@artsyGH0ST

1 year ago

When people say “focus on the positive”, it is usually taken the wrong way. I used to think it meant to even stay positive, even when you feel like crying and locking yourself in your room the rest of the day. But what this really means is different. When you hear this, don’t pretend you feel fine, even when you’re not. Don’t pretend that everything is okay. Don’t pretend that somebody said something nice, even if it hurts you. This is very self damaging, and this is just bottling your emotions. When you bottle your emotions like this, it might feel okay at first, you might even cope with it, but everytime it wears down on you. And even if you feel fine, eventually it catches up to you. At one point, you’ll just blurt out everything, all the feelings you kept inside of you. The cap will come off, and you’ll just snap. So don’t let other people subconsciously hurt you by their own self damaging self coping mechanisms. And don’t share your self damaging self coping mechanisms, either. These words, “It’s okay”, “focus on the positive”, or everything will be fine”, etc, are not okay. If you don’t know how to comfort somebody or yourself, try these sentences instead: “Let it out.” “I’m here to listen to anything you have to say.” “I know how you feel.” “Right now is hard. But we can get through this together.” etc. Love you! Even though positive-toxic statements might feel fine at first, they have terrible results on your mental health. Even though it’s hard, keep yourself and others safe not just physically, but emotionally, too! You can do this. <3

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