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Stories help you make sense of your life -- but when these narratives are incomplete or misleading, they can keep you stuck instead of providing clarity. In an actionable talk, psychotherapist and advice columnist Lori Gottlieb shows how to break free from the stories you've been telling yourself by becoming your own editor and rewriting your narrative from a different point of view.
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My parents got divorced when I was in my middle school. The letters in the talk sound so familiar that when I was little, my dad and mom would tell me totally different versions of the same story, and their words confused me for many years. When I grow up, I realized that it's not about right or wrong. It's just people can only understand the world from their own perspectives, which are usually narrow. And my solution is to honestly express yourself to others, exchange your feelings, your views, or your emotions with your partner, so you can understand each other better. It is so important and useful. Hope everyone can live a happy life instead of being trapped like my parents many years ago
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My wife left me 3 months ago and I lost my job, home and my dog. I've never been happier finding myself. But I do miss my dog.
Good luck to everyone out there
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Just finished her book, "Maybe You Should Talk to Someone". It's, literally, the most 'AHA!" book I've ever read. The stories of her going through therapy and those of several clients lives are SO engrossing. I had to see who this woman is!
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We talk so much in our culture about getting to know ourselves, but part of getting to know yourself is to unknow yourself – to let go of the one version of the story you've been telling yourself, so that you can live your life and not the story that you've been telling yourself about your life. And that's how we walk around those bars
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This is a masterpiece of a Ted Talk. Easy to understand, short, concise and the prison bar analogy, perfect.
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"The next time you're struggling with something. Remember that we're all going to die .And then pull out your editing tools and ask yourself : what do i want my story to be ? And then go write your masterpiece . " Lori Gottlieb
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"if you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop digging."
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This is very powerful. Editing how you perceive the world and reshaping your responses can lead to deep and powerful changes. I’ve seen it. I’ve experienced it. An excellent TED talk!
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Damn. She’s just gave me a therapy session!
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“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.” – Abraham Lincoln
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I just finished reading her book “Maybe You Should Talk To Someone”. I absolutely loved it and it really opened my mind. Thank you so much, Lori.
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"To tell you the truth, I'm an unreliable witness of my own existence. So perhaps my autobiography should be dramatically re-edited by people who were actually there."
-Russell Brand
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It takes some skills to make people laugh, think, and inspire them in a short 15-minute talk!
I'm a transformation coach, I know how powerful rewriting your life script can be. When you rewrite your story your life will change, and soon you'll see a shift in the dynamics of your friendships, too. I agree with Lori, it can be scary, even if the changes are positive.
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This is mind blowing. One of the BEST talks and such a powerful message. In one of my classes at University, our professor asked us " What would you like the people at your funeral to say about you". Quite a few people said " Oh I would like them to say he/she was a great husband / wife, friend etc etc". Then one guy stood up and said" I would like them to say "Look he is still breathing"!!
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As a lifelong sufferer of PTSD from an early childhood event...I just paused at 7:33 (with tears) because casting off old misperceptions of rejection is like another rejection in and of itself. I have indeed been editing my story for several years now. I know what I want my story to be. You have just given me a window into a future that I can actually get to. No. More like an open door. Thanks.
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So good! Proverbs 23:7 "For as a man thinks in his heart, so is he"
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Excellent TED talk. Change your narrative. If you think you don't deserve more, you will always settle for the lesser versions of choices, things, people, jobs, etc. Such a process!
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"If the Queen had balls, she'd be a King!"
What a great line!
And, I couldn't agree more regarding the change; yes, we all want change but change of other character in our story. That's most of us!
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This lecture should be shown everywhere. It's the most incredible advice I have ever heard!
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@happynaturalist1793
4 years ago
Such a quotable talk! - We are all unreliable narrators of our own lives. - To tell a story is inescapably to take a moral stance. - Stories are the way we make sense of our lives. - The way we narrate our lives shapes what they become. - Change, even really positive change, involves a surprising amount of loss. - What would happen if you looked at your story and wrote it from another person’s point of view? - Life is about choosing which stories to listen to, and which ones need an edit. - There’s nothing more important to the quality of our lives than the stories we tell ourselves about them. What do you want your story to be? Go write your masterpiece!
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