The ONE Skill That Saved My Marriage (The Only Quick Fix That Works)
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I've spent years telling my clients there are no shortcuts to saving a relationship.
No magic words. No secret techniques. No overnight solutions.
But today, I need to come clean about something...
There IS one shift - one single change in perspective - that can transform your relationship literally overnight. I've seen it work not just in my own marriage when it was falling apart, but with thousands of clients since.
I know, I know. Coming from me, this sounds ridiculous.
The guy who always preaches "identity-based changes" and "long-term solutions" is suddenly talking about a quick fix?
But here's the thing - this isn't your typical "just communicate better" or "write a letter" advice.
This is different.
So different that I've decided to break my own rule of never promoting quick fixes to share it.
Watch the video here → https://youtu.be/yXzrZeRYQP8
P.S. If you've followed me for any length of time, you know I NEVER do this. This is the first - and last - time I'll ever recommend an immediate solution. Don't miss it.
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Is The Way You’re Fixing Your Relationship WRONG?
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One of the biggest mistakes men make when facing divorce, separation or their partners wanting to leave is ONLY being on the lookout for the MAJOR problems or the MAJOR mistakes they may have made.
Most men think - "“I didn’t do anything THAT BAD, why tf does she want to leave so badly?"
But let me tell you why this type of thinking:
❌ Not only points you in the wrong direction, and will prevent you from truly understanding the root causes of why your relationship is breaking down.
❌ And when you don't understand the root causes of the breakdown, you'll be powerless to do anything against it.
Essentially, it's like looking for the "treasure" in the Bahamas, when the treasure is actually in Africa - you're totally looking in the wrong place and will never find it no matter how "hard" you look.
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The attached picture is a picture of my house right now.
Yes, 50% of my house is currently completely gutted because they found mold inside the walls (Why we're not having a video today).
How did the mold problem get so bad?
You see, when we were inspecting our house, we only focused on the MAJOR ways our house could be damaged.
But what we learned was that the MAJOR problems aren't the bad ones...
The silent killers are the MINOR problems that:
😱 Lie beneath the walls that can't be seen, heard or felt.
😱 Are impossible to detect unless you're LOOKING for it.
😱 Festers in secret for years and years.
😱 Only to be caught when things get SO BAD that it is impossible to ignore.
😱 But by the time the problems can be SEEN from the outside, it's too late!
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This is EXACTLY what happens to most people's relationships.
😨 Their relationships are dying, but they only look at the MAJOR issues, and look at the MAJOR fixes they can do...
😨 Worse, most professionals, coaches and solutions out there really only address the MAJOR issues in relationships.
😨 But they ignore the countless MINOR, silent, unfelt issues in their relationship (e.g. The tiny words, micro-expressions, Freudian slips, microtones, subconscious mistakes, etc...)
This is why, in our program, we not only allow you to fix the MAJOR issues, but we also spend a lot of time teaching clients key skills that allow them to spot and fix the countless MINOR ones.
💡 For example, think about how the antithetic filter allows you to spot and catch countless of these "under-the-radar" minor issues: https://youtu.be/5CY_w54nc6g
💡 For example, think about how getting rid of your mind viruses and cleaning up your internals allows you to optimize the tiny micro-tones and expressions you have: https://youtu.be/xM6skREORRs
💡 For example, think about how our coaching style and methodology has been tuned to allow you to essentially place "alarm bells" on these otherwise silent issues: https://youtu.be/OWTBOr38mmw
💡 Another example, take a look at the client result, in the attached photos, and how clients like these are truly able to spot the tiny issues that are destroying their marriage, and fix them with close to a 100% certainty
And this is why we've spent the last decade crafting a program, training our coaches, and building a community that has ALL you need to spot these issues, fix them, and fix them for good.
To us, the ONLY way you can make good progress in saving your relationship is if you learn key principles to spot and effectively fix the millions of MINOR issues simultaneously...
Only focusing on the few MAJOR problems is like trying to fix your ant infestation by picking off one ant at a time...
That approach makes no sense.
If you’d like to explore the program further, that has a proven track record with HUNDREDS of success stories, then join our masterclass that's linked in the comments below!
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Trying To Save Your Relationship? STOP Thinking So SMALL!
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Hey everyone, Saboor here!
I am sure many of you know who I am, and just to refresh your memory...
Check out my success story here → https://youtu.be/PQWEh5bYmJ8
Heads up, there won't be a video this week!
Why?
Geoffrey is taking a well-deserved vacation with his wife, Samantha, and SO MANY of our clients are living the SAME DREAM themselves!
Check out these photos of them all LIVING the very lives they once thought IMPOSSIBLE...
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You might be thinking…
🤬“Why in the actual FUCK are you rubbing this in our faces?”
🤬 “How DARE you share pictures & posts of these families creating AMAZING memories together when you know I’m not even remotely close to that!”
😫 “There is absolutely ZERO chance I’ll EVER have that with my partner again, my partner is completely checked out…”
Shit, in my own interview with Geoffrey, I thought the EXACT SAME THING.
But the truth is… I secretly WANTED to be wrong & I CRAVED that DREAM.
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So, if you HUNGER for that DREAM, just like I did, and want to turn that into your REALITY…
Click the link in the comments below to join our masterclass!
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🚀 We Need Your Help! 🚀
Hey everyone! Samantha and I are launching our very own podcast!
More details to come, but among the MANY reasons why we're doing this...
🎙 We're launching this podcast to SHOW you what HEALTHY marriages should look like, and just how fulfilling, deep, amazing long-term relationships can feel.
🎙 It will be an AMAZING opportunity to see just how both the internal shifts & frameworks can be applied into a real life relationship/interactions, and show you how our partner would respond to them!
🎙 Even Better, we want YOU to be a part of our journey, as this will be a great opportunity for us to be able to have meaningful conversations around the DEEP & NUANCED issues that’s surround everyday issues (issues that are sometimes too nuanced to discuss in any YouTube videos).
So here's what we need from you!
Send us your questions – whether they’re serious, light, or anything in between. We’re here to show how following our program can transform your life and relationships.
We will pick some of our favorite questions during our first episode and have deep conversations/discussions about them!
Get ready for an exciting journey where we share how we interact, teach, and apply what we know to create an amazing relationship.
Your input will make this episode truly special!
Drop your questions below & stay tuned!
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Letter to my doubters...
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Last week, my wife and I had the privilege of catching up with one of my most-cherished mentors, Sunny Lenarduzzi.
This woman was not only one of the FIRST people to believe in me when no one else did…
But most importantly, she is one of the very few people whom I would consider a genuine "pioneer" in their field - a pioneer who PROVED & SHOWED me that everything I thought was impossible was actually possible.
Without her, I would never have dared to DREAM, DO and ACCOMPLISH big things.
And in today’s "get rich quick" & "full of overpromises" coaching culture, I find that people like Sunny have become increasingly rare.
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Most importantly, she inspired me to become a pioneer myself so that I can show my team of coaches & clients that their relationship can be saved no matter how impossible it seems, that their "impossible" is "possible".
P.S. I realize some of you may have a different definition of what it means to be a "pioneer", I am leaving you a bonus resource about that topic here that I've only shared with my clients.
But the sad part is, no matter how many client success stories we have, to show how impossible is actually possible...
We still have a lot of people doubting whether my program will work...
And to be honest, I fully expected these doubts to exist from the very beginning because...
❌ There are SO many bad coaches who charge a ton of money, and have programs that LOOK similar, but deliver NOTHING.
❌ There are SO FEW examples of how amazing, beautiful & fulfilling relationships can be, so our results seem so "out of reach".
❌ There are so few role models of coaches & experts who are willing to get down in the trenches, and not only exemplify, but pioneer what they teach.
So, understandably, despite the endless evidence we give you that the "impossible" is actually "possible", some of you may still doubt.
And I KNOW that many of you doubt because I still see some applicants who try every other program on the market before they try mine (take a look at some of our recent applications in the attached photos) 🙂
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The thing is though that while others are busy doubting us, we’ve NEVER stopped PIONEERING.
We never stopped improving our program curriculum, pushing the boundaries of what is "possible", and delivering "miracle" client results, day after day.
😎 And because I never stopped pioneering, it inspires my coaches to also keep pioneering...
😎 And because my coaches never stopped pioneering, they inspire our clients to never stop pioneering as well...
😎 And because our clients never stop pioneering, they manage to get results that many would deem "impossible".
Here are just a few highlights showing how the impossible is actually possible:
👉 One client SLEPT with his stepdaughter, STILL reconciled:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qG-K...
👉 Another client saved her relationship DESPITE being blocked for MONTHS:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SvNng...
👉 And countless other success stories that PROVE the impossible is actually possible: www.youtube.com/playlist?list...
And if you're STILL doubtful, take a look at our recent screenshots (attached below) of our clients "pioneering".
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So, this begs the question:
🚀 Do you want to be a part of a pioneering community like this?
🚀 Do you want a place where you can structure your social, mental & emotional environment so you can become a pioneer?
🚀 Do you want a place where you can master the right skills, backed by the right principles & processes, to allow you to reach unbelievable heights?
If you do, or if you want to explore our Relationships Revival program, check out the link in the comments below!
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Hey Everyone,
We haven’t had a ton of videos these past few weeks as I’ve been spending a lot of time with some family making their rare visit from Indonesia!
But what AMAZES me is that even while I was away, we NEVER STOPPED DROWNING IN MIRACLES & AMAZING CLIENTS WINS.
Take a look at these 3 examples (Scroll to the bottom for screenshot proof!)
👉 Jake went from being completely stonewalled & ZERO contact to being back in the same bed together!
👉 Michelle's partner has voluntarily left his affair partner and is beginning to gravitate towards her irresistible changes, slowly.
👉 Michael went from his partner not even wanting to spend a single day with him to voluntarily asking to spend 3 WHOLE days with him because his changes were so massive and in such a short amount of time.
These are just the tip of the iceberg - there have been countless more over the past few weeks, and there are simply too many to include in this email.
But what’s the point?
Am I just bragging?
NO - In my channel, I talk a LOT about the importance of learning how to FISH (instead of continuously getting fish from your coaches/therapists/etc…)
Link to video -> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NDt9G...
And to me, all this is further PROOF that we have created a program that is the best in the business at teaching YOU how to FISH for your own success.
👉 You NEED to learn to design your own success so that you can learn to thrive in the day-to-day interactions and conversations with your partner. You can’t stop the conversation from calling your coach/therapist every time 😂
👉 Your ability to FISH on your own breeds confidence, allowing you to play out the right processes with much higher efficacy (e.g., Confidence is a MUST when executing frameworks).
👉 This is the ONLY way to ensure that your results aren’t just “flukes” and why you rarely (if ever) see ANY cases of relapses in our program. My clients’ relationships are like fine wine - they get better with time!
So, is this confidence something you want for yourself?
The confidence of KNOWING that you are the captain of your own ship?
That you are the master of your own FUTURE and FATE?
If so…
Then join our masterclass!
Link in the comment below!
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Skeptical of our Clients' Success? Here's More PROOF!
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😱 I was planning on recording a video this week, but unfortunately my hometown was hit by a fricking tornado that took out the power for a million people.
😎 BUT, I still want to provide some value for you guys
We got an update to Camille's Story the other day (see attached image)…
Here's a link to her interview: https://youtu.be/wfwPM7-Lhd4
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People ALWAYS ask about status updates for our interviews (P.S. We think people ask this because they think the results we give our clients are too good to be true)
So, I wanted to give you some updates (and proof) of how our success stories are not only real, but how it gets realer every single day. (Regardless of skeptics & critics trying to doubt and bring us down)
Jason N - Not only did he end up reconciling with his wife, but he built so much safety then he moved with her and their daughter down to Houston to be closer to the company's office!
Here's a link to his interview: https://youtu.be/FoxjQ_NCuVo
Saboor A - He and his ex-wife are great friends these days, they have a better connection than ever before. In fact, ever since he quit his job to join the company as a coach, she’s been supporting him every step of the way. “I’m still shocked by how much my life has blossomed thru RR. My ex-wife supports me beyond my wildest dreams, and I get to pay it forward and give others the tools to create their own hope”
Here's a link to his interview: https://youtu.be/PQWEh5bYmJ8
James M - His relationship with his wife is going strong and improving all the time. His love and appreciation for the program made it a no-brainer when I asked him to quit his job and come join the company as a coach. “I love RR, I can’t wait to help a whole new group of people achieve the same happiness I have”
Here's a link to his interview: https://youtu.be/VN7LyEq2xnE
Zackary D - Coming up on 2 years with his new partner! “With the skills and processes I was taught here we have a totally seamless relationship. Bumps get smoothed out immediately and in such a mutually caring and understanding way. Nothing is ever off the table, and we have been able to instantly reconcile any difference in understanding.”
Here's a link to his interview: https://youtu.be/XoQ5DLV-A60
Proof Here → imgur.com/wGd1BqL
Jason G - His marriage is stronger than ever; his wife is even starting to use the frameworks. “Every time we clear another hurdle I reflect on what part of the program got us there? The changes it took, and how long it took for the negative biases to work themselves out. Now, newer versions of myself refresh our marriage constantly. I love this journey. I'm truly living the best life I've ever had thanks to the processes I implemented a few years ago.”
Here's a link to his interview: https://youtu.be/lk1eUoqzz44
Proof Here → imgur.com/5VviMd2
Spencer D - Two years later and his relationship with his wife is THRIVING. “My Wife came back to the marriage because she could see this is who I was becoming. She’s staying because she can tell I have a process in place that’s going to keep me that way, if not lead to even more growth and ability to execute well.”
Here's a link to his interview: https://youtu.be/48MFfy_DwVQ
Proof Here → imgur.com/ad6cV46
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And I could go on and on with updates…
Am I saying this just to brag? No!
This should make you feel incredibly hopeful for your future, here's what you can take away from it…
👉 Great relationships are not some mysteries that people luck into. We’ve made it into a REPLICABLE & PREDICTABLE SCIENCE.
👉 They should show you that once you MASTER the internal and external skills behind relationships, you can not only guarantee results, but they will keep getting better every single year!
👉 They should remind you to STOP wasting time DOUBTING other people’s results and START doing some work to create the results themselves (because as you spend WEEKS “doubting” these results, my clients have moved 10, 20 steps ahead)
How do we create these PREDICTABLE & REPLICABLE results?
As you can see from our recent long form videos on internal shifts, that give you a sneak preview into our program, we boil the abstract and soft parts of making a great self & relationships down to a F*CKING science!
Want to make YOUR success into a REPLICABLE & PREDICTABLE science?
Then join our masterclass!
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Talent is F***ing Overrated.
Talent has NOTHING to do with your ability to reconcile or build a thriving relationship.
If I am honest, I really HATE it when someone tells me that I am “special”, “talented”, “different” or that relationships “come naturally to me.”
Why?
👉 Because it takes away the TONS of hard work & obsession I have done to get where I am today.
👉 And I think it is a cowardly excuse people use to excuse themselves from doing the hard work themselves (e.g. “I don’t have talent, so I’m not even going to try”)
👉 Because ALL and ANY of you have the potential to create & lead the most fulfilling relationships that goes beyond your wildest imagination, but this “talent” excuse stops you short, often before trying.
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To show you how talent has NOTHING to do with this (and that all and any of you have the potential to become AMAZING) …
Let me introduce you to one of the most important people in my life…
Jason Newman.
If you guys have ever talked to a member of my team, you most likely know who Jason is. And if you want to get acquainted with his story, here’s a link to his interview: https://youtu.be/FoxjQ_NCuVo
Jason joined my program on December 20, 2020.
When he joined, just like many of my clients, he was completely LOST, at a brink of a divorce, little to no contact, and all seemed lost.
But through sheer HARD (and SMART) WORK, EVERYTHING began to change in his internal state, his life, and his relationship.
I personally saw his meteoric rise in his internal shifts and his amazing work ethic, and decided to hire him on July 3, 2021.
But when I hired him, he was VERY CONFUSED why I did that - while things were getting better, he did not have his reconciliation yet!
And I said to him…
“Jason - I’m not worried. I trust in what I teach do deeply, that if you just keep doing what you are doing, your outcomes will become a matter of WHEN, not IF…”
I don’t think he believed me at that time…
But decided to come on board anyway…
And stayed FULL SPEED AHEAD in implementing and improving all of the processes that he had learned from the program.
Fast forward to this picture taken on April 6, 2024.
Jason & Allanah had not only reconciled but moved together to Houston (to be closer to the company HQ) together with their daughter, Mia.
I’ll let you guys fill in the blanks there on how amazing this outcome has been…
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So back to the main points...
👉 Talent is F***ing Overrated. Talent has NOTHING to do with your ability to reconcile or build a thriving relationship.
👉 ALL and ANY of you have the potential to create & lead the most fulfilling relationships that goes beyond your wildest imagination.
👉 And when you master the right process, I can guarantee you that your life & relationship will just keep getting better and better for years to come.
Now the main question is…
Will you accept the challenge of mastering these right process?
Or will you just use your “Lack of talent” as an excuse?
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Hi everyone! My name is Geoffrey and I specialize in working with men to rebuild their relationships from the ground up.
No fluff, no cheesy advice or theory that doesn't actually work in real life -- This channel is designed to give you the best advice you can get in the world of relationships that have been proven to work on hundreds of relationships.
So here's to you & your relationship/marriage!
See you soon!