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How did having children impact YOUR sex life, if at all? Comment below!
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
your honesty and transparency about motherhood is so so refreshing and helpful to me, thank you Melanie ❤
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So relatable! After two kids and breastfeeding, I always felt so touched out. So constantly needed and pulled at. My body was wrecked and no longer sexual just a means to support two humans. It's probably the biggest issue for my husband and I in our marriage. He wants it all the time and I am in a whole other place physically and mentally. Thank you for being so honest 💚. It would also be interesting to hear Thomas' perspective on how you feel and some of these topics as a couple!
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My sex drive was low in postpartum and it was hard to find the time but now our kids are 9 and 6 and our sex-life is thriving, has been since baby number 2 was over the age of 2 and a haif I'd say. It's in some ways better than before. ❤ And we discovered a new freedom after his vasectomy. This stage is so hard, but your libido and all the fun will come back. 💖
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this video is so validating even though I have 0 kids haha, my libido definitely has its ups and downs (mostly downs) and while I know that it's normal and fine, I often feel like there is something wrong with my relationship like we have lost our "spark". We are still very much in love and spend as much time as possible together and we do a lot of physical touch, we just tend not to have sex or any sort of sexual intimacy as often as before. I know that this doesn't mean there's anything wrong with my relationship but I feel like I need to keep getting told it by different people in order for me to actually understand it
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I don't have kids but part of my hesitations to have them one day is sex. I feel like we've been engrained this idea that if we don't provide sex enough to our partner's they will cheat or leave and for some reason this is one of the societal messages that has stuck with me the most.
My partner doesn't pressure me (maybe a pout if it's been a long while at most) but when I'm having low libido phases I feel so so guilty and as if I'm not worthy. And the guilt of not having sex with him makes me want sex even less. It's not always like this but it comes and goes. I just feel like having kids would make me miserable and feel like a sexless maternal figure and that would push my partner away.
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I LOVE videos like this because they help me with manage my expectations for motherhood one day. I've a bit of fear surrounding staying connected after birth because it's such a big change, but hearing you talk about your experience makes it seem so manageable and doable and actually fun in between the exhaustion. Thank you for your transparency and for remaining accessible to those of us who aren't in the same stage of life as you yet 💚💚💚
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The joke about sitting on a co-sleeper’s couch 😂😂😂
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I love those real honest and long chatty videos of yours. Been watching you through so many different phases of my life and you always manage to make me feel calm and at home (even if I'm not). Thank you 💚
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Love a chatty get ready with me! I don’t have kids myself (we’re undecided on them) but I’m glued to all your videos 😂
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Thank you for this video.
Although I am not a mother, and haven’t been through child birth.
I am chronically ill, disabled. So also feel disconnected from my body and that’s it a battle ground.
Hearing your experience of now being in your head and finding sex harder to connect too, i can really relate to that.
I’ve also noticed sensitivity changes after medical trauma.
Basically I just want to say thank you for talking about this.
I am grateful for how you communicate and share things. You have helped me find the language to describe what has happened to my body. xxx
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I enjoyed this video so much I wanted to like it multiple times. I'm 4,5 months postpartum and I feel less alone now, thank your Melanie !
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Thank you for this video, Melanie! ❤️ Could you do a video on things you wish you knew/should have done/appreciated before having kids? And maybe one after kids too?
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So relatable as a mom of two who breastfed for 3 years. Thanks for being so honest ❤
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This transparency is so refreshing Mel!
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Thank you so much for sharing all pf this Melanie...I know you have helped many people by sharing this. 💚
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Love these insights 💚 And thank you for sharing and your vulnerability, even with body positivity stuff. I think it's wonderful that despite that, you seem so fulfilled by everything else in your life right now. But I hope that it's something you can continue to work towards having more health there 💪🏽💚
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love love love this video! thank you for your honesty!
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Thank you this has helped me sooooooooooo much, like you could not imagine!!! I’m so glad to know that „others feel the same“! Thank you ❤
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you are so brave, Melanie, talking about this
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1 year ago
Justice for real talks like these! Even though YouTube doesn’t like it we definitely do!! ❤🔥
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