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Genre: Education
Date of upload: Nov 18, 2022 ^^
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My narc sibling yelled at me in public, when I said I would be late for beating a project deadline and for cooking food for our elderly dad. She brought it up years later hoping to defend her anger. So I told her she could say she couldn't wait for me any longer so she'd go ahead, but she chose to make a scene and humiliate me in public telling me I have no respect for other people's time. The yelling, the rage, the cussing, the door/objects slamming, etc. are just not normal to me. And I'm glad to know they're not normal or even acceptable to anyone either. So many years have passed of enduring them all. Time for recovery and healing . . .
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I was in line at a grocery store where a self important woman got into the 10 item or less line. The cashier politely told her that she wouldn't be able to ring up the sale and she needed to go to another line. The woman went ahead and started off loading her groceries on the counter belt. The cashier came around and put the groceries back in the cart and retold the woman for the umpteenth time that she had to find another lane to use. We all commended the cashier who told us that the manager authorized her to do it because people in a hurry had spoken with him about having to wait behind the ones lacking common courtesy.😊
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Low self-aware people usually don't agree their behavior even IS a problem. For example, if they've always been rude to servers, it's because they think servers inherently don't deserve to be treated with respect. If you tell them to be nice to servers, they think something's wrong with you: "why would you be nice to someone who's supposed to SERVE you?"
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I am hyper self aware of my intermittent self awareness. It's exhausting!! And when I get tired my self awareness gets very low.
Maybe is because I'm a bit autistic and I am always trying not to be mocked or pointed out for my unusual behavior. I notice things faster than others, and sometimes I am too blunt in my way of speaking. When the hyper self awareness works it's great, but when I'm being awkward a lot of people react strongly at me, and it takes time to realize why they are treating me poorly or even violently. If I cannot hide I often blow out. I hate it.
This video is perfect for me, thanks Dr Ramani and Kyle!!
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I get overwhelmed and stressed easy but I try very hard to be conscientious of how I treat others. (I’ve broken up with friends who are rude to restaurant servers)
I’m an introvert, diagnosed with anxiety and ADHD, and have a lack of breaking in the prefrontal cortex. Yes I’m very prone to being reactive.
However I’m still highly sensitive and extremely self aware.
My point is that I still think it is a stretch, in a chaotic society, to assume people reacting to intense environments is abnormal.
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"Hangry." My ex would get hungry, and she would use that as justification to be nasty to people. I went as far as to put snack bars in her purse, so that as soon as she left the office she can eat something, so on her 15 minute ride, she would have enough time to settle down. Nope. Guess that was too hard. Divorce must have been easier than having a snack after work.
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Great info. I think a person who was overly held back for their whole life in terms of being allowed to exist and be heard by their family unit etc would maybe have a temporary time being disregulated because of the massive self control they endured putting everyone else ahead of them for years. So maybe it's not their whole personality it's just a moment of development being 'inappropriate' or 'impulsive' as a 'grown adult's' simply because they never experienced actually expressing themselves before so it's somewhat todler-ish but maybe that's a needed thing for a person and they should have experienced it earlier in life but didn't due to a non-supportive growing environment. So maybe it's just not the entire person it's a phase of development. Thanks you guys. I love learning more about psychology. Happy Friday.
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@QueenofArgyle2525
1 year ago
It’s a fine balance between considerate of others and a door mat. An eternal struggle .
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