Today, I am beyond grateful for my YouTube channel viewers and subscribers. We may have never met face to face. In this lifetime, we may not have had the opportunity to talk to one another. Yet you have blessed me and my life in amazing ways.
Thank you for your positive feedback about how I have helped you and supported you during your darkest moments. That I have been a survival guide along your healing journey. I appreciate each one of you.
Nothing is ever wasted. Not our hard rock moments. Not our heartaches, betrayals, and trauma wounds. What I've learned is that we can use our life experiences, including soul-crushing pain, to rise above what tried to break us. We can rise up from the fiery ashes like the Phoenix bird. We can come out on the other side with more wisdom, understanding, courage, and compassion.
We can choose to become better people; not bitter. We can take everything we've suffered and transmute it into something positive. We can be transformed from the inside out.
"The final stage of healing is using what happens to you to help other people. That is healing in itself." ~ Gloria Steinem
Today, I am giving a shoutout to Steve who has sent me an encouraging message. Steve wrote: "I wish you and those important in your life love, health, happiness and much gratitude. You impact so many lives in ways not even imaginable. Those of us that have the perseverance and the fortitude to get through the darkness to see the beacon of light that shines for all lost souls can only know the loneliness and isolation that this kind of abuse breeds. You have brought me hope and understanding. I pray that humanity can stop the hate and begin to frame our existence on this planet in a different and positive way. The work you do promotes that concept. Thank you for being who you are."
THIS!!! 👇👇👇👇
This is why I bravely speak out for abuse survivors. We have no idea how many hurting souls we are impacting in such a positive way. My prayers and intentions are to always give healing and hope. Whether I help one person or one million people, I embrace my life purpose. ❤️
I may not know what you are struggling with, but I do know that when a trauma survivor is seen, heard, understood, and offered sacred space without judgement, they can start to heal. No matter how intimidating or daunting your trials are, hold onto hope. Believe in miracles. Trust that you, too, can rise up to soar high in a new chapter of your life. I am cheering you onward!
MY WEBSITE: www.danaarcuri.com/
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It is no surprise when you were raised in a dysfunctional family where there’s ritual abuse, you can experience one or more broken relationships. It could be with your siblings, mother, father, grandparents, cousins, or other relatives.
In our society, there is a stigma, especially towards adult children who are now estranged from one or more family members. There is a double-standard.
Our society has a false myth that if a parent cuts ties with their adult child, it’s perfectly fine. People support the adult parent. Even if this parent neglected and abused their child. Yet, our society dumps toxic shame, blame, and offensive judgment onto adult children who are estranged from their family of origin.
A recent British survey defines family estrangement as, “The breakdown of supportive relationships between family members. The heartbreak of family estrangement is that those who are supposed to support you, don’t. Those who should be on your side, aren’t.”
In the British study, over 50% of people estranged from a parent said that they cut off the contact. When asked why they went no contact with their parent, the estranged adult child stated, “We could never have a functional relationship again.”
According to credible resources, sibling estrangement is MUCH HIGHER compared to parental estrangement. According to statistics, it is equally as prominent as divorce in our society.
This goes well beyond ‘sibling rivalry.’ Sibling estrangement is ROOTED to sibling abuse. For you, it may have been nonstop bullying, psychological abuse, sexual abuse, physical abuse, manipulation, gaslighting, retaliation, cruelty, violence, and outright criminal actions.
Here's the credible fact about the dysfunctional, toxic family. 80% of our trauma didn't originate from us. It's directly linked to intergenerational abuse and trauma.
Nobody walks away from a respectful, loving, caring family. After experiencing a wide range of abuse (Narcissistic abuse, sibling abuse, financial theft, violence, and chronic coercive control), and after the scapegoats exhausted all other options, the LAST RESORT is to go full no contact with the dysfunctional family unit. Cheers to cycle breakers!
For those interested in my newest book, a true crime story, I have a chapter on the toxic family legacy and how to reclaim your life, peace of mind, happiness, and healing. My memoir is titled, TOXIC SIBLINGS: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse. It's available in a print book and an eBook.
www.amazon.com/dp/B0CMZ9XXH8?ref_=pe_3052080_39751…
My Website: www.danaarcuri.com/
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I have exciting news! My seventh book has officially been released on Amazon. Happy dance! Here is the book description and how my memoir can support you along your own healing journey.
TOXIC SIBLINGS: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma
Sibling abuse is soul-crushing. It is linked to trauma. Dana Arcuri, a survivor, author, YouTuber, and Certified Trauma Recovery Coach, bares her heart to share her true crime story. Her gripping memoir reveals the compounded trauma she has sustained from toxic siblings and a narcissistic mother.
Her captivating message shares unspeakable things she’s suffered: Child neglect and abuse. A dysfunctional family. Sibling abuse. Sexual abuse. Narcissistic abuse. Family scapegoating. Betrayal. Her toll of compounded trauma resulted in Fibromyalgia, Complex PTSD, and estrangement from relatives.
After decades of turmoil, she finally broke free, rebuilt her life, and bravely rose above trauma. She is now helping thousands of survivors to heal, too. In Toxic Siblings, Dana’s Powerful Survival Guide Raises Awareness About:
· Sibling rivalry versus sibling abuse
· Common Signs of sibling abuse
· Dysfunctional family roles
· Narcissistic abuse & abuse by proxy
· Types of abuse & the devastating impact of trauma
· Gaslighting, manipulation, & smear campaigns
· Triangulation & alienation
· Grey rock, no contact, & family estrangement
· How to set clear boundaries
· Tools, tips, & trauma-informed emotional support
· How to rise above sibling abuse for your trauma recovery
MY BOOK DEDICATION:
My memoir is dedicated to each person who has experienced sibling abuse, a dysfunctional family, and the devastating impact of trauma. Like a Phoenix, may you have the courage to rise above sibling abuse and find the courage to heal. May you learn:
· You are not alone.
· Sibling abuse isn’t your fault.
· You and your story matters.
· You deserve to heal, to be happy, and to have safe relationships.
My true crime story, Toxic Siblings, is available on Amazon as a print book and an eBook.
www.amazon.com/dp/B0CMZ9XXH8?ref_=pe_3052080_39751…
BLOG: www.danaarcuri.com/post/toxic-siblings-book-launch
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Are you dealing with a malignant narcissist, flying monkeys, or a toxic person? Are you tired of being manipulated, bullied, and psychologically abused? If so, today's post is going to give you helpful tips to learn how to starve the narcissist and enablers.
According to Mayo Clinic, "Narcissistic personality disorder — one of several types of personality disorders — is a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of extreme confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that's vulnerable to the slightest criticism. A narcissistic personality disorder causes problems in many areas of life, such as relationships, work, school or financial affairs. People with narcissistic personality disorder may be generally unhappy and disappointed when they're not given the special favors or admiration they believe they deserve. They may find their relationships unfulfilling, and others may not enjoy being around them.”
Words to Define Core Traits of a Narcissist:
· Delusional & Domineering
· Sadistic & Sinister
· Passive Aggressive
· Hostile & Hateful
· Bitter & Vindictive
· Pathological Liar
· Vengeful & Spiteful
· Cruel & Covert
· Control Freaks
· Evil to the Core
There is no such thing as reconciling with a covert narcissist, flying monkeys, or toxic people. Why? Because they haven't repented, nor turned about from their chronic, manipulative, cruel words, actions, and behaviors. They are not sorry for hurting you.
Their top motive is to gain more narcissistic supply from YOU. They don’t genuinely love you. Rather, they love ABUSING you. And treating you like a doormat.
The best way to starve a narcissist & their enablers is to stop giving them an emotional reaction to their nasty behaviors. Most narcs are on a power trip. They crave incredible amounts of attention. They want to be the center of attention 24/7 as if they are a god or goddess. They have a huge ego and sense of superiority.
If they don’t receive this admiration, loyalty, and utmost attention, they will have a two-year-old temper tantrum and meltdown. Prepare yourself for them to freak out, flip out, and mentally lose it!
Narcissists need people to be enthralled by them so that they can feed off the attention and reverence. Once their facade has worn thin and their false mask slips off, you can start to see the narcissist for who they are. They are an emotional vampire who wants to suck the joy, peace, and all positive energy out of you.
How to Starve a Narcissist & Flying Monkeys:
1. Do not participate in their drama.
2. Do not give them an emotional reaction.
3. Set your healthy boundaries and don't ever back down.
4. Keep all interactions limited and brief.
5. If he/she tries to manipulate you or blame you, walk away.
6. Do not argue with them. It fuels narc supply. (JADE Technique)
7. Do not explain yourself to them. They don't care. (JADE Technique)
8. Do not try to justify yourself to them. They deny everything. (JADE Technique)
9. Don't bother trying to defend yourself to them. (It fuels narc supply. (JADE Technique)
10. If they provoke you, don't take the bait. Ignore them.
11. Go grey rock, which means minimal engagement with them.
12. Or go no contact with them, which is the top key to healing abuse.
13. Focus on YOUR own life, happiness, peace of mind, and future.
When you break free from a narcissist, you reclaim your sanity. It's liberating! Please know that it’s not your fault that you’ve suffered narcissistic abuse. Most importantly, it is not your responsibility to fix them or change them. They only one you are responsible for is you, your own life, and your trauma recovery.
When you walk away from these toxic dynamics, you will successfully starve the narcissist, flying monkeys, and toxic folks. Give yourself time to heal, time to process everything, and safe space to work through your trauma recovery journey.
Whether you are in the early stages of no contact or you are many years of being free from a narcissist and flying monkeys, I congratulate you. Well done, my friend. You WON! 👏 💯
For emotional support: www.danaarcuri.com/
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When someone pushes us to our breaking point we realize, 'Wow, I do have another choice. I don't have to grey rock. I don't need to tolerate toxic people. Including abusive, manipulative family members. I can just walk away."
No one just ends a relationship with kind, trustworthy, caring people. Nobody just randomly cuts ties to their parents, siblings, friends, co-workers, spouse, or partner. Oftentimes, after exhausting all options, going no contact is our LAST RESORT.
A CYCLE BREAKER IS SOMEONE WHO:
1. Is nothing like their family members.
2. Is usually an Empath, Highly Sensitive Person, & the Scapegoat of the family.
3. Disrupts the genetic imprints.
4. Starts the healing in their family unit.
5. Recognizes dysfunctional behaviors in themselves & their family, but they're the only one who changes it.
6. Takes time to understand why the people in their family are toxic. (Narcissists & Flying Monkeys.)
7. Recognizes maladaptive coping mechanisms that aren't helpful. Practices adaptive coping skills.
8. Doesn't fit into their family. (It's why they're ostracized & treated like a doormat.)
9. Is ready to know themselves outside of their toxic family. They self-reflect & take accountability for their lives.
10. Sets healthy boundaries.
11. Is aware of the unhealthy, covert traits of their abusive family members' patterns & choose to not be like them.
12. Has the courage to end the cycle of intergenerational trauma. Becomes a cycle breaker.
Today, I am sending positive thoughts, love, light, and support to each person who's walked away from their abusive family. Kudos to brave warriors!
Certified Trauma Recovery Coaching: www.danaarcuri.com/coach
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#MyThanksgivingWish
For years, I've had a dream. It feels like a big dream because it involves a lot of money, plus a large venue.
I'd create a safe space for abuse survivors who are isolated and alone. Whether it's the family scapegoat, the black sheep in the family, or anyone who doesn't have a caring family, I'd invite them to a delicious feast on Thanksgiving Day.
I can only imagine how amazing it would be to meet you face to face. To sit down together and talk. To share our true stories. To give thanks for the lovely opportunity to share a delicious feast together.
If you need emotional support, reach out to me on my website. www.danaarcuri.com/
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Most people have no clue how devastating and traumatic it is to experience child abuse, a very dysfunctional family, narcissistic abuse, sibling abuse, gaslighting, chronic cruelty, sexual abuse, manipulation, and betrayal by their own family members.
Based on some of the most rude, insensitive, and outright hateful comments I’ve ever seen on YouTube, it’s crystal clear that some people aren’t trauma informed. They are ruthless, cruel people who accuse victims of violent crimes and abuse to “just move on.”
In case you missed this credible fact: Trauma is perhaps the most ignored, belittled, denied, misunderstood, and untreated cause of human suffering. ~ Dr. Peter Levine
⚠️ Don’t tell trauma survivors what they should do. ⚠️
🚩 Stop insisting that abuse survivors ‘just move on.’ 🚩
👿 Never tell a trauma survivor to forgive perpetrators. 👿
It’s not up to you to dictate how survivors should feel or respond to abuse, violence, and assaults.
If anyone verbally attacks myself or anyone who commented on my YouTube channel, you will be reported and blocked. I have a ZERO TOLERANCE for bullying, hate speech, and verbal abuse.
Until you walk a mile in a trauma survivor’s shoes or suffered severe psychological abuse, you don’t have the liberty to dish out your unwanted and uneducated advice and opinions.
For those who do understand the devastating impact and long-term effects of trauma, I know that you really do “get it.” I appreciate you sharing your true stories on my YouTube channel.
It helps other survivors know that they are not alone. When we see them, hear them, and understand them, they can start to heal.
Kindness and compassion go a long way. For respectful people who stand up for abuse survivors, thank you. It’s empathetic people, like you, who give others hope for brighter days. 💜
Certified Trauma Recovery Coach: www.danaarcuri.com/
NO CONTACT RULE: www.danaarcuri.com/post/no-contact-rule
FYI: YouTube is cracking down on comments that involve graphic content, sexual graphic information, politics, religious rants, bashing ethnic groups or races, and certain words that pertain to violence and any controversial topics. ALL OF MY COMMENTS ARE FIRST REVIEWED. If someone's comments contain graphic content, hate speech, or topics that are not relating to my videos, they won't be approved by me. If I do approve certain comments, oftentimes it's common for YouTube to delete the comments if it isn't in alignment to YouTube standards and policies. Before you write a comment on my YouTube channel, first consider:
1. Is it relevant to the video message?
2. Is it kind or is it cruel?
3. Would you want someone to say that to you?
4. Is it graphic, hostile, bullying, or hate speech?
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Your beautiful light can support others. Your true story can be a healing balm for those who are hurting and struggling.
You can help to guide them out of the darkness and into the light within them. Our world desperately needs your kind heart and soul. 🕯️
Need emotional support? Reach out to me on my website. www.danaarcuri.com/
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Beware of covert narcissists and flying monkeys who hoover you. Hoovering is named after the Hoover vacuum cleaner. Hoovering is how emotional vampires suck you back into an abusive relationship. They will suck your energy, body, and mind dry.
Narcissistic Abuse by Proxy: The people who have taken the side of the malignant narcissist are no different than the narcissist. They are equally as poisonous. Neither are good for your mental and physical health.
The flying monkeys are the narcs henchmen. They are complicit to narcissistic abuse. They’re enablers who give a blind eye to the narcissist’s intimidation, triangulation, gaslighting, bullying, and manipulation. In most cases, the narcissists and flying monkeys are sociopathic and sadistic. They take great pleasure in hurting you.
The JADE Technique is the key to reclaim your sanity, safety, and peace of mind. Most of you wouldn't tolerate this type of insidious abuse by a stranger or co-worker. Regardless of who the perpetrator is, including your family members, abuse is still abuse. You deserve so much better.
Learn 11 signs of hoovering & the JADE technique. Your healthy boundaries are important.
MY JADE TECHNIQUE VIDEO: https://youtu.be/P9cYy7NO4io?si=NbpUh...
Need emotional support? Contact me on my website. www.danaarcuri.com/coach
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Have you experienced a toxic workplace? If so, did you experience the following? #ToxicWorkPlace #AdultBullies
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I'm an Author, Speaker, Intuitive Coach, & Certified Master Energy Practitioner. I am a former Certified Trauma Recovery Coach who worked with trauma survivors. I empower all walks of life to reach their highest potential. There's power in sharing our true stories. If want peace of mind, wisdom, joy, improved relationships, healing, inspiration, and emotional support, my videos are to help you along your transforming path. To not just survive, but to THRIVE!
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Set Boundaries
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