LET 👏THEM 👏
Stop trying to control the people around you.
When you “let them” be who they are, you gain control over your own emotional peace and improve your relationships.
I call this the “Let Them Theory” and it has been LIFE-CHANGING for me. It can change your life too…
Have you tried using the “Let Them Theory” in your life? Tell me about your experience 👇
Today, you’ll learn the surprising science of what creates a meaningful life, based on 8 decades of research.
This conversation is so profound that you might need to take a second listen.
Prepare to laugh, cry, and leave feeling empowered to find and create the happiness and connection that you want.
Because the truth is, you can transform your life at any moment.
There is nothing more important than this conversation.
Because by the time you are done listening, you will understand how one tiny step might just change how you think about your entire life.
Get ready to be blown away by the groundbreaking research and heartwarming stories that will prove just how powerful unexpected connections can truly be.
And more importantly, how you can start making them today.
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I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode.
YouTube Timecodes:
00:00:00 Intro
00:01:31 How would you live knowing you haven’t met your favorite people yet?
00:04:11 Do you want to have a more meaningful life? You need to do THIS.
00:06:02 Harvard professor and MD explains why THESE people are happiest.
00:07:26 My daughter’s unexpected best friend found backpacking!
00:12:19 Here’s how to get the momentum you need to find unexpected connections.
00:15:51 This research proves that you DO enjoy talking to strangers.
00:18:43 These are my tips for talking to strangers, without being creepy.
00:24:18 The shocking research around social contagion.
00:26:51 Get your tissues ready for this unexpected story.
00:33:32 You are capable of creating THIS incredible phenomenon.
00:35:11 This 15-year friendship started with an email mix-up.
00:42:00 Change your perspective on this one thing for a better life.
00:43:58 This story proves why unexpected connections are magical.
00:49:39 How a text about Thanksgiving dinner turned into a lifelong friendship.
00:54:21 Do this ONE thing today to create meaningful and unexpected connections.
I slept in today - can you tell? 😴🤣
This is your reminder to take a break and give yourself what you need. Whether it’s an extra hour of sleep (like me), a moment of peace, or a walk outside, you deserve it. ❤️
How are you planning to take care of yourself today? Share in the comments! 👇
The secret to feeling more in control in your life? LETTING GO! I explain more in this video.
I don't know about you, but some of my most favorite people and closest friends live a plane ride away.
One habit that I’ve picked up is to schedule a half hour every week to simply send texts to people I care about.
I always wish I could be physically closer to them so creating a practice where I reach out consistently has made me feel closer emotionally.
Share this with someone you wish you could spend more time with ❤️
Do you want to know the secret to unlocking motivation in yourself or someone you love?
If you want to change any behavior for the better….
Or if you’ve got someone in your life (don’t we all?!) who you wish would change…
Today’s episode is for you.
You’ll learn why guilt, pressure, fear, crying, threats, and ultimatums will not help anyone change, and there’s a scientific reason why.
Then, you’ll learn the 3 very specific tactics that inspire anyone to quickly change their behavior for the better, including specific scripts that you can use with even the most stubborn people.
Teaching you today is #1 neuroscientist, Dr. Tali Sharot. She’s here to debunk the myths of behavior change and teach you how to make any change, big or small.
Dr. Sharot is a behavioral neuroscientist, professor at both University College London and MIT, and the director of the Affective Brain Lab at University College London.
Her research integrates neuroscience, behavioral economics, and psychology to study motivation and behavior change.
By the time you finish listening, you’ll know EXACTLY what to do to create any change you want.
Dr. Tali’s website: affectivebrain.com/
For more resources, including links to Dr. Tali’s book, website, and social media platforms, click here for the podcast episode page: www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-178
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YouTube Timecodes:
00:00:50: Do you want to learn how to change people’s opinions and behaviors?
00:03:11: What we’re getting wrong about motivating the people we love.
00:05:21: This is what we actually should be doing before trying to change others.
00:08:19: How you are influencing people without even knowing it.
00:13:03: Why guilt, pressure, and fear will not help someone change.
00:18:44: The 3 specific tactics that will inspire anyone to change quickly.
00:22:25: How you should approach someone to make any behavior change.
00:24:03: Why is it so hard to make ourselves do what we should want to do?
00:27:14: Use this trick to get yourself to act now for future rewards.
00:30:49: How to use “progress tracking” to help someone be better with their money.
00:32:56: Dr. Tali Sharot’s favorite study on why positive feedback works.
00:36:24: The best parenting tip to get your kids to make a positive change in their life.
00:40:33: The importance of emphasizing rewards vs. punishments.
00:44:26: This is how change can enhance your well-being and increase happiness.
00:46:30: How to approach someone you love about a touchy subject.
00:49:23: How to help someone who is extremely resistant to change.
00:51:18: The science-backed ways to motivate yourself to change for good.
00:54:06: One of the most important things to keep you moving forward.
You can’t change a narcissist’s behavior but you can change how YOU react to it.
Learn how to take your power back when dealing with a narcissist or any difficult person on this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast with renowned psychologist and narcissism expert, Dr. Ramani Durvasula @DoctorRamani
🎧 “How to Deal With Difficult People: One Trick to Live a More Peaceful & Fulfilled Life”
Watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/IewDusCWdCM
Do you want to know the best relationship advice no one has ever told you before?
In today’s episode, Mel is revealing the one rule about relationships you must know.
There is a game-changing framework that will help any relationship go the distance, and once you hear it, you’ll want to share it with everyone you know.
It reveals why some relationships fail, and it also gives you the secret to sustaining a strong and successful relationship.
Here to explain this “4 Levels” framework is New York Times bestselling author Matthew Hussey.
Matthew has been helping people for more than 17 years to feel more confident and in control of their relationships. His YouTube channel is number one in the world for love life advice, with over half a billion views.
By the end of today’s episode, you’ll know when it’s time to let go of a relationship, when it’s worth fighting for, and the 4 habits of all successful relationships.
Matthew's website: matthewhussey.com/
Follow Matthew on Instagram: www.instagram.com/thematthewhussey
For more resources, including links to Matthew’s new book, YouTube, and social media platforms, click here for the podcast episode page: www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-177
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YouTube Timecodes:
00:02:02: Do you want to feel more confident and in control of your relationships?
00:03:11: What the 4 level framework for any relationship is.
00:05:28: The level that is the most dangerous level to be stuck in with someone.
00:07:22: How to really know if someone is willing to commit to you.
00:09:35: How to have the “what is this” conversation with the person you are newly dating.
00:12:02: How to calmly communicate what you need in a relationship.
00:16:25: If you feel resentment and anger in your relationship, listen to this.
00:19:00: How Matthew almost messed up his relationship with his wife.
00:23:20: When you are getting mixed signals from someone, text them this.
00:26:45 What you need to know if someone you love is wasting your time.
00:28:05: What Matthew means when he says this is THE hardest conversation you will ever have.
00:32:08: How to truly understand what you want and what matters to you.
00:34:12: Date the person, not their potential.
00:36:28: Why love is not all you need for a healthy and long relationship.
00:39:42: How to know if you are compatible with someone you are with.
00:42:10: What it looks like to value yourself in a relationship.
As someone who has ADHD, I found these tips SO helpful to share with the people in my life.
Don’t believe me? I dare you to try it.
Drop a ⭐ if you’re going to push past your excuses today and take action!
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