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Audience questions:
1. How can people say you are your own victim? I have depression and low to null self-esteem …I am trying to make better through therapy and CBT/DBT practices etc. However, recently my friend told me that I am my own victim which I kind of get because of my self esteem issues but my depression is not a choice. It is not like I wake up every morning and say I am going to feel shitty about everything today. In CBT, we learn that you can only control your own behavior but what am I doing wrong to still feel depressed if I am following the so-called rule books and doing opposite action, thought questioning,etc and still feel depressed frequently? I am on medications, have attended outpatient therapy and go to therapy weekly for almost 2 years. So, how am I choosing to be depressed again? 01:33
2. I struggle with avoidant attachment. I’m struggling with feeling like my therapist doesn’t actually care about me and I have a push and pull urge to cancel all my appointments but also I want to increase my appointments. Does this mean she’s not a good match or how do I work through this with her? 10:23
3. How do we cope with being an extreme introvert, but also being very lonely. It's a constant battle and I feel like a walking contradiction! There are often times when I want to go out. And crave connection. Yet as soon as I start to socialize I feel exhausted. I'm socially anxious, which I know may be part of it, but to be clear, I'm talking about the times when I'm calm and comfortable... 15:40
4. I’m hoping for advice on helping ground a partner with extremely severe night terrors/panic attacks. My girlfriend has quite a lot of compounded trauma from past SA, DV, & past life threatening situations. Unfortunately she suffers from these ptsd-esque attacks multiple nights a week. When I mean severe I mean during them she seems to think she is back in old abusive situations, seeing me initially as a threat. She cries, sweats, hyperventilates and trembles, begs “no” and for “it” to stop. 24:21
5. What is the difference between complex PTSD and agoraphobia? Also in terms of treatment? For example going outside makes me anxious because I fear getting kidnapped or harmed in any way but also staying at home alone gives me anxiety because I fear that someone will break in. And I get panicky when I am in crowds but only if I don't see a way out. All in all, I feel paranoid because I "need" to look over my shoulder to make sure, no one is following and I really dread going back to uni. I'd rather stay at home. 32:43
6. Hi Kati, can you please talk about how it affects a child for a parent to laugh and make jokes about their self harm when they notice it? I feel so fucked up from everything that happened and still self harm years later. I also had sexual abuse as a child from a family member that got shushed and never spoken about. 37:37
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
introversion doesn’t mean people who always want to be alone. the literal definition is people who “feel more comfortable focusing on their inner thoughts and ideas, rather than what's happening externally. They enjoy spending time with just one or two people, rather than large groups or crowds” there are real introverted people in the world who prefer quiet lives with one on one connection with others.
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My Own Victim was an awesome thrash metal band in the ‘90s and ‘00s.
“Blood for blood for what I’ve done. BLOOD FOR BLOOOOOD!”
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Question 1 really is a complex one. In our society most are detached so when people share you are your own victim they tell themselves this so they can feel superior and when your honest it triggers them.
I may be one who is too out but I don’t feel depression goes away you learn to live and adapt just like other illnesses. Yes I know some do resolve for most days but it can pop back up.
All deserve to live well how that looks depends.
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Thank you for living your purpose. 💖
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Thank you for doing this and being such a good resource Kati!!!! And thank you for answering one of my questions! Thank you for putting a broad time limit on feeling better. I am not patient with myself, so 6 months seems like a long time for me to not see a lot of progress. I am still planning on getting into some somatic therapy of some kind, but it’s good to know that it can take a long time. That I’m not stuck just because it’s been a couple of months of really struggling again. It really gives me hope that I can feel better again someday
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Kati Morton I missed watching and listening to your new podcast I will definitely watch and listen later much love to you❤❤
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Thank you, love these so much ❤
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Kati Morton.i appreciate your advice you gave in the livestream ❤❤
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Thank you for sharing this. I check pretty much all the avoidant attachment boxes and am also a very socially anxious introvert. I don't trust relationships and don't let anyone in. I have a couple of nice acquaintances but it's still very surface level, we get pizza and chat for a couple of hours about light topics. I don't feel lonely though, this is what I have chosen because I feel safest on my own. I was happy to stay inside on my own during lockdown. I've had over a dozen sessions with my therapist over the last two years, and only was able to be vulnerable and talk about my childhood trauma during my latest session. I do go to my sessions, it is just I tend to have my guard up even in a session. I think my therapist may be starting to understand just how guarded I am now, but how should I proceed with my therapist? Thanks again for this.
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I have PTSD and have extreme night terrors. Prazosin was a literal life saver. Obviously I'm working through my trauma with my therapist, but I couldn't even start that with the sleep deprivation I previously had. Meds can suck but sometimes they're necessary to start the steps to healing.
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Thanks for this info very helpful
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988 in the US is also an option besides 741741
for the not having insurance - planned parenthood. They can work on a sliding scale and may be able to get the prescription written and, if not, are often plugged into the other services in your area that also work on sliding scale or have free medical services. (we had one where I live called occupy medical. I haven't seen them in months but they were in the downtown main square every saturday for years.)
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Anyone here a kati Morton member who listened and watched her new Q&A livestream last night honestly for some reason still feeling mentally exhausted and a bit anxious after Kati's livestream
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The Self Love book is amazing!b Highly recommend it
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Prazosin worked well for my nocturnal PTSD-symptoms (waking up screaming, sweating, nightmares, etc). Won't solve the underlying issues (therapy is necessary for that), but in combination with other medication it may relieve the worst symptoms.
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I talk to people,.... but there answer is always "that is just life".
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How can I reserve an online session with you please😢
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We tried the container exercise at my last therapy session... But I can't get into it. I tried to visualize the box described it to my therapist but moving the emotions is my problem. It is just so silly. How can I get over that
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How can we submit questions?
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@BPCado
3 weeks ago
I hate so much when people say things like "you are your own victim". People struggling often have tones of shame about it and this phrasing only adds up to it. It's almost another version of toxic positivity to me (just as the gratitude journal if done at the wrong time). Thank you for the podcast Kati and to anyone asking questions.
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