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53,556 Views • Apr 18, 2024 • Click to toggle off description
Today we are spilling the tea on why self love isn't enough and what we can do instead to better ourselves and genuinely improve our lives, relationships, mental health, and well-being.
#selflove #selfhelp #selfcare #personalgrowth
Writer: Dylan Swanepoel
Editor: Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Gabriel Miles
Animator: Maggie Wehler
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
Self-love isn’t enough. We must also develop our self-worth and self-esteem. We must recognise what we are worthy of. Instead of just loving everyone and everything.
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This is what I was telling a couple of people I discussed this with. We can do self love all we want, but it doesn't measure to being hugged. Carressed. As someone who has blossomed slowly with self love, I thrived when I met my best friend because she 100% provides things self love can't. I wish more people could understand this and not go- you need to love yourself more then anything, before you love anyone.
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God I needed this. I have been saying for YEARS that expecting self-love to be enough is like plugging a powerbar into itself and wondering why the lamp didn't turn on. Every time someone tells me that I only need myself or I just need to love myself more, my heart breaks. It just makes me think that I still haven't done enough to deserve love from anyone else.
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Finally, this aspect got voiced over - self-love is not enough. Because I'm tired of hearing that just you can make yourself happy and go love yourself 😐
We need all of those forms of love, they are so fulfilling.
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Ever since November 2023, It’s been vary harsh. Yes, I’ve been better with learning and practicing Self Love, but I know it’s important to have other love.
I just hope one 1 day that I can see them again.
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Finding friends is much much much much much much easier said than done when those in the past started ignoring you probably due to personal problems in their lives, no matter how many helpful and amazing videos you people upload :,(
There's ONE friend I have but she's in a long term relation and lives in another country by now, lives a different life.
My parents are both dead, I have no siblings and no contact with any potential aunt or uncles of which at least one of my uncles also turned kinda into a "Corona is a method to dictate us" type of person, which hurts badly.
No time or space for a pet either, so all I really can do is counting down days until I am no more. Local authorities already proofed to me when mom died shortly before the pandemic that everything she had will be destroyed, which is why I don't see much value in my existence and meaning anymore either.
My boss ever since I lost my mother said I shall get my shit together and while readers of this comment could say just get another job, that is something not as easy with multiple disabilities and low graduation.
Oddly enough, I enjoy my life whenever possible but the social aspect is brutally messed up.
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Some people love themselves so much to the point it becomes narcissistic.
People are social creatures but many take for granted all the attention to love from others they get daily while some literally have no one.
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The most basic self-love is having self-esteem. If you don't have that, there is nothing.
This is such a baseline quality that it's generally not even discussed, because with truly no self-esteem life is completely meaningless.. 😞
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Maybe we all need to realize that what we need is more self-acceptance and self-reflection both inside and outside of ourselves.
Our ups and downs are valid but we have to train ourselves to get rid of the bad side. Never focus on the negative side. You have to keep practicing, growing until you find peace within yourself.
But never forget that we do need the support of other people to help us when we are down. Find a support system and you're good to go.
My own experience as a BD 🙏🏻
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In essence, self-love provides a strong foundation for personal growth and resilience, but it's just one piece of the puzzle. A fulfilling life involves nurturing relationships, facing challenges with courage, contributing to the greater good, embracing all emotions, and finding a balance between self-care and caring for others.
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So true! We’re all encouraged in this day and age to self love but we need to give and receive love, real love, from real ppl!
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Thank you for this, this is exactly what I've been dealing with lately.
For those making comments about "seeking relationships with others is a clear sign you haven't fully loved yourself"— believe it or not we all have different experiences. Some people here, like myself, have put in the time (A LOT OF TIME) in ourselves, and do love ourselves, care for ourselves and so on. But this doesn't mean we have given up on wanting to connect with others on a deeper level as well.
Sometimes, self-love is not enough.
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All the psychological content on this topic I found on YouTube told me that self love is the most important thing and you should prioritize it the most, but I never really felt that way. So thanks to this video now I know that external love is important too, and self love isn't the only thing I need. Thanks Psych2Go! :]
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Thanks for making this video!!! I was on the train comming back home from college and then I stopped to look at people there. Everyone was on their phones, and I'm from Brazil. Brazilians are mostly very talkative people, who enjoys A LOT to connect with each other, even with strangers, but now I can totally notice how things have changed in society, specially because of our phones. I felt sad. I am very sad and feeling lonely lately, but I'm glad I'm trying to make friends and go out more and connect with people. I think the connection between people is sooo amazing and beautiful! It bothers me a lot that everywhere you go people are saying YOU NEED TO LOVE YOURSELF MORE THAN ANYTHING, and I think this was meant to help people but it can also create isolation, with people "loving themselves" more than ANYTHING and then not being patient and caring with each other, not being able to give love, and with that, not being able to receive love as well. We need to talk more about how we are distancing ourselves from each other and how that's causing us to be depressed and anxious ans feeling lost! Thanks for making a video that shows that external love is necessary for our own well being and that self love IS NOT EVERYTHING WE NEED. Yes, we do need it, but we need others as well!!! I love talking to strangers and connecting with them, ask about their lives and let them be heard, cause I know how lonely I feel and not everyone is there to listen to me, so I want to treat others as I want to be treated. People nowadays are so hurt that they get lost in themselves and start being selfish to basically protect themselves thinking they're doing the right thing without noticing they are only blocking themselves from others. I'm studying to be a therapist and I can't wait to learn everything I can so I can help more and more people, and I love your vídeos!!! ❤❤❤
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What we crave is connection, bonds both lasting & fleeting, we will always feel the need to connect with someone even if we don't want it.
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Self love isn’t and will never be enough to substantiate for the connection with others. I have so much love for myself but it doesn’t change the occasional loneliness I feel stemming from lack of intimate relationships (platonic, romantic and familial).
Because I’m not in a safe environment surrounded by healthy people to experience these things, holding space with myself, continuously exercising self care and giving myself love is all I can do. But I do it through volunteering and community advocacy because it’s fulfilling and giving hope to others the same way I maintain hope for myself.
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I hope...
I love.
I live
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One time while watching Moulin Rouge I heard the words "The only thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return" and I thought it was so cute, but I only ever lived by half of it: to love. And I thought that was enough, but allowing other people to love YOU is another skill altogether, and a super important one. Once I finally figured out that I'm lovable and was able to picture others loving me in return - it's as if I found the Yin to my Yang and I finally became whole
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