@MyVlogTherapy

1 week ago

5:26 vulnerability. Sometimes ppl think they are practicing vulnerability when if someone asked them if they’d be open to feedback about themselves they would shutter at that. Because they don’t want to feel vulnerable or aware of themselves. 7:14 instead of being aware of raising a real relationship is so much more interesting and fulfilling. 8:14 people who aren’t emotionally mature think peaceful is boring. When ppl perceive passion and ups and downs, always exciting and unpredictable as a good relationship, but this is lack of maturity in relationships. 10:41 A peace that isn’t by any means boring because you feel at home. You feel This person gets me. And how they deal with that conversation and how they deal with it. 32:42 if you ignore your real needs you won’t feel safe you don’t feel acknowledged your needs aren’t being met they don’t provide empathy, you don’t feel settled. 38:00 egoic unhealthy standards because a lack of personal compassion 49:09 it’s more important how someone thinks then what they think. Now i crave it in look forward to it not being able to have healthy conversations is a turn off to me not when it just stays surface and there’s no working through anything. I now know how someone deals with challenging conversations. Or if they can’t have them at all. You see how they deal with the conversation itself, bc you should need that. Someone who can acknowledge things can’t grow, they can’t aviniéndote how you feel or how their behaviors affected you, that’s a key component of narcissism. Not being able to acknowledge or take ownership of their behavior not taking steps to correcting their before you’ve brought forward. Not being able to empathize with what you bring up. Another area people think they are simplifying life, avoidance when they avoid conversations. But they really make their life more complicated. 47:35 Having a conversation about why a person does something is more important than what they do 56:46 create your own culture because most people have gotten into a passive state with relationships. Just like in business, what’s the culture I want to create, instead of passively letting things happen. 1:16:18 The rat experiment 🐀 of choosing pain, choosing to go through it, vs begrudgingly being forced to do it. Choosing it shows positive markers of learning and growing, not choosing it shows all the negative markers of stress. We have choice and it has its benefits. Anyone who don’t choose you cannot be for you, because they don’t see you. They shouldn’t be desirable for you if they aren’t choosing you

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