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Genre: Education
Date of upload: Jan 4, 2023 ^^
Rating : 4.92 (5,485/267,245 LTDR)
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I remember being homeless at 17, having finally been old enough to leave my abusive home but still working my job at the coffee house. No one knew I was homeless except the cops that harassed me, ticketing me over and over for sleeping in my car, eating up my paychecks with fines until I couldn't pay anymore, at which point they put you on probation and draw out even more fines.
Zero criminal record, drug-free, holding down a job, and just trying to make ends meet... It didn't matter. I was trash to be chased down by the cops. There was no help for young men. Only women's shelters. Only women's assistance. Only women's free college, etc. Your pride and sense of masculinity keeps you waiting to ask for help until you're so hungry, you can feel it up your stomach and in your throat. Then you finally seek assistance and everyone looks at you in disgust because hey, you're a man in the patriarchy right? How dare you ask for help! Then you stew in your emotions, having traded what little bit of self-respect you have left for nothing more than a horrifying reinforcement of what you already feared; you're worthless not just to the people in your life but to society as a whole.
It wasn't until my probation officer came to arrest me for not showing up and found me half dead in a hospital bed with blood clots and walking pneumonia from sleeping in my car that someone took pity on me and got me out of the never ending spiral of fines for just trying to live my life. Even then, that was only after the officer tried to drag me out of bed and caused a scene with the doctors and nurses. Again, I had zero criminal record (beyond tickets for being homeless), was drug-free, and was working full time. I wasn't a leech or a danger. I was a young man on his own trying to get by and that seemed to be unacceptable for whatever reason. Thank god I made it out. A lot of young men never do.
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Worked at a job where I was sexually harassed daily. Told my manager that I didn't feel comfortable and she told me "To learn to take a compliment". I quit. She emailed me two months later and asked if I wanted to come back and that she would add 3 dollars to my hourly wage. To this day I'm still pissed.
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One major issue with men in teaching professions, particularly around young children is the stigma around it. As a man, you can't get too friendly around children or you risk being branded a pedophile. I've seen this with my mother. We had a very nice old guy who loved children who worked at the cross walk. One day he saw that my sister's backpack was all beaten up and falling apart so he offered to help get her a new one. My mom immediately assumed ill intentions and called the school to get him fired.
Imagine if we replaced that nice old man with a nice old lady. My mother, and most other parents would be singing her priases about how she went above and beyond with a single act of kindness.
It's sad really. Personally, I go out of my way to avoid children. I refuse to work in any job that puts me around children, because once you have that label on you, you're screwed. I reckon it's the same for other men as well.
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I'm a male teacher, in middle school. At the start of my career I interviewed for 12-15 elementary school positions, and was rejected by every single one of them. I earnestly tried to teach elementary, but I just couldn't get in. I was just starting out, so one could argue that my inexperience cost me. But once I started interviewing for middle school positions, multiple schools promptly offered me a spot. I truly do believe my being male played a role in this.
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I think another key point is this new culture coming up of āhating menā. Iāve witnessed so many women exclaim something along the lines of āmen are the worstā etc without thinking much of it.
This further perpetuates male feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness in efforts to become equals.
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Well this video made me cry. It got me thinking back to high school and the one teacher that didnāt hate me, the only male teacher. He was the only one that was able to look past my difficult personality and really understand me. It was such a difficult time dealing with undiagnosed bi polar disorder. My parents were neglectful. I had nobody. š
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As a "younger" male person who graduated high school relatively recently, I can't tell you how much I appreciated my male teachers (shop teachers, and one english teacher). They taught me a lot about being a man by just acting as a role model around the classroom and showing how to properly deal with stressful situations and what not.
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As a young black man I am glad to see this topic being discussed in this way.
I lost my little brother to suicide about 5 years ago and one thing that was evident is that he felt strangled by the pressures of society at just 16.
More discussions need to be had about what it means to be a man in this time. It is tough trying to be an upstanding man when the level of expectation is unrealistic and does not match the reality of roles and responsibilities being played out in society.
It is also tough to prosper as a man when major industries that promote sedentary behavior (gaming and television) and illegal drugs are exploiting media outlets to numb men into a malaise.
I donāt have the answers, but the fact that this dialogue is beginning is a good sign.
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It's embarrassing how little we consider mens issues, but like Richard Reeves mentioned, this is a brand new problem in our society. The Me Too movement was groundbreaking, even though it wasn't even a decade ago. Now we've started conversations around the struggles of men and boys. We need to continue to educate ourselves to have better role models for the next generation. Thank you for shining a light on this issue.
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My Dad is a retired teacher. He is medically retired now (60 yo). Every student liked him a lot. As an plastic art/drawing teacher he got to teach 6 to 14 year old boys and girls. He was so successful that everywhere I go in the town with him, every student comes to greet him with a big smile. He's never had a problem with a student (and I was his student for a year, and was on the same school for 9 years). The statues of the school, the agricultural projects such as tree planting and harvesting, the wood works, recyclable material works, drawing etc. ended when he got terribly sick. When he got weak from cancer, instead of having support, the jealousy of his women colleagues made his life very hard at work. With critics about him not following the government program and other crap. The doctors said he had to retire. After he did all these activities ended. No more clay works, wood works, recyclable works, the schools trees withered and it was a mess so bad that the school contacted him to come back. He did not. With a mental degenerative disease he is now living off agriculture with us. All in all, men teachers can offer boys some skills they might need growing up.
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The fact that this video has so many views shows how much people care, yet it isnāt being publicized. Itās silenced. As someone with ADHD, I was even more disadvantaged than others. I am currently the very bottom student in my major. But Iām also one of few students who interned with one of Elon Muskās companies. Something is seriously wrong.
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@frogery
1 year ago
The number of male therapists decreasing while the number of men needing therapy increases is worrying to think about.
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