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Top Comments of this video!! :3
1. Lies
2. Pretending to be doing better than we are
3. Pretending to be worse than we are
4. âThis is working greatâ when itâs not
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Kati mentioned this, but I'd like to emphasize: While you should avoid lying, that doesn't mean you are obligated to tell the truth. Saying "I'm not comfortable talking about that right now," is completely valid and a good therapist should respect that. If the person you're working with continues to pressure you, it's time to consider if they might be doing more harm than help. You do not owe anybody your thoughts if it feels unsafe to share them. That's a boundary that should apply to all relationships, including therapeutic ones. Your safety needs to come first.
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I foolishly said I had suicidal thoughts although I never intended on acting them out, and next thing I know was in hand cuffs and in a psych ward with people 100x crazier than me. No windows, no communication with the outside world, no access to bathrooms (without asking for permission). It was horrifying and traumatic.
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When I suddenly lost my 31 year old best friend during the pandemic I started therapy because I thought I wouldn't be able to handle it. I started having suicidal thoughts at some point, and I told my therapist about it. At the time she told me if I ever had those thoughts I could call her at any time, and she started seeing me more often, like twice a week, just to check up on me. She would give me little assignments that helped me avoid those thoughts. It helped me a lot to have her support at that moment and telling her the truth about what I was going through. I really think I wouldn't be here if I didn't tell her right away when I first had those thoughts.
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My closest friend was forced into a mental hospital after expressing thoughts of self harm. She'd never actually harmed herself, and still never has, but that experience traumatised her, and 20 years later, it still affects her. She'll never trust a therapist again and I don't blame her.
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I went to a therapist and she told EVERYTHING we talked about to my mom. I got yelled at by her every day because of that, and my mental state got incredibly worse and I had to be hospitalised.
(Edit: im a minor, so i cant actually do anything about it.)
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Don't tell your psychiatrist you are suicidal unless you feel like being detained and taken to a hospital. That has happened to me every time I said something to them. It only made things worse for me. I don't like being locked up against my will.
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A couple of weeks after my mom died, my dad's side of the family wanted me and my siblings to see a therapist for any issue that may have happened. When it was my turn, the therapist went over this "confidentiality" thing that nothing I say goes out the room and that I'm free to voice out what I felt in the past weeks. So, being the innocent and trusting 18 y.o. me, I explained that the most notable thing I felt was nothing; no sadness, anger, grief, just as if it was any other boring day. I wanted her to explain and she said it might just be a coping mechanism and I'll be fine, then sent me off. A few hours after our therapy I noticed that my dad's side was suddenly more...weirdly attentive to just me and one of my siblings. It only took less than a minute to deduce that my therapist sang my story to them. Sheesh if you're gonna say some touchy info out, say it to me so at least I'd have some control. I still remember fuming out for a solid minute on my own before deciding to grill the next therapist I ever encounter on their "cOnFiDenTiALiTy".
fml, people just don't honor their word these days.
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"Remember, therapy isn't the place for judgement or blame". True, but shame is still a powerful emotion and it doesn't care that you're in therapy. The lies I've told my therapist were mainly to myself.
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I told my therapist as a 17 year old that I had previously attempted suicide (2 years prior) but had no urge to do so in the present time. She told my parents and told me that if I was continuing to see her, she would also notify my (incredibly strict) boarding school administration (which I denied consent to do). Learned so quickly to always ask how therapists deal with self harm and suicide histories, even if theyâre not current. It was traumatizing to have my trust violated like that and then be immediately discarded due to my boundaries. I wish more therapists were better trained and like you.
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If you are relying on someone (most likely your parents when you are under 18), just be aware that if you say you are suicidal or are being abused/have been abused, your parents will probably hear about it. It does not matter whether you have clearly told the therapist that your parents are your abuser or not, they will still tell them everything. In my experience, my abuse worsened when they found out I had said that my mother had beat me and emotionally abused me. Additionally some therapists will judge you, lie about you or mock you. Therapy is worth getting because realistically you will need help but be aware that there are some messed up power dynamics youâll have to navigate and as a child your boundaries will be pushed a lot. If something feels wrong to you, trust yourself because you are the only person you can trust to truly advocate for yourself.
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From personal experience: don't talk about having suicidal thoughts. One of the most traumatic, unpleasant event in my life was getting sent to a psychiatric hospital. The staff threatened me, I slept in a room with graffiti all over the walls, no privacy and no going outside for any reason. The food sucked and there were kids there much worse than me. All in all, I never want to go to therapy again because of that, and bowed to just actually go through with a suicide instead of going to one of those hospitals again. Believe me. Its terrible.
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I was in therapy for 7 years with a therapist 4 years younger than me who I never regarded as a very "good" therapist, but I liked her as a person and felt safe and comfortable opening up to her. I felt good just from having her talk to, but I had goals I wanted to achieve with the help of a therapist, and she was doing nothing. There was literally no therapy. The few times that I tried to call her attention to that fact she would cry and when I asked "why are you crying" she said "I feel attacked". Other times, if I told a story that made me feel sad, she'd offer me a hug. I had no idea at the time that she was constantly violating my boundaries and was basically incompetent and very unprofessional. Finally, I started taking Intuniv for ADHD and it quite literally "woke me up". When I expressed my new awareness the lack of therapy she tried to rationalize it by saying it's because "we're like friends". One week later she denied ever having used the word "friend" and tried to gaslight me by saying I was "misremembering" what she had said. Skipping past all the other crazy things she said, the next thing I knew I got a call from her supervisor claiming that I had abused my therapist and would never see or talk to her again...I was being discarded...and then she discharged me to prevent me from getting another therapist in that organization. That was about 14 months ago and I now have PTSD as a result. I can no longer take the ADHD meds that were like a miracle for me except that they also helped me to finally see the reality of an abusive "therapeutic" relationship and it was that "clarity" and self-expression that caused my therapist and her supervisor to traumatize me. I don't know why I'm writing this but I just needed to. I know my experience is probably quite rare and unique but...I love your videos and at the same time as I listen to you I feel this pressured wish to tell you there are things you don't know...not every therapist is "you"...I just trusted the idea of my therapist being "professional" and it turned out to be the worst mistake of my life. Sorry for writing book here...
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I love that you said hospitalization is a last resort for you. A couple years ago, I told my therapist I was self harming and I was sent to a hospital for about a week, the same night I said that to her. Looking back, it didnât help at all. Whatâs worse is that most of the people there were struggling more than me and felt the same way. Some of them had been in jail and said the hospital was worse than that. Thereâs definitely something wrong with the way most mental hospitals are ran.
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I'm glad you said hospitals aren't therapeutic. They are absolutely awful. It's a very punitive experience for anyone suffering enough to be suicidal. It says something about how sick our society is that we send those who are suffering the most to the hell that is forced hospitalization. That's why some countries like those in Scandanavia are investigating removing or minimizing any forced hospitalization except where it is absolutely protective such as someone in a manic phase clearly creating long term horrors for himself.
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I was sent to a therapist as a child. When I mentioned an incident of abuse where my step mother threw my little brother down the stairs and then was kicking him in the face, she called me a liar, called my parents in and forced me to accuse them to their face. Of course, I got the shit beat out of me when I got home. I wouldnât talk to anyone like that if you held a gun on me. Sorry, you seem like a nice person but I could never take that chance
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2nd topic: I have found that during therapy sessions if I haven't brought notes I will more or less forget every issue I've been having. I will actually think I'm doing better than I am and then slide back once the session is over. I think for me it has to do with BPD and my rapidly changing moods. I don't purposely hide how things are. I wonder how many others relate.
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I've been masking my feelings for so long that I always say I'm doing well even though I honestly don't know how I feel.
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I've had several situations where professionals disregarded ethics and either were abusive, unethical ...one even suggested they would like to fulfil their fantasy with me. I avoided receiving any kind of treatment for years because of broken trust and now am having to deal with health issues that require treatment. I'm trying, once again, to approach this with an open mind by talking with my new doctor, who so far has checked all the ethical boxes and being supportive, and new therapist after many years without - still kind of getting to know her. It's damm hard work building trust when some in the system have been abusive.
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Watch THIS before you start therapy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mtnOE6dxsuo&t=4s
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