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Why being nice can kill you? Dr. Gabor Mate explores the dangers of excessive niceness #trauma
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Why being nice can kill you? Dr. Gabor Mate explores the dangers of excessive niceness

In "Being Nice Can Kill You," Dr. Gabor Mate explores the hidden dangers of excessive niceness and how it can harm an individual's health and well-being. He explains how prioritizing others above oneself can lead to neglecting one's own needs and desires, resulting in physical and mental exhaustion, burnout, and chronic health problems.

Dr. Mate highlights how being too nice can make it difficult for individuals to set boundaries, say "no" when necessary, or stand up for themselves when mistreated, leading to overwhelming stress and even resentment. He also notes how excessively nice individuals may attract toxic relationships, leading to emotional turmoil and stress.

Moreover, Dr. Mate discusses how being too nice can lead to difficulty expressing one's own emotions or needs, which can lead to bottling up feelings that result in anxiety, depression, or other mental health issues. He also notes how excessive niceness can contribute to self-criticism and perfectionism, leading to high levels of stress and anxiety as individuals strive to meet unrealistic expectations or standards to please others.

Overall, Dr. Mate's work sheds light on the importance of finding a balance between being kind and compassionate towards others while also prioritizing one's own health and well-being. His insights serve as a reminder to individuals that taking care of oneself is a necessary step towards leading a fulfilling and healthy life.

This video is owned by @AndreDuqum I would like to credit him to this video you can find the original video on his channel and learn more about his passion on his website: www.knowthyself.one/

You can also buy Dr Gabor Mates book in Amazon: amzn.to/434h7Wm



The power of words to control our emotions can be therapeutic to our mental health;
✅ “I'm here for you.”
✅ “You are not alone.”
✅ “You are worthy and deserving.”
✅ “You don't have to apologize.”
✅ “There is treatment available to you
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✅ “You are strong!.”

You can buy his book : (The Myth Of Normal) amzn.to/3F0faQg


I suffer from bipolar disorder. There are times that I experienced cyclical remission through music and motivational inspirational speech I was able to survive every stage of my cyclical depression. Inside Serene is my alter ego - my trusted friend a gatekeeper of my pandora's box of mindfulness that helps me overcome mental struggles.

" We must be willing to encounter darkness and despair when they come up and face them, over and over again if need be, without running away or numbing ourselves in the thousands of ways we conjure up to avoid the unavoidable". - By Jon Kabat-Zinn

✅ Be empowered ✅ Be intentional ✅ Be in control

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@cinthyalc1162

1 year ago

As a neuroscience student what he has done is fascinating! Not only did I burst in tears while I was reading his book but I surrendered to the pain and anger that was shaping all my behaviours
 one of them being too “ compassionate” and too “understanding”. Trauma can sneak in your behaviours in very mysterious confusing ways but this book makes Seeing,feeling and healing trauma very clear

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@yichispiritual

8 months ago

I can say enough is enough and I don’t have to be perfect- as a way of walking out of a toxic relationship

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@garrettmeadows2273

1 year ago

I have grown to hate being referred to as a "nice guy" and hearing the cliche "Nice guys finish last." I agree, being excessive nice turns a person into a doormat who is lives in constant fear of making someone angry.

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@wallybingbang4350

9 months ago

The amount of information available on YouTube is phenomenal !!! ❀

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@ollieod179

7 months ago

Great interview. Im really enjoying Gabor at present in terms of his world view which has helped me recently very much. The trouble with science is, it does not have the technology to truly measure or "sense" human emotion or energy yet, but we have our awareness, bodies amd hearts to do so. This we must listen to. Blessings All

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@robynhope219

5 months ago

Not being nice...being TOO nice!

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@philippamediwake1235

1 year ago

Human’s have also created stress & mental illness in all other species which is unforgivable in my view

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@cereal_qilla

4 months ago

“They’re not trying to kill you they just don’t care if you die”

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@Dancerlil

11 months ago

This man is such a blessing. I so resonate with what he shares. Thank you for interviewing him. I have listened to many videos of his talks. More would be most greatly appreciated.

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@aquariusstar7248

1 year ago

This interview was so beautifully done! I love the relaxation vibe, the intimate conversation, and the authentic connection between you two. Your questions were well-spoken and eloquently posed to such a gigant of psych health. Thank you!đŸ™đŸŸđŸ™đŸŸđŸ™đŸŸ

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@jayzed4099

1 year ago

Thank you. I could listen to these gentleman all day. Could the editors please check the subtitles, some of the words are incorrect.

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@evebellydancerr

4 months ago

OMG I love his voice, he makes you feel safe ❀

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@kimberleysmith1539

1 year ago

I remember when America was threatening to start the war in Iraq, millions of people around the world were protesting and Bush (and others) ignored those huge, global protests and went to war anyway. It's good to know that those millions of people didn't just buy into it but did what they could to protest against it... not realising that the people matter nought to these politicians!

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@AndreDuqum

1 year ago

You really need be tagging the original source

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@deepw1

11 months ago

Loved watching the deep and authentic conversation ....so many learnings 👏

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@izakossowska1417

1 year ago

Dziękujemy.

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@philippamediwake1235

1 year ago

I entirely agree with Dr Gabor & i think that modern day education has a lot to answer for. It’s superficial & meaningless @ times but we must discuss the possible solutions to correct the dilemmas we face as a mixed cultured society to address them rather than just talk about all the negatives. There are many positives in modern day society as well. Most technologies are a double edged sword. As a specie, from the beginning we seem to have displayed aggressive & destructive behaviour to compensate for our creativity. Of course, we have brutalised & tortured every aspect of nature, being at the very pinnacle of the food chain. What’s more is we are the biggest hypocrites on the the planet. BUT WHAT IS THE SOLUTION? Reformed education & educationalists are the initial corrections required. Military money should be poured into education & the best humans to think outside the box (for a change)!

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@elizabethbelbey6729

1 year ago

Thank you so much for this profound and meaningful discussion. ❀

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