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DISCLAIMER: This video is meant for educational purposes only. This video is not a substitute for professional advice, but for general guidance.
Want to learn more about toxic parents, check out this video: Ā Ā Ā ā¢Ā 7Ā SignsĀ YouĀ HaveĀ ToxicĀ ParentsĀ -Ā PartĀ 1Ā Ā
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References:
Dunham, S. M., Dermer, S. B., & Carlson, J. (2012). Poisonous Parenting: Toxic Relationships Between Parents and Their Adult Children. Journal of Family Psychology. Routledge, 2012.
Jurkovic, G. J. (1998). Destructive parentification in families: Causes and consequences.
Levine, M. (2006). The price of privilege: How parental pressure and material advantage are creating a generation of disconnected and unhappy kids. HarperCollins Publishers.
Strayer, J., & Roberts, W. (2004). Childrenās anger, emotional expressiveness, and empathy: Relations with parentsā empathy, emotional expressiveness, and parenting practices. Social development, 13(2), 229-254.
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
The worst part about growing up and living with a toxic parent, is internally battling with the fact that you naturally love this person BECAUSE they are your parent, but also battling with hating them at the same time at times for their cruelty...
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I started crying throughout the video from how much this is too similar to my family. Apart from me, I hope everyone who goes through the same situation gets through it. I love you all here
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One thing Iāve learned about toxic parenting is never opening up to my own parents. I recently did, and my trauma was belittled and invalidated by targeted response. Nothing I said mattered, and Iāll truthfully never open up to them again after this incident.
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TOXIC PARENTS EFFECT EVERYTHING AND HURTS YOU SO MUCH IT MAKES YOU SICK TO BE AROUND THEM šÆ
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"Finding signs of a toxic parent: watch the personality of the child." - Oogway Master
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Recently Iāve started noticing signs of psychological abuse from my mother. I was discussing her negativity with my father and she was psychologically abusive to him as well. Turns out when I was younger I almost drowned in a pool and my mom called my dad an idiot for diving in and saving me. Most of the time I feel angry at my mother but whenever she even shows the slightest bit of kindness I feel extremely guilty for all my angry thoughts about her. I honestly donāt know how I feel about her anymore.
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Things I never heard my mother say in my 43 years on this planet: "Yes, you're right", "I believe you can do it" or "Well done, nice job". Oh, and "I love you", of course.
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My parents were extremely overprotective of me. For 18 years, they did not let me go and hang out with friends or socialize at any event or party. They thought that I would either be spoilt or waste my time. They said the family is a true BFF (like in this video). They thought that they were doing this for my good, but actually, it only instilled so much fear and anxiety in my brain. Now that I am going to college, I can finally have some freedom from them and be happy.
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I wish I could give a warm hug to everyone who has toxic parents š
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Honestly, you can get rid of toxic friends but its soo difficult to live in a toxic household.
Waiting for the day I'll be financially independent enough to leave them and start a new life.
No outsider has had a role in effecting my mental health as much as my own parents.
From physical abuse to using me as a pawn because they have a hard time with each to making me feel like I owe them my life because they feed me, they have done everything because I was helpless and young.
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The abuse, stops once we all take action.
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Last year, I didn't attend school for 3 days and wanted 1 more day off , but my parents became so furious that they started kicking, Punching,slamming and my mother literally poured 1L diesel on me and lit it up, it was thanks to God I was able to break the window and jumped out from my room and rubbed my myself in the vacant place next to our house
that day i got to know that the exact meaning of thd the quote "every child deserves a parent but not every parent deserves a child"
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For all those struggling with toxic parents, stay strong. Sending hugs for everyone.
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One thing I notice toxic parents do is that they break down your confidence whenever you start something new. This happened to me when I was in 5th grade and I wanted to learn to ballet so bad. My dance teacher told me I could attend her dance tuition for a week to get an idea of how things work there. I went home and did some steps in front of my parents and they were like "You don't have flexible hips. Dancing shouldn't be forced so it'll just be a waste of money even if we enroll you into it." THERE they broke my confidence and till date I'm insecure abt dancing in parties and even around my frnds. Pls don't tell anyone they aren't good at something when they start an initiative. Parents need to be a factor of motivation for their kids but sometimes they end up doing the opposite. š
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I am a mother of two (8yo boy and 6yo girl) and this video helped me realise my errors. I love my kids, I do my best and I'm doing fine for the most part.. Unfortunately I deal with depression and mood swings, so I must be very cautious not to overburden or parentify them. Thanks for creating valuable content!
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As someone who can kinda relate to some of these, this hit me hard. After COVID started, I became an introvert. I preferred to talk to people on the internet rather than my real friends. One day my parents asked if I wanted to hang out with a āfriendā who was bullying me and I said no. I said I found it easier to talk to people and be myself online. They said that being an introvert is bad and being an extrovert is good. Honestly, I cried myself to sleep that night.
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Living in a Hispanic household, trust me, will always be toxic. š but to be honest, one thing Iāve learned, personally, is that though my parents are toxicā¦they never had the education that we now have. They never were guided to be parents or knew how to be better for us. They dealt with us with their best ability (Iām talking about certain parents, not all). In the Hispanic household, weāre easily shown ātough love.ā But itās because that how they dealt with everything. So they believe theyāre doing whatās right. Iām not justifying their actions, but also, understanding whatās behind them because they also are humans.. (:
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1) They are unsupportive and don't believe in you 0:35
2) They expect the worst from you 1:06
3) They pressure and overburden you 1:38
4) They make you the parent 2:10
5) They are emotionally dependent on you 2:47
6) They don't communicate with you 3:23
7) They use you as a pawn in their problems 4:06
Hope this helped!
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I accidentally slipped up and showed a tiny sign of my depression in front of my parents. My mom immediately yelled at me that people who do things like that are messed up. She said it as if me having depression would mean I have no worth in this world. I am currently the only person in the world who knows I have serious depression.
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@Psych2go
2 years ago
What's the worse thing(s) that your parents had said to you? Comment below.
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