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Date of upload: Nov 11, 2022 ^^
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My parents got divorced before I was born, and my mom left me with my narcissistic grandma until 7. Every time she came to visit I cried and begged her to take me, but she left anyway and blamed me for putting on a crying show to make her feel bad. Throughout my childhood and teen years, her strategy was to expose me to all kinds of pains and prep me for the tough world. I was constantly punished physically and emotionally, criticized for not obeying her order or for not performing perfect in school. I was No 1 in every subject in my class but that was still not good enough. When some boys showed interest in me she would cut my hair to look stupid and mock me of being stupid to believe anyone other than her. I suffer from anxiety and depression, and finally an eating disorder which I am still trying to recover from. I hope one day I can find myself and truly learn to love myself and heal my trauma.
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In childhood I had a 5 years older sister who was, and still is at 69, the "poster child" for female psychopathy.
I was diagnosed, decades ago, with major depressive disorder, major anxiety disorder and borderline personality disorder. In 1998 a social security panel of physicians judged me to be "totally and permanently disabled, unemployable".
Since then I've finally gotten sober and clean, (09/20/2018), and by practicing Zen Buddhism, a la Zen Master Thich Nhat Hahn, and reading and watching Dr. Maté, I'm finally feeling much better and reasonably happy, consistently.
Of course I'm 64 years old now 🙄, but it's fine.
"Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That's why it's called, 'the present'".😉🙏💖🙏
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Authenticity in this society is seen as unprofessional and "problematic". It's infuriating and why I'm stepping away from the online world while I recalibrate myself and heal my trauma instead of subjecting and destroying myself for the projections of others who can't handle being honest with themselves and are intimidated by someone who is.
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Nobody explains and understands childhood trauma as well as Dr. Mate. I’ve gone through therapy due to my childhood trauma, but it was fruitless. Dr. Mate made me feel like he understood me even when I’ve never met him. This resonates with me completely and now I understand why I have a hard time connecting with anyone in my life 😢
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He mentions: "the body keeps the score" from Bessel van der Kolk 5:10. That book was the first book that understood me and all my problems. Thank you for mentioning that, Gabor Maté. You deserve the Nobel Peace Prize.
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Childhood trauma is so So damaging My Parents should Have never had Children ,Even as a 60yr old woman I still carry this and have dealt with it so many times But it returns ,My coping strategies are to Block It like it never happened Fight or Flight is easier to cope with than constantly reliving it in My sleep
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Thank you. God I'm so sick of these meaningless diagnoses that don't do anything. Band aids on core wounds. I hate our pathetic mental health system. It's failed not just me, not just my family, not just nearly everyone I know, not just every mental health disaster I've worked within, but nearly everyone, in some way. I'm furious.
This man is a genius but it makes me so devastated because he's not the norm, and not nearly enough people will benefit from this. I'm so sick of toxic selfish, oblivious disgusting people abusing others.
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@nikzniky
7 months ago
“Trauma is not what happens to you. Trauma is what happens inside you as a result of what happened to you.”
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