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Jordan Peterson VS Cathy Newman Debate
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How To Shut Down Conversational Bullies
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Have you seen the Jordan Peterson and Cathy Newman debate?
See for yourself how he deals with it and give us your opinion in the comments!
We've all found ourselves in conversation and felt attacked like we started off talking about one thing and then the other person twisted our words and before we knew it, we lost our cool, lost respect in their eyes, and maybe even acted like a jerk. Now, I don't normally do the same person twice in a row but this interview between Cathy Newman and Jordan Peterson was just too interesting of an opportunity to discuss how you can handle someone who uses subtle conversational tricks to bully you into looking dumb. So in this video, you're gonna see firsthand some of the most common tricks that people might be using on you and you're also gonna learn how to reverse those so that you can walk out of a kind of aggressive situation having earned more respect than you had going in.
So first off, to stop a conversational bully, you have to realize what's going on before it's too late. Now, typically, a person will reveal their aggressive attitude early on with their tone of voice and their word choice. Check out the rest that we will show in this video and how Jordan Peterson tackles them.
1:49 Jordan Peterson deals with so-you're-saying trap
2:39 Jordan Peterson deals with the "assuming the sale"
5:30 Jordan Peterson deals with the smash technique
7:08 But don't straw man the other person's ideas though
7:47 And visual imagery can also help
8:25 You can show them that they're already agreeing with you
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Jordan Peterson: âIâm an analyst and therapist.â
Cathy Newman: âso what youâre saying is youâre an Analrapist?â
Edit: I no longer care for Jordan Peterson.
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I'm retired now. Workplace cultures can be very argumentative. I stumbled upon a book called The Gentle Art Of Verbal Self Defense. I read it and tried it. It worked so well that I lived by it. When I realized I was mastering the content, my stress level plummeted.
Kudos for your skills!
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Ten years ago, my office area had an older boss who had anger issues and was very manipulative, but on Fridayâs he would walk by us and ask why we were still around at 3pm. I think he was aware of his short-comings and he tried to make up for them by letting us go early on Fridays. I read two book by a clinical psychologist that helped me to understand him and he never bothered me again emotionally after I read the book because I learned how to deal with him. The books are called âIn Sheepâs Clothingâ and âCharacter Disturbancesâ, by George Simon. Those books also help me these days with manipulative types, and instead of becoming angry, I deal with them professionally and grounded.
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YouTube: How to avoid embarassing yourself in an argument
"so you are saying that i embarrass myself in every argument??"
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Peterson: âWhat a clear, sunny day.â
Newman: âSo youâre saying clouds have no right to be here?â
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00:47 - Realise whats going on before its too late
1:54 the "so you're saying" trap
2:52 assuming the sale
5:35 Smash technique
7:12 Do not strawman the other persons ideas
7:44 Make sure the other person can understand you after you have understood their viewpoint or idea
8:40 Show them that they are already agreeing with you
10:37 Adress the emotional concern
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"Ha! Gotcha!" was perfect. It brought an air of levity to the stifling moment of Kathy's stuporous stammer. After enduring her hostility throughout the interview, it was fitting for Jordan to gracefully hold her at the tip of his skilful sword.
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"Sure is nice out today."
"So you're denying climate change?"
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Jordan: "I like dogs"
Kathy: "So you're saying that you hate cats?"
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I really clapped for Jordan at the end pointing out how Katie has been questioning him, being aggressive, offensive and putting words in his mouth and how that shows her disagreeable position against him and that is exactly freedom of speech which he is all about. Good for Jordan!!! You proved she was doing what she is supposed to be against.
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Personally, I really appreciate you for taking the time to analyze a discussion and then pass it on so others might learn something from it. I know I certainly did. I have been a big JP fan for a long time because of his ability to truly listen to what the other person is saying and at the same time, dissecting their words and phrases to spot any sort of attempts to lure him into responding with something he doesn't want to say or something he doesn't agree with. He is truly one of the greatest minds of the modern age.
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Peterson: âgotchaâ
Newman: âso youâre saying that you now own me.â
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Jordan: breathes
Interviewer: So you're disrespecting dead people
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That Gotcha moment was a turning point for so many people.
Whilst you could argue it wasn't the most constructive thing to do, in terms of exposing the combative and self-righteous media for the bullies they've become, or perhaps were all along, it was very much needed.
Of course... we might be living in a very different world if Dr. Peterson had then spent the next 20 minutes winning over Newman. Seeing one of their own turned on such a visible scale might have brought a lot of people back from the barricades.
But then again, maybe it wouldn't have had the exposure it did without the Gotcha moment.
Who knows. Lets go play some games.
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TOTALLY agree with the relaxed posture. I once asked for a meeting with a priest who attacked me in an email, I don't know who taught him it was okay to address anyone that way, but it was ridiculous. Got to the meeting to find he had planned an attempted "gotcha" for me with the Vicar General and deacon. God bless and help them all. I can't do it naturally, but I was 35 weeks pregnant at the time in a high-risk pregnancy, and the Holy Spirit apparently decided enough was enough - because I spent the entire hour unconcerned, leaning back in my chair, sometimes with my hands behind my head, totally relaxed, even while this dude was repeatedly jumping out of his chair and yelling at me. He was absolutely stymied and his "gotcha" failed miserably. Keep your body relaxed. Out of control bullies just don't know what to do with it!
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Bad idea to play mind games with a psychology professor.
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Jordan: I.....
Cathy: So you're saying you're the only one?
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You can't reason with people that hate you.
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The key to being aggressive is appearing passive all the time. Just like telling a lie all the time no one will believe you when you tell the truth. Same with aggression if you're angry all the time people usually know you're a coward that is afraid. That's why the silent ones are the deadliest
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@wieb72
3 years ago
I love the statement someone made years ago. "People don't want to hear your opinion. They want their opinion to come out of your mouth."
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