of the "Italian stallion" and pretending that women don't deserve the respect of their partners plays a role in painting women as submissive and serves to justify the actions of the men that slaughter them.
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My dad is a huge Tony Robbins fan and it definitely ran over into my life. During my parents’ divorce and ever since, all I’ve heard about is how women need a man who’s strong, a real man, and how women need to be feminine and vulnerable to attract caretaker qualities from their men. It’s kind of insane how much Tony has been a part of my life, my dating experiences, and even who I am today. Unfortunately so.
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Oh god I had a therapist (with a Ph.D in psychology) who was just like this. I fired him because he was just projecting weird toxic masculinity shit onto me that wasn't even relevant to my issues ("of course you don't listen to your wife, she's a woman and you're a man." bro. what? I respect and appreciate what my wife has to say. I'm not even here for relationship advice.) I'm a tenured paramedic, and not someone who lacks self-confidence in who I am or as a man. I have a hard time asking people for help and with motivation/procrastination from ADHD. That's why I was looking for therapy. And he made me feel like a worse person every session, purely because I was asking for help, like I was somehow less of a man for being unable to solve everything myself, when my problem is I'd taken that mindset too far. (the dude was even a self-professed expert in treating ADHD and first responders)
I felt like I was being gaslighted. And googling his reviews, a couple other people mentioned the exact same word. So I asked my wife, a friend, and my psychiatrist (who is an expert in treating ADHD) if I was just crazy or if he was onto something, and they all said the same thing. Gaslighting.
When it comes to therapy, my psychiatrist gave me some simple advice: "Do you feel like they get you, and do you feel like they want to help?"
Back onto Tony, it's really damn weird hearing him say shit about animal instincts and then repeatedly point out how a woman smiles when they just said something deeply personal and embarrassing like confessing suicidal ideation. That's a hard-wired biological trait in all of us, and many other primates. The "awkward smile/laugh" is a self-soothe and attempt to de-escalate. I see it all the time as a paramedic with my psych patients. You can't help someone if you don't get to know them. These short "interventions" he does are little more than the therapy version of a psychic doing cold reading.
I think one problem Robbins made for himself is that his "thing" is he can help anyone. And not everyone's issues are easily fixed. But it would break character and his entire schtick if someone came up and said "I tried to kill myself because I was sold into an arranged marriage, I divorced my husband and he took my baby, who I haven't seen for years." and Tony just said what he should - "Oh, ma'am, I'm so sorry. That's unfortunately beyond my scope to address. I'll recommend you some good, licensed therapists after the event."
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I'm a psychologist who specializes in trauma and I had to take breaks while watching this. What he is saying to these women and men is sick. Also, smiling when talking about something vulnerable and emotional is not a sign of manipulation. It is a common, automatic reaction to strong emotions of any kind.
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@itsbrinteybinch5495
2 years ago
woman: my husband is abusive tony robbins: thats not what i've experienced from him
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