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I just took a DNA test, turns out Iām 100% not my dadās son.
For as long as I can remember, my parentsā marriage has been happy and stable. They were highschool sweethearts and my dad proposed to her at their senior prom, or so they say. Nowadays theyāre your stereotypical old couple, just as in love as the day they married.
For Thanksgiving, one of my friends bought DNA kits for our whole friend group. Heās super into genealogy and family trees, and wanted to share his hobby I guess. I just got my results back, and my biological father was found. Except, heās not the man who I grew up calling my dad, heās some rando from New Jersey. He hasnāt reached out to me, and I have no intention of reaching out to him. I have to admit, he does look like me, but he doesnāt look like my sister at all. That means that either my sister is my dadās real daughter, or that my mom cheated multiple times. I do know that my dadās family has a history of fertility issues and that his identical twin brother canāt have kids at all.
I donāt want to blow up my parentsā lives, and regardless of my DNA, my dad is still my dad. He raised me and loved me like his own, and thatās all that matters to me. But thereās a voice in the back of my mind telling me to tell my dad deserves to know that his wife cheated and that he raised another manās child. But then, will he ever look at me the same? What if he disowns me out of rage? And what about my mom, she lives off his pension and home business. But sheās a cheater, so maybe I shouldnāt consider her feelings. I donāt know, I had to tell someone so I figured Reddit might be a good place. Iām going to think about what I should do for a while before taking any drastic action, I have the power to destroy my parentsā lives and I donāt take that lightly.
OP is u/Open-Lychee7587
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AITA (Am I The A**hole) for making a harmless joke about my formerly overweight friend?
Iāve (22F) been friends with James (22m) since we started college. Around 7-8 months ago he decided to change his lifestyle and be healthier. He was overweight but already lost a lot of weight and fitter. I was his workout/motivation buddy throughout these months but lately heās been confident enough to do his own thing.
A couple of weeks ago we went to a friends party (it wasnāt really a party, more of a low key get together). James is shy/awkward and tends to stick with me whenever we go to social environments with lots of people. But at some point this (tipsy) girl came up to him and seemed clearly interested. She was ignoring me *entirely*. I was about to walk off when she asked me -in front of several others - if James and I are a together.
I laughed and joked that she wouldnāt have asked me this if she had seen him last year. I was immediately told by some friends that it was a mean thing to say, and in hindsight James seemed a little speechless. The girl asked me what I meant and I explained that he used to be way chubbier. Then she shrugged and said heās āhotā and would take him off me if I didnāt mind. I thought this was trashy and just left.
Afterwards I spoke to James in private and he seemed to have gotten his feelings hurt. I explained it was just a joke cos last year NOBODY wouldāve assumed weāre together. I mean the whole point of the joke was that heās considered more attractive *now* but I know his true awkward self and past.
Am I the a**hole in this situation?
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AITA (Am I The A**hole) for not allowing my girlfriend's sister to sleep at my house ?
I 26M have been with my girlfriend for a bit over 2 yrs. We live separately but she's been spending most days at my house. I eventually gave her a key to my place. I'll come home from work and most of the time she'll be there.
She basically lives there. Has a lot of her belongings there,showers, sleeps there,etc. She has 4 sisters. 2 younger, her twin and her older sister. Her older sister has a 2 yr old daughter and is a single mom. My girlfriend has been asking if her sister could come to my house to hang out. I have no problem with it so I say sure.
Here's the problem. I got home Thursday. When I got inside my girlfriend was with her niece. I greet my girlfriend and niece. When I start walking to my bedroom, my girlfriend tells me she set out clothes for me in my gaming room. I ask why? And she says that her sister is taking a nap in my bedroom.
I'm taken back by this and say ummmm no yea she cant do that. My girlfriend asks what I mean. I tell my girlfriend that not only is it rude to sleep in others peoples beds but this is also my house, so I won't be quiet either.
My girlfriend explains that her sister is burnt out and needs a break. I told her that's fine and everything but she can't be sleeping in my room, on my bed. That my house isn't a hotel. I could sense my girlfriend getting angry. She's one of those types that is a silent angry.
She simply gets up, tells her sister to get up. They gather their stuff and she leaves with her. She calls me back saying that since my house isn't a hotel, she won't be staying there with me anymore. She tells me that her sister seriously needed a break and I couldn't help her.
She hangs up before I can say anything. I'm having mixed feelings about this whole thing but feel I could've handled it better. AITA?
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AITA (Am I The A**hole) for not getting up from a massage chair when someone wanted to use it?
I am currently 8 months pregnant, and because of that, I often get quite tired when I stand or walk for long periods of time. Yesterday afternoon, I was craving ice cream, so I drove to a nearby shopping center to visit my favorite ice cream shop. Unfortunately, the place was quite crowded, and all of the tables surrounding the shop, as well as some nearby sofas were taken. Because of that, after getting my ice cream, I decided to sit on one of two massage chairs that were close, and eat it there.
Once I started eating the snack, I got approached by a couple that was in their late teens, or perhaps early twenties. They asked me to get off the chair, since I wasn't getting a massage, and they wanted to receive such a service together, which I refused to do. In return, I offered to leave once I finished eating, or if they found me a different place to sit, since I could not stand for more than a few minutes at a time, and had a relatively large dessert that I wanted to finish.
Upon hearing that, the girl was not happy. She told me to stop acting as if I was ill, that just because I was pregnant, the world did not revolve around me, and because I was not paying for a massage, I had no right to sit on the chair. She then asked her partner to get a security guard, and a few moments later, he came with such an employee.
The guard took my side, and asked the couple to either take turns using the second massage chair, or wait for me to finish eating, which upset the girl quite a bit. She accused me of being selfish and preventing the owner of the chairs from earning money, and left with her partner.
Upon telling this story to my younger sister, she told me that I should have went to the ice cream stand when the shopping center was less crowded, if I wasn't able to eat while standing, however, my older sister believes that I had every right to sit on the massage chair if all the other spots were taken, and the couple was being unreasonable. Because of that, I'm not sure if I am the asshole in this situation.
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AITA (Am I the a**hole) for not telling my brother how much something was worth until he regifted it to me.
I had a boomer great aunt that was a wonderful and loving woman. She just grew up in Eastern Europe right after WWII.
One of the weird things about her was that she would give her old belongings as gifts for weddings and important birthdays. I still have the music box she gave me for my First Communion.
When we saw family I would always ask to see their pieces. A few of my aunts had them displayed in a china cabinet or out somewhere safe. A few had them collecting dust in a box. I made sure they knew that if the day ever came that they wanted to downsize or something I would appreciate a chance to grab it for my collection. Some of my cousins took me up on the offer and I ended up with six extra pieces for my room.
When I moved out I made sure that every single part of my collection was safely wrapped and packed. They are my little treasures. I know it's weird.
Sorry for being so long winded. I just love talking about that stuff.
I'm about 15 years younger than my eldest brother and he knows about my collection. When he got married I was 14. At his gift opening I saw he got one of her usual gifts. I also saw his wife's face. She was not super grateful.
I made sure he knew that I thought it was beautiful but I didn't ask him to think of me if he wanted to get rid of it. I thought he might like to pass it on to his kid one day.
When my aunt passed away she left me the last of her collection. Three pieces that were a set.
I got married last September. My niece, his daughter, was my flower girl.
At my gift opening I could almost hear him giggle when I opened my gift from them. It was the piece from our great aunt. He thought it was super funny. Then he gave us our "real" gift from our registry.
I thanked him profusely for both.
He came over the other day and saw my collection in my china cabinet I inherited. He asked me why I was so fascinated with this stuff. I told him that I thought it was amazing and that lots of people collected it. He called bullshit and started looking it up.
The figurine he gave me is worth about $6,700.
He said that I was a dick for not telling him what it was worth. He wants it back. I said that my husband and I were going to give back every piece I got from family as a gift for a special occasion. I already planned to give that piece to my niece for her first communion. Along with a little booklet of information about my aunt and the value of the piece so they appreciated it. I know exactly who I got each piece from. And they are all going back to that family.
He says I'm being mean accepting a gift from him that is worth so much.
I asked him if he ever bothered looking up.the value of what he was giving me. He said he thought it was like precious moments or Hummel.
Whatever. I have family treasures to keep safe for the next generation. I know I would have gotten something awesome from my great aunt if she hadn't passed away before my wedding.
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