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When it comes to relationships and dating, everyone has their own way of showing love. According to attachment theory, the things we have gone through as a child, and our childhood trauma can tremendously affect our love styles, attachment styles, and relationships.
Want to learn more about how your childhood can affect your love style? This video is for you: • How Your Childhood Affects Your Love ...
Credits
Writer: Merinda Quegan
Script Editor: Kelly Soong
VO: Jenny Lea
Animator: Lesly Drue (2nd animation version)
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong
Credits:
Neal, J., & Frick-Horbury, D. (2001). The Effects of Parenting Styles and Childhood Attachment Patterns on Intimate Relationships. Journal of Instructional Psychology, 28(3), 178.
Yerkovich, M., & Yerkovich, K. (n.d.). What are the 5 love styles?
Retrieved March 9, 2020, from
howwelove.com/love-styles
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Genre: Education
Date of upload: Oct 23, 2021 ^^
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
dear parents, start understanding your children instead of thinking you know everything about them
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imagine society where parents go to therapy before having a child
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I can to relate to ALL of them! 🙁 I did have a somewhat dramatic childhood and have done so much work to shift out of the unhealthy behaviors but I still struggle in my most intimate relationships.
Identifying with those wounds may be keeping me stuck. Now that II’ve identified them here, Perhaps I can send some forgiveness and healing to them.
🙏🏻🌻💕
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I’m a pleaser and everything said was pinpoint. As an only child, I was always given so much expectations. It wasn’t easy always trying to please my parents. It reached a point where it was mainly about their happiness over mine. 22 years now, I can see it in my relationship. I’m 2 years and 4 months into my relationship, and I must say, just as the video says, I’m fond of sacrificing for my girlfriend. I don’t know, but deep down it feels so much better when she is smiling, so everything possible. Be it, getting into debt or whatever. I’ll sort out my issues later.
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"Every child deserves a parent, not every parent deserves a child"
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1. When your family isn't affectionate, when you rarely receiving hugs, kisses or "I love you" and you grew up don't know how to do those things without being awkward or feeling weird
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"learning to be compliant helped keep any attention off of yourself" dang that took me back
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I experienced all those childhood traumas ... Kinda heartbreaking because people often invalidate my feelings when I wanted to share my experiences to them.
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It's crazy how your childhood effects your whole life
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"People usually saw you as the good kid, rather than receiving comfort from your parents, you may have actually been giving them comfort..." mind blown
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I im late, but I relate to the victim/pleaser. They are both pretty accurate. I grew up with an abusive father and a mom who had been in this abusive relationship since she was 16. So my home was chaotic. I was constantly providing comfort to my mom while my dad would get angry and violent, expecting me to be perfect. I definitely lean more on controllers in romantic relationships and focus on making everyone around me happy at the cost of my own mental wellbeing and happiness.
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Christ... Can you have all of these? Cause the description of the childhoods was dead on for me.
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“Everything else you grow out of, but you never recover from childhood.”
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about number 4: being a pleaser is also often a result of growing up in an enviroment where your parents' moods change quickly from calm to angry, so you develop an empathetic mind set, where you try to control the mood of those around you. Growing up you had to sense the atmosphere and know how to act the way that didn't trigger your parents' mood.
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The Pleaser hit so hard i couldnt- its so true..
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I'm definitely a mix between the victim and controller. Coming from a loud home with a lot of constant yelling, I'm afraid of reflecting that pattern onto my partner. I think the biggest thing is knowing we are different people and have the ability to continue to try and shape ourselves to be better for the people we love
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Also everyone: One person is not limited to ONE each. One person can have multiple love styles/ Love languages.
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okay well im the mix of an avoider and a pleaser
and its crazy how much ur childhood affects u. i knew that my childhood wasnt good but it still hurts knowing this caused my parents behavior.
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@Psych2go
2 years ago
Which love style do you relate to most in the video? Comment below, and if you find them accurate!
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