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My next inner child program begins July 9th. After the program I ask all attendees to complete a survey, to date 100% of survey participants have said they would recommend the program to friends.
Doing this kind of work can help to improve your relationships, have less anxiety, better emotional regulation, have more self love, more self acceptance overcome people pleasing, codependency and more.
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How and Why Everyone Should Do Inner Child Work
Inner child work and taking time to heal your inner child is essential if you want to overcome anxiety, build successful relationships or achieve your dreams. A lot of people have a misconception of what inner child work is so first of all I would like to dispel some myths about inner child work.
Myth 1: Inner Child Work Is About Reliving The Past
Inner child work and inner child healing the way I do it is not about reliving the past, itâs not about having a victim mentality and itâs not about blaming parents or family. The first thing I do with one to one clients and on the inner child program is to set goals. Goals are important with any kind of therapy or change of work because if you donât know where youâre going youâre never going to get there. I donât encourage clients to live in the past, constantly talking about and reliving the past only reinforces traumatic memories and keeps a person stuck in a negative mental state.
I ask clients what they want their life to look like, what they want to get from our work together and how they will know when it has been successful. The way I do inner child work is about externalising toxic shame, making the inner child feel safe, loved and accepted.
Myth 2: Inner Child Work and Hypnosis Is Triggering
I hear this myth a lot, variations of this myth are will I get stuck in a traumatic event that I canât escape, will I spontaneously regress to traumatic events that I donât remember consciously. The answer is no, I have been a hypnotherapist for 6 years and doing inner child work for three. I have never had anyone spontaneously regress to a bad memory and I have never had anyone stuck in a memory. I have definitely never had or heard of anyone being stuck in hypnosis.
I believe this is a story perpetrated by people who donât understand hypnosis, there used to be a belief that the unconscious mind remembers everything and by using hypnosis we can uncover repressed memories but it is not one I subscribe to, there are therapist who regress people back to memories they donât consciously have but I am not one of them. As I say on my workshops, your mind canât tell the difference between a real or imagined event and this is why hypnosis is so effective at helping people make rapid change.
As I said above when I work with people it is on a solution focused basis, if someone is extremely traumatised the first few sessions would be solely based around relaxation and making the client feel safe. When I do group sessions I use extreme levels of relaxation and I take people through a safe space before I do any regression. It is very hard to remember bad memories when you are relaxed but your emotional state actually influences how you perceive memories which means even if someone did spontaneously regress they would not relive the traumatic emotions.
Myth 3: You Have To Close Your Eyes To Go Into Hypnosis
You donât need your eyes closed to go into hypnosis and you certainly donât need your eyes closed to make positive changes. Some clients prefer to talk than close their eyes and listen to me telling them to relax, drift deeper and deeper and thatâs fine. I can still use hypnotherapy with clients that may be too nervous to close their eyes. Again, as I explain in my workshops hypnosis is a natural state that we all experience several times during the course of a day. If you have ever been watching T.V and zoned out, that's hypnosis. Hypnosis is a focused state of attention, you donât need to close your eyes to experience a hypnotic state in which positive change can occur.
So What Is Inner Child Work? Why Is Inner Child Healing So Important?
Now we have covered what inner child work is not letâs talk about what inner child work actually is. Inner child work is about releasing toxic shame, making the inner child feel safe, loved and accepted. Itâs about learning how to properly treat ourselves and others.
Why Is Inner Child Work So Important To Overcome Anxiety?
As I say on my hypnotherapy to reduce anxiety page, âAnxiety is a natural response to danger and it can serve us in some circumstance, anxiety is part of our natural fight, flight, freeze or fawn response; itâs our sympathetic nervous system working to keep us safe and out of harmâs way by releasing hormones such as cortisol and norepinephrine. Itâs not possible to completely eliminate anxiety from your life.â
If we want to get technical anxiety is not actually part of the fight or flight response, fear is part of the fight or flight response and anxiety is a conditioned response from regularly experiencing fear.
Until about 10 years ago I suffered from chronic anxiety and I didnât know where it had come from. Rather than deal with it I avoided people and developed many toxic coping strategies that Iâd use when I couldnât avoid people. I had several toxic relationships and no real friends by the time I decided things really had to change. I was working online from home and pretty much isolating myself, I talk more about my own story and why I had to heal my inner child in this post. The point I am trying to make is that I, like most people, had grown up around dysfunctional people who projected their toxic shame onto an easy target, me.
A child is dependent on the adults around them to protect, feed and clothe them. They need good enough parents, when we are small helpless children and we donât have good enough parents itâs life threatening so we internalise the dysfunction and it creates toxic shame and a constant feeling of unease.
Breathing exercises and visualisation are both effective ways to reduce anxiety but if we want lasting change they are not enough, we need to release the toxic shame, make our inner child feel safe and loved to reach our full potential and live anxiety free.
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How Hypnotherapy Can Help With Depression
As a hypnotherapist who specialises in helping people with anxiety I often see a lot of depressed clients and I use hypnotherapy to help them with depression too, anxiety and depression are often interlinked (comorbid). Research suggests that mixed anxiety and depression are four times more common than depression alone. Just as everyone gets anxious from time to time most people experience depressed feelings too. Depression occurs when a person is experiencing these feelings for a prolonged period of time.
Someone suffering with depression may experience a feeling of low energy to the stage where just getting out of bed becomes a chore, reduced libido, brain fog and difficulty concentrating, insomnia or over sleeping, over or under eating, feelings of worthlessness or like life is pointless, delusions and hallucinations, negative thoughts and catastrophizing. These feelings will sometimes last months or even years.Â
Anxiety and Depression
Some of the symptoms of anxiety and depression overlap, people with anxiety also have trouble sleeping, brain fog, they experience all or nothing thinking, can feel like the world is out to get them and they often have a lack of energy.Â
The medical profession isnât sure whether anxiety causes depression or depression causes anxiety, from my own experience I have found that anxiety sufferers tend to become isolated, they avoid social contact and will look for work that allows them to avoid experiencing anxiety and panic.Â
The isolation that anxiety sufferers seek leads to them making choices that reduce their social circle and support network. I myself did this to try and avoid my anxiety issues, it caused me to make some very bad life choices and I experienced quite severe repercussions that led to depression until I reached a point where I decided that I had to change. Depression can also be caused by the side effects of medication, physical issues and diet.
Trauma & Anxiety
Growing up with dysfunction caused me to suffer Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), I had trust issues, brain fog, negative voices in my head, I was emotionally dysregulated, I couldnât form functional relationships, always catastrophizing and looking for things to go wrong, I would suffer debilitating anxiety attacks. Â
Many of my clients have experienced traumatic events which have then triggered feelings of anxiety and symptoms of depression such as lack of focus, feelings of pointlessness, lack of direction, like their life has no purpose. With hypnotherapy and CBT I have helped clients suffering from complex trauma, PTSD, anxiety and depression.
So How Hypnotherapy Can Help With Depression?
My hypnotherapy sessions usually last around 90 minutes, the first 30-45 minutes of every session is talk therapy to find out about the clients condition, when they first experienced the problem, what their life will look like without the problem, what improvements they have noticed since the previous session, etc. I may show the client breathing techniques to help with anxiety, I often teach them self hypnosis and meditation.Â
For the rest of the session I use hypnosis to help the client desensitise past memories and envisage themselves differently, research has shown that the mind cannot distinguish the difference between a real and imagined event so by envisaging themselves differently clients are actually able to create new neural pathways in their brain and become the person they want to be. After the sessions clients report feeling calmer, more focused and more relaxed.
Hypnosis & Rumination
A person suffering from depression will often focus on the past and replay past memories over and over again in their mind this is known as rumination. One way I use hypnosis to help depression sufferers is by bringing them into the present, getting them to focus on their breath, sensations in their body, sounds they can hear around them.Â
Purpose and Positive Focus
I work with my clients to help them find purpose in their lives, to find something meaningful and positive to focus on.Â
In previous blog posts I have spoken about the Reticular Activating System and how perception creates reality, it has been proven that we will notice more of what we focus so I give clients a positive focus between sessions. As I said above, the mind cannot tell the difference between a real and imagined event so by using hypnosis we can start to change a person's focus and life outlook.Â
Behavioural and Cognitive Changes
When a person is depressed or anxious they adopt postures and behaviours that make them feel worse. Systems theory says that by changing one part of the system we can change the whole system, our thoughts, influence our behaviors, our feelings, environment etc. so I set clients homework that will allow them to change their posture and challenge negative thoughts between sessions. I keep clients accountable for doing this homework which means that hypnotherapy has best results on depression sufferers that are actually willing to make the changes.Â
After just 3 sessions with me one depression client said, âIt was quick and easy, and with good results. I would recommend it to anyone who isnât finding relief from other treatments.âÂ
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How and Why Everyone Should Do Inner Child WorkÂ
Inner child work and taking time to heal your inner child is essential if you want to overcome anxiety, build successful relationships or achieve your dreams. A lot of people have a misconception of what inner child work is so first of all I would like to dispel some myths about inner child work.Â
Myth 1: Inner Child Work Is About Reliving The Past
Inner child work and inner child healing the way I do it is not about reliving the past, itâs not about having a victim mentality and itâs not about blaming parents or family. The first thing I do with one to one clients and on the inner child program is to set goals. Goals are important with any kind of therapy or change of work because if you donât know where youâre going youâre never going to get there. I donât encourage clients to live in the past, constantly talking about and reliving the past only reinforces traumatic memories and keeps a person stuck in a negative mental state.
I ask clients what they want their life to look like, what they want to get from our work together and how they will know when it has been successful. The way I do inner child work is about externalising toxic shame, making the inner child feel safe, loved and accepted.Â
Myth 2: Inner Child Work and Hypnosis Is Triggering
I hear this myth a lot, variations of this myth are will I get stuck in a traumatic event that I canât escape, will I spontaneously regress to traumatic events that I donât remember consciously. The answer is no, I have been a hypnotherapist for 6 years and doing inner child work for three. I have never had anyone spontaneously regress to a bad memory and I have never had anyone stuck in a memory. I have definitely never had or heard of anyone being stuck in hypnosis.Â
I believe this is a story perpetrated by people who donât understand hypnosis, there used to be a belief that the unconscious mind remembers everything and by using hypnosis we can uncover repressed memories but it is not one I subscribe to, there are therapist who regress people back to memories they donât consciously have but I am not one of them. As I say on my workshops, your mind canât tell the difference between a real or imagined event and this is why hypnosis is so effective at helping people make rapid change.Â
As I said above when I work with people it is on a solution focused basis, if someone is extremely traumatised the first few sessions would be solely based around relaxation and making the client feel safe. When I do group sessions I use extreme levels of relaxation and I take people through a safe space before I do any regression. It is very hard to remember bad memories when you are relaxed but your emotional state actually influences how you perceive memories which means even if someone did spontaneously regress they would not relive the traumatic emotions.Â
Myth 3: You Have To Close Your Eyes To Go Into Hypnosis
You donât need your eyes closed to go into hypnosis and you certainly donât need your eyes closed to make positive changes. Some clients prefer to talk than close their eyes and listen to me telling them to relax, drift deeper and deeper and thatâs fine. I can still use hypnotherapy with clients that may be too nervous to close their eyes. Again, as I explain in my workshops hypnosis is a natural state that we all experience several times during the course of a day. If you have ever been watching T.V and zoned out, that's hypnosis. Hypnosis is a focused state of attention, you donât need to close your eyes to experience a hypnotic state in which positive change can occur.Â
So What Is Inner Child Work? Why Is Inner Child Healing So Important?
Now we have covered what inner child work is not letâs talk about what inner child work actually is. Inner child work is about releasing toxic shame, making the inner child feel safe, loved and accepted. Itâs about learning how to properly treat ourselves and others.Â
Why Is Inner Child Work So Important To Overcome Anxiety?
As I say on my hypnotherapy to reduce anxiety page, âAnxiety is a natural response to danger and it can serve us in some circumstance, anxiety is part of our natural fight, flight, freeze or fawn response; itâs our sympathetic nervous system working to keep us safe and out of harmâs way by releasing hormones such as cortisol and norepinephrine. Itâs not possible to completely eliminate anxiety from your life.âÂ
If we want to get technical anxiety is not actually part of the fight or flight response, fear is part of the fight or flight response and anxiety is a conditioned response from regularly experiencing fear.Â
Until about 10 years ago I suffered from chronic anxiety and I didnât know where it had come from. Rather than deal with it I avoided people and developed many toxic coping strategies that Iâd use when I couldnât avoid people. I had several toxic relationships and no real friends by the time I decided things really had to change. I was working online from home and pretty much isolating myself, I talk more about my own story and why I had to heal my inner child in this post. The point I am trying to make is that I, like most people, had grown up around dysfunctional people who projected their toxic shame onto an easy target, me.Â
A child is dependent on the adults around them to protect, feed and clothe them. They need good enough parents, when we are small helpless children and we donât have good enough parents itâs life threatening so we internalise the dysfunction and it creates toxic shame and a constant feeling of unease.Â
Breathing exercises and visualisation are both effective ways to reduce anxiety but if we want lasting change they are not enough, we need to release the toxic shame, make our inner child feel safe and loved to reach our full potential and live anxiety free.Â
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Mark Stubbles, an award-winning clinical hypnotherapist. He has helped countless clients transform their lives through his expertise. Creator of highly acclaimed online courses, Mark specializes in helping clients overcome smoking addiction, achieve weight loss goals and boost self-confidence through powerful hypnosis techniques. Drawing from his personal triumph over chronic anxiety. Mark's true passion lies in helping clients to overcome trauma, conquering anxiety and depression. Mark offers hope and long-term healing through his targeted hypnotherapy approach.
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