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Date of upload: Jun 4, 2023 ^^
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Can I just say, I love the raw honesty of Mate (and the interviewer), and how he has to identify his own mother as the root of some of his childhood/adulthood issues but he doesn’t dishonour her with these statements, he clearly loved and respected her (I believe she has now past). As a stressed mother raising my own child (now adult) I hope one day he will see the true clarity of our situation and appreciate I too did my best under challenging circumstances as he grows through adulthood. Ultimately, they are all life lessons on each of our paths. For a brilliant academic, Mate has a fantastic bedside manner (if you think of YT viewers as patients) and a great way of explaining & simplifying complicated human behaviours. What pains me about life (which I need to get a grip of and process) is all that exquisite education in his brain goes the day he leaves this lifetime which seems the most insane part of life to me. Yeah, I know, he will leave behind children, treated patients, books, academic papers etc but still…
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Dr Mate I'm from Pakistan having a mid life crisis, a divorce with 6 kids, no monitory help from my ex who's quite well off, I'm just addicted to listening to u. I'm a muslim n had v strange ideas about Jews but listening to u was able to connect on a humanitarian level. Loads of respect!! Request u to read about the life of our prophet Muhammad peace be upon him as well, stay blessed!!
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With much respect for Gabor's work and the work of many others, I can't help thinking about the enormous percentage of people who don't have access to the help he recommends. What percentage of therapists even have the skills for the work? They are a completely unsupervised profession. And they make more money if you depend on them for a long time... Most can't afford to do that and others living in places where there is no access. For myself, even if I had access I wouldn't do it. I've had enough of that. But that doesn't mean I have given up on myself, far from it. But with the persistent message I keep hearing from the trauma experts, I can't see people not giving up. I have just had experiences that were exceptional and my hope comes from that. So yes Gabor's words are intended to give us hope, but
, and there is a big "but" who has the resources? It's a bit elitist and incomplete. One of the problems with psychology is that there is such an intense emphasis on research, to prove that this field is backed by science. But all you really have is correlations. There are too many variables to to be real science. And then there is the need to keep spiritual beliefs out of the mix. But people have spiritual beliefs! Are we going to continue like Freud and disregard, because he was an atheist? To talk about healing and not talk about the spiritual is absurd to some of us. To talk about meditation as a practice and not about the spiritual is pretty absurd also. It's not like nobody has healed from trauma without the help of "professionals". Of course they have. Oprah does us the favor of giving us advice that is not elitist and not devoid of the spiritual. She knows a lot about trauma as do most black people. They must be looking at all the clueless, self pitying white people and rolling their eyes up. "Lord give me patience." They have so much experience with overcoming trauma and seeing what happens if a person doesn't heal. We should be looking at the black culture for answers. We should be looking at artists who have used their art to recover. The academic culture of psychologists and therapists should be looked at with a certain skepticism. They don't have to tell us who they are...... They might not even know who they are. Gabor is the exception and I thank him for that.
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@charlottehewson9522
10 months ago
Mate is such an eloquent, profound & conscious speaker, please give me an ounce of that. xx
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