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Genre: Education
Date of upload: May 17, 2023 ^^
Rating : 5 (0/88 LTDR)
RYD date created : 2023-05-18T11:41:57.463454Z
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One of the most valuable things my counselor has taught me is that when you are flooded with emotion, thereās only one thing that can help, and thatās feeling less alone. Facts donāt help, comparing to others doesnāt, neglect doesnāt, cheerleading doesnāt, you need someone to sit there in the grief or anger or sadness with you and say āI see you. I hear you. You are not alone, Iām here and I care.ā
It sounds simple, but itās so hard to train our brains not to problem solve - Iām an engineer, itās what I do! Plus emotion makes others uncomfortable, and we know that and we donāt want to impose. But the person who will suck up that awkward and sit in the emotion with you? That person is the real deal. And maybe we can all try to be that person.
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LOVED the part about DOING. When I was struggling with my mental health and in a very scary and dark place, my parents stayed with me for three weeks. During that time, my dad bought me a a working vacuum (hadnāt vacuumed my apartment in a year and a half) and vacuumed my space; ordered me cable, bought me groceries and my mom cooked a bunch of meals for me and put them in the freezer.
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The worst is the people who tell you about the mother or father or brother they lost 10 or 20 years ago. It was my time to grieve my loved one. What are you supposed to say to somebody particularly when they start crying when they're talking about their loss. I can't tell you how often that happened. I know people mean well and want to connect but they have no idea how they're adding to your burden
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@vlrissolo
11 months ago
Kyle I couldn't agree with you more about people who just "DO." My brother and father died within two days of one another. They were the closest people in my life. My friend that I hadn't seen in at least 15 years drove down from New Jersey to North Carolina and stayed with me for a while no strings, just support. She left her family and her work to help me through. That was the biggest gift anyone could has ever given me. I've known her for 30 plus years but we didn't see much of one another after she left NC and moved away, although we kept in contact pretty regularly. I never realized the incredible woman she'd grown to be. Her support was above and beyond... I am so fortunate to have this person as a friend and remain grateful.
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