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in the future - u will be able to do some more stuff here,,,!! like pat catgirl- i mean um yeah... for now u can only see others's posts :c
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My latest video which you can find the link for below, talks all about the reality of always feeling behind in life due to your childhood trauma. Comparison is the thief of joy but sadly it is very hard not to do!
What do you feel behind in? How do you help yourself feel better when you are feeling low about this?
I would love to hear your thoughts!
My biggest challenge concerning feeling behind my peers has been that I didn't have kids. All of my friends have kids and I am the only one who didn't.
Due to having spent a lifetime putting my parents' needs and my brother's needs first, I felt extremely depleted emotionally. With the added diagnosis of CPTSD, I realised that having a child would make things super tough for me. Although I have been married, having a child never really happened. Instead, we got a dog!
What did you wished you had done and never managed to do? What hopes do you still have for the future?
You can still accomplish so much and it truly doesn't matter if you are a late bloomer.
I wish you courage in achieving your goals, even if it takes you longer!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PpTJf...
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Thank you all so much for joining my community here on YouTube. I appreciate all of you and I am very grateful for reaching over 25K subscribers. This was an important milestone that I really wanted to share with you all!
My channel has now been active for 8 years, which is a lot longer than I ever anticipated when I first started. I appreciate how long many of you have stuck by this channel, even though I haven't always been posting videos. I have had other work over the years which was also very important to me, so it was very hard to do both. Lots of life changes, moving countries twice, losing a parent and experiencing COVID has made having this channel challenging at times. I also continue to have moments of struggle with my CPTSD diagnosis, so there have been times where I have had to take a step back and practice self-care when necessary. I continue to enjoy creating content however and also coaching so many wonderful souls from all over the world. You have all found me through this channel and I am so amazed at the strength and resilience I have encountered in you. Thank you for trusting me to guide you!
I wish all of you the very best in your healing journeys and I truly hope this community keeps assisting you on your journey of recovery.
Much love Athina
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Self-confidence, is the belief that you can trust in yourself and your abilities or knowledge.
Self-confidence is defined as being made up of two elements; self-efficacy and locus of control.
Self-efficacy refers to your belief in your ability to succeed in specific situations.
Locus of control refers to your belief in your ability to influence situations in your life.
Those with an internal locus of control believe that their own hard work, attributes and decisions determine their success.
Those with an external locus of control are more likely to believe that good or bad luck, circumstances and fate determine their success.
What are some obvious signs that someone isn't confident:
Anxiety. Low self-esteem and generalised anxiety disorder are often closely linked. Someone lacking confidence may seem anxious in unfamiliar situations. Anxiety can make us doubt our faith in our abilities, and we know that confidence is often a matter of belief.
Avoiding challenges. Those without confidence are often unwilling to try new things as they don’t trust in their abilities to succeed at them.
Avoiding social situations. Meeting new people (and even familiar ones) can be tough when lacking confidence. A lack of belief in social skills will often mean avoiding social settings.
Lacking self-care. If someone is feeling negative about themselves and their abilities, they may also neglect to take care of themselves. This could mean a poor diet, lack of exercise, or mentally chastising themselves.
Worrying what others think. Those who have low self-esteem will often worry about how others judge them. Often, they’ll project their own feelings about themselves onto how they think others will feel about them.
Negative inner critic. Having a negative inner critic means that an individual is constantly being critical towards themselves, saying things such as 'You can't do it' or 'You aren't smart enough'.
Confidence is an important and valued trait. A lack of confidence can be difficult, but there are ways to improve it. By practising self-care and self-affirmations, building positive relationships, challenging yourself, and developing a growth mindset, you can work towards being more confident.
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***Trigger warning ***
Living with CPTSD can sometimes be an extremely isolating and hopeless experience. Repetitive trauma is life-changing and for those who suffered trauma in childhood, there is NO PRE-TRAUMA STATE. Trauma is linked to so many chronic health conditions, autoimmune diseases, cancer, addictions and suicide.
Sadly, those individuals who don't get the right support or aren't in the right headspace to ask for support, end up ending their life prematurely. I know too many people sadly who have attempted to take their life and who also succeeded.
Suicide often stems from a deep feeling of hopelessness. The inability to see solutions to problems or to cope with challenging life circumstances may lead people to see taking their own lives as the only solution to what is really a temporary situation.
If you find yourself getting to that hopeless point of no return, please reach out and ask for help. Keep asking for help until you find the right person to support you. There are many suicide prevention hotlines that you can call. Or call a friend that you know will be there for you.
Asking for help might be the bravest thing you do!
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Through this channel I hope to educate, validate, empower and support those of you who have experienced narcissistic abuse in your childhood, as well as in relationships. I am also dedicated to teaching self-compassion to those of you living with the effects of an inner critic.
As well as being a qualified Cognitive Behavioural Life coach (British Psychological Society approved), I am also passionate about sharing my knowledge on Complex PTSD, as a survivor of narcissistic abuse myself. Additionally, I have training in Inner child healing & therapeutic art life coaching and counselling.
I am currently taking on new clients, so please drop me an email at courageisallyouneed@gmail.com
****My new course: 'Healing from narcissistic abuse', my ebook 'Dealing with CPTSD triggers in relationships' and my Assertiveness PDF course are on my website at:
couragecoaching.net
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Thank you