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“The idea of trying to avoid love sounds paradoxical in the extreme: why would anyone take steps to deny themselves an experience which seems so plainly positive and life enhancing? Plenty of people are denied love by external forces; why would anyone take active measures to sabotage love if it lay before them?”
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
“opening myself to someone is like handing over a bow and arrow and teaching them where it hurts the most”
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We want love, but we don't wanna be vulnerable (and that's the paradox, because love and vulnerability go hand in hand).
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Am I the only one who had to keep going back 20 seconds cause I get lost in thought, drawing parallels from what I'm hearing 💀🤷🏽♂️ if yes, here's a hug for you 🫂
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‘’Once in a lifetime, a person is extremely impulsive, but then he becomes cold towards everything forever.”
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“Though we all crave love in theory, our capacity to accept it in practice depends on the quality of our early emotional experiences.”
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“We accept the love we think we deserve.”
-Stephen Chbosky
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My favorite part was the last one: we terrified that we finally will be able to be with someone that could makes us happy in a relationship something that is unnatural and frightening. Something we never had the experience of.
And I strongly believe this is not only in romantic relationships but in any relationship we have.
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It's terrible. Feeling the pain when someone comes close enough, that you either push them away or you yourself get away from them, never getting what we truly want.
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The phobia towards love comes from the fear of rejection.
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I want love, I get love, I feel trapped, I push them away. It’s a cycle, I feel so horrible
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I'm cracking up at that character brushing his hair while been actually bald. 😂
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As an emphatic person who has been belittled by many people i stay away from people who i think that can do harm to me, i love my isolation from the outside world.
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Cool, so because I was ignored and left super alone as a child, I now must live my entire life alone, but more in a "I don't deserve love" preemption kinda way than self sabotage
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39 years after, with lots of inner work and resilience, the narrative changes
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in case anyone is wondering, this video describes the "dismissive avoidant" attachment style.
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You described an avoidant is 6 min. As a fearful avoidant I feel seen. Thank you ❤❤❤
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The 1st girl who said she loved me/had crush on me i still remember asking her "why?" Why do you love me? I was 16
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I had a crush on this guy. I flirted and he flirted back. Yet no matter how often he would sit with me or find me to talk to me, he would never ask me out. Weeks turned into months which turned into half a year, no change. Until finally I was asked out by someone else.
I reluctantly gave up on my crush. But I still feel bad for him sometimes. He was shy and could never find the courage. But when you find the strength to pursue a relationship even when it's scary, that alone stands as good evidence that you are ready for one. I hope he finds someone else and the courage.
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A soldier guides a penguin across the desert to reunite the penguin with his true love, and along this treacherous
journey, the penguin asks the soldier "Why do you risk your life guiding others to their hearts desire? Don't you wish you
had someone waiting for you on the other side of the desert?" The soldier stops to think about it for a few seconds, but he
just says no. Once they reach their destination, the penguin thanks the soldier and shares an observation. He tells
the soldier, "You fight so bravely because you have nothing, and you actually want nothing because if you had something
or someone to love, then you would have something to lose, and your heart would no longer be made of steel."
The point of the story- You can spend a lifetime hiding from yourself what you really want most, what you truly need most.
Love, love is what people need the most. Every thought pondered, every word spoken, and every action taken
is done out of love, or a calling out for love.
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@AccidentlyHero
1 month ago
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi
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