Views : 25,416
Genre: Music
Date of upload: Mar 22, 2023 ^^
Rating : 4.914 (73/3,312 LTDR)
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I am 62 and my 20's was the worst decade of my life. Not until my 30s did things settle down and life has only gotten better since. I guess all you can do for now is enjoy the roller coaster. One concrete suggestion I can make is to read Tao Te Ching by Lao Tsu. If you haven't already. Beautiful poetry. May get you out of what if thinking. Also watch Back to the Future: the future is yet to be written.
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I loved this video. Iām 20 and feel like I have no real direction in life. This year I did find a major that I resonate with and Iām excited for my future for once in my life. But I still feel like a child in an adult world and have no clue what to do. But itās always nice to hear others are relating
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maia, are we the same person?? this honestly comforts me so much and I feel less alone. ive looked up to you for so many years now (you've been my inspiration on so many aspects of my life, and have remained my favorite artist throughout) and I want you to know that you are SO STRONG for putting up with life and all the bs that comes with it. seriously ily
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9:36 itās crazy because I was going to comment that you (as well as other artists like Conan Gray, dodie, etc) are one of the people that I would look up to thinking: āman I really dig their style and they seem to have their own musical style I wish I had thatā. Iām 25 (turning 26 this year oof) and I went to university. Even though I am grateful for the experience, I still canāt help feeling like Iām āfalling behindā when I am still in the process to release my first produced song in my late twenties, compared to other artists like you that have made music and established themselves younger. It weirdly reassuring to see that you were yearning for things that I have taken for granted like going to college, almost echoing it in a way I yearned for your experiences in your music career (the grass is truly greener on the other side lmaao). Thank you for opening up and making this video! :ā)
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As much as being in your 20s can suck sometimes, I'm still getting really scared about the fact that those years are rapidly approaching their end. I'm turning 27 in less than a month, and I feel overwhelmed by this sense that there are a bunch of big things that I need to have done by now, but I haven't... and what's more, I don't even know how to figure out what those things are, so that I can do them. I feel like I'm supposed to have more of an idea of who I am, but I feel more confused than when I started my 20s.
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Hey, you're definitely not alone. I'm not in my 20s just yet, but I will be in May. I'm struggling a lot with mental health and not knowing what I want to do in life. I'm failing college lol. Just working a retail job and being confused. I know I want to do something in the arts but I have no motivation whatsoever for pursuing it, and I feel like it's too late to start now and there would be no point because so many better people are already doing it. I've always thought that artists and musicians had it all figured out, and that they were living their dreams, but I guess that's not true for all of them. While it is sad, finding out that i'm not alone, and even some of the people who are where I want to be are also struggling with this feeling is oddly comforting. But now i'm afraid that if I manage to pursue and succeed in the arts, this feeling won't go away after all. Sorry if this was a weird comment.
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this video brought me so much comfort and love for maia. iām only a teenager thatās nearing the end of high school and iāve been comparing myself to others all my life, thinking i was never good enough to be on their level of success and confidence. college seems so scary due to the fact that i donāt want to make the wrong choice. making this essentially life long decision at a young age is so scary. iāve always felt that pressure of needing to know what i want to do in life from adults. iām so glad you posted this video because it will definitely help tons of others relate to this exact situation regardless of their age
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thank you so much for making a video about this, it feels like this video speaks to me and is perfect for me right now and my current situation. I've been terrified about turning 20 for a long time now, so seeing a video like this right now (especially since I just turned 20 on Sunday) is very relatable and comforting for me. I hope we can all figure things out soon and that our lives can eventually fall more into place for us, it all really sucks but I'm glad we at least aren't fully alone in these feelings/ what we're going through. sending virtual hugs to whoever needs it, I hope things get better for you soonš«šš
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You are definitely not alone in feeling this way. I felt that way in my 20s and over the years the questioning of your life and your future doesn't go away, but the kinds of questions you ask yourself change. It can get heavier but as you discover more about yourself and how you see yourself fitting into your environment you get better at figuring out which way to go next and then put one foot in front of the other. Finding moments of happiness and holding onto them is really important. So is meditation, or simply taking the time to be still and centered. Aloha!
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Thank you for talking about this, I'm 23 and it was a relief to hear out some of my struggles on someone else's tongue, so know that you're not alone with this, I think 20s is a really volatile time for everyone because you've just passed teenage time which is even more volatile and you'll be like figuring out your life and what you really want. Maybe not going to college at least now is a good thing you know, I recently have been dealing with gf drama and I don't know if it's gonna work out anymore and college has been my main source of stress lately so most of the time I'm sad, overthinking, "What Ifs" and all.... Anyways I really loved that you talked about this, I hope you figure things out and keep being yourself, you're amazing! :D 3>
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thank you for voicing your concerns out, i found so much comfort in your words. i am 25, and i feel like iām old enough to know what iām doing with my life, but i feel no older than 18. the world feels like a place that doesnāt tolerate people who arenāt at the top of their game, and i feel the constant pressure of having to be on top of everything to be even relevant. my friends are busier than ever, everyone is moving ahead with their lives, and i just feel left behind, a misfit in this world.
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I really appreciate your genuine energy, being vulnerable and sharing your story. Being in your 20s... I remember my 20s and I remember I was a still a child. I'm coming to my 40s (now a dad). I think the most important thing is to continue to share your story (non-story is still A STORY). The biggest thing is, what you feel, the wasting, the pressure to be extraordinary, the envious feelings, what you're showing on YouTube (and geez, literally I stumbled upon you because I was playing Life is Strange: True Colors and finding your cast credit as the Alex's singing voice) is the most human thing ever. You're 22, you haven't had a typical life of a 22 year old. You aren't alone. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us stinkers.
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Thanks for sharing this Maia! I'm 30 and have had a start to 2023 with many similar thoughts, and I think maybe only this week I'm starting to get some clarity after perhaps the toughest few months I've had. One thing you deserve to compliment yourself on is that you're processing all of this now. I have only really just started trying to figure out what went wrong in my late teens and most of my 20s. The main way that I'm navigating my way through things is by practicing some more self-forgiveness, as the what ifs for me are always linked to what I've mistakenly seen as failure. Reading, learning, getting new viewpoints and trying new things is the other approach I'm trying to lean into. My world has recently felt like it's imploding because I've tried to control the uncontrollable, and I find my anxiety about my place in the world is lessened when I throw myself into it more.
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I'm only a few minutes in but I'm already tearing up because of how relatable this is. I'm turning 20 this year and I'm already having a hard time just being an adultšHow am I going to handle being in my 20s.. I appreciate how open you are about talking about mental health. It helps remind me I'm not alone and that it's okay to go at my own pace. But lately that's become harder because of society's expectations and how it seems like my friends are moving at a "faster" pace then I am. Some of them already have jobs or are about to get their associate degree and move to a university. It'll take me a few more semesters but I'm okay with that. This is a pace that works for me. But now I have this fear of being left behind. I don't really know how to end this comment so I'll just say, thank you Maia for posting this. Know that you're not alone. There are so many of us who also feel confused and lost.
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You're not alone. I really appreciate you making this video, because I can relate to so much. It makes me feel less alone!
Comparing yourself to others is SO EASY. Recent Olympics have gotten hard to watch, and I envy my Sims' careers!
I'm one year your senior, and if I've learned anything from third-wheeling with my mom and her friends, it's that we always have problems. The weight of something will always be there. We just get better at managing it and finding/making the good in life.
Being optimistic is hard and problems suck. And no matter how small, good things to look forward to help. Like, I feel directionless and ambitionless and I can do a little cross-stitch bird. I saw a squirrel dig up nuts in my dad's garden.
This made me remember a list I started recently on a bad day at like 2am titled "good things that happened in my 20s" and it's not much but it's still good things! "1) I like pie now! 2) Sewing! 3) Baking!" Things out of my control are happening but nobody can stop me from making bagels at 11pm. That last sentence started as me trying to wrap up my thoughts but ended as a plot
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@margoalex.
1 year ago
It feels like this video was made just for me. Iām 20 years old, about to turn 21 soon. I graduated high school in 2020 at the beginning of the pandemic and didnāt get a ceremony with all my friends. I never got to say goodbye to them and wish them well. Instead, I just watched thousands of people die from the isolation of my iPhone. Although I did eventually go to college and meet a ton of people, I find myself constantly fighting the urge to isolate myself in the corner of my dorm room, curled up with some squishmallows and YouTube video essays to drown out the rest of the world. Hell, even the jealousy over Olivia Rodrigo you mentioned resonates with me. I couldnāt look at her Instagram photos for months on end until I finally listened to her song ājealousy, jealousyā and realized that she could easily feel the same about me if we met each other. Itās pretty miserable and lonely out here for all of us but I find comfort in knowing Iām not the only one. So, thank you for that.
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