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0:00 Intro
02:43 What Do You Do and Why Do You Do It?
04:32 Our Attention Is Being Hijacked Which Is Affecting Our Sex Lives
10:33 Why Does Sex Get Harder the More We Think About It
12:26 Why Expectations and Pressure Make Sex Worse
16:32 Our Society Has Created a "Sexual Script" That's Wrong
17:46 How to Talk About Sex with Your Partner
23:45 How to Tell Your Partner You're Not Attracted to Them Anymore
26:32 How to Not Let Kids Ruin Your Sex Life
28:01 The Demographic That Comes to You More Than Any Other
28:52 Why Desire Goes in a Relationship
34:49 How to Trigger Desire in Your Relationship
39:10 The "Initiation" Problem
40:57 Should We Schedule Sex?
43:41 What Should We Be Doing to Keep Desire High in Our Relationships
46:31 How to Talk About Your Fetish with Your Partner
51:30 What Women Really Want During Sex
53:21 Does It Matter Who Initiates Sex?
56:40 If Our Idea of What We Want From Sex Isn't Happening What Should We Do?
59:07 If Men Can't Get It Up, What Should We Do?
01:00:32 If Men Can't Get It Up, What Should We Do?
01:01:51 Should We Have Sex Before or After We Eat?
01:03:58 The Optimal Amount of Times to Have Sex
01:05:52 Sexual Dissatisfaction Between Men and Women
01:08:30 How to Deal with a Sex Life as a Parent
01:12:30 What You Can Do as a Parent to Ensure Your Sex Life Doesn't Go Off Track
01:14:02 The Relationship Between Poor Sleep and Sex
01:17:15 At What Point Should People Reach Out to You?
01:17:57 Have You Ever Seen Relationships That Are Unrecoverable?
01:19:21 The Top 3 Most Common Sexual Problems
01:21:22 The Impact of Pets on Our Sex Lives
01:23:19 Are You Hopeful for the Future of Sex?
01:24:40 How Menopause Affects Our Sex Lives
01:25:57 Our Bodies Changing Over Time and How That Impacts Our Sex Lives
01:27:03 Are We Meant to Be Monogamous?
01:32:27 The Last Guest’s Question
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
My ex was literally addicted to her cell phone. Before and after sex, she loved to scroll, and scroll, and scroll on her phone all this random stuff. It was highly distracting to our relationship, and I will never have a relationship with anyone addicted to their cell phone again. If I could push a big red button and permanently destroy all social media, I would not hesitate to push that button. We don't need it to survive, and it causes more harm than good.
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What people are missing in sex is intimacy.
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If kissing stops, the relationship is going down the drain.
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This has changed my sex life. My husband and I listened to to this twice. We are in our 50’s. And our sex life is better than it’s EVER BEEN. Thank you for having this brilliant guest on. You are the best, Stephen!!
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P0rn and social media addiction have negativly affected expectations, communication, connection and true intimacy.
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Worst advice I ever got was that open relationship would be ok. There’s good reasons most of us don’t do it
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I'm 70 years old and here are my opinions on it all. I believe that kissing ( especially out of bed ) is a great turn on for women and it isn't done nowhere enough . Also that men need to learn how to get their ladies in the mood ,again out of bed. I vividly remember in my younger days being at the kitchen sink and my husband would come slowly and gently near me and kiss me on my neck ... i would simply melt 😅. Most men ( from what girlfriends have told me ) just seem to think that they are giving pleasure as soon as they ' hop' on 😂. Horror of horrors !! Poor women😢. Making love is an art !! It's up to the men to learn that art and if he is passionate and selfless enough he will find that his partner will react beautifully. I've been one lucky lady. Actually.... i still am 😂❤😂
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Love how open Steven was in this interview. Sex is such a taboo topic for people so I really commend him for sharing his own experiences, which I think really added to the discussion. Dr Gurney was brilliant too. Everyone should listen to this conversation. Thanks, both!
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I strongly disagree with the good doctor. My husband and I have been together for 21 years. I had a small problem with sexual performance during mid-perimenopause, so we dove straight into trying to find how to improve this, which led us to Tantra. Our intimate times now last 2.5 to 3.5 hours. It's lots of holding hands or intertwining our bodies and breathing together. We breath, connect our energies, then go from there. We are scheduling intimacy or "sexy time" as we call it. WE call it a date. We have a ritual around it, which is getting our room ready, with special lighting, candles, our favorite body safe oil (avocado oil), a waterproof sheet (mostly not to get oil on our good sheets), special silky pillows and so on. We actually look forward to it. There is no pressure, but it nearly always ends in it. But not before we love each other in every other way but sexual. We realized that waiting for "spontaneous" sex did not serve us. It's been mind-blowing, it's allowed us to grow intimately like never before, and we don't get distracted, because we give ourselves time to relax into each other, we use Tantric breathing and mild meditation/awareness, then it gets more intense, and we have learned so much about ourselves. We've been doing it for 3 years. I don't see us changing it, unless we can improve upon it.
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I started thinking that I don't like sex - because every time I've had sex, and it's never been that great for me, and I decided that I'd rather spend time doing things that I enjoy more. Now I realize that I have always been distracted by a worry during sex. LITERALLY! I've had a lifetime of personal issues/traumas and I've been in survival mode for YEARS. Now, I'm 57 and I've been in therapy and doing hard work to process and learn new ways of coping with my baggage and emotions. One way for me to cope is learning self compassion - "I am good enough", "I have done enough", "I deserve good sex and I deserve love". One very difficult thing to overcome is my over-conscientiousness about my body image.
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Me understanding women’s hormones thru Dr Mindy has really helped me understand why they have far less desire than us and has made my life infinitely easier. I thought it was me now I have overwhelming desire to please my wife fully thru all her hormonal shifts in a month. Footrubs to conversation to avoiding conflict and know when they get a boost of testosterone to know when they are most likely be thinking of sex. It is not a given but certainly helps especially as time goes on!
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After escaping an absolutely horrific relationship almost four years ago, I am now extremely happy having never had or wanted a relationship or sex since. I finally feel free and powerful because I know no one can ever touch me again or try to become part of my life again
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I love the comment in regards to low pressure...that "sex should be trivial and often, not rare and crucial". For me this emphasizes the importance of "in the moment sexuality" with a sense of playfulness and lack of heavy expectation of the ultimate act itself...those small little loving and sexy gestures are a great lead up to when it does happen.
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I just want to say that this podcast makes me feel so f*** priviledged that I have access to these amazing human beings willing to share their knowledge for free. Steven man, you really read my mind with every single question that you ask your guests is like I'm asking them myself hahahha Blessed my parents the day they decided that I should learn English! Big love from Spain! 🧡
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I think she's right. Talking about sex is so difficult! It takes practice. Advocating for what I want has been one of the biggest challenges of my life, idk why, because I can readily advocate for myself in pretty much any other environment.
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I like how honest she is about couples with Children. She doesn't sugar coat it.
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The interviewer is brilliant in ensuring the expert keeps talking and sharing valuable information.
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I was married 20 years...never talked about sex...are issues surrounding it. My husband cheated and I found out he was very capable of having sex and a lot of it.
We divorced. I have had the best conversations with my partners since. It is always discussed.
I refuse to settle for a sexless relationship anymore!!!
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Steven, your sense of humor, your questions, and your attitude are all so brilliant. Thank you for providing us with invaluable information.
I really loved this episode. I love Dr. Gurney’s open-mindedness about everything, I love how she approached these subjects and she was extremely real. She doesn’t care if people disagree with her truth, even if it triggers people, and I loved that the most about her. Very insightful and helpful. Thank you 🙏
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