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Is it possible for a narcissist to permanently discard you if you stood up to their abuse?
It is possible, but you mustย mortifyย them. You wonโt ever hear off them again if you manage to do this successfully.
From the literature, mortifications are a healthy part of early development as itโs one of the processes which will aid in a babyโs ability to differentiate the internal from the external.
In narcissistic adults, โnarcissistic mortificationโ is the breakdown of their False Self (FS). As the result of relying on grandiosity to regulate and function, the N develops a FS; they identify with this FS and itโs this that they put out for others to see. The attention/admiration that they seek has major psychological significance in terms of regulating emotions, identity, mood, etc. and it strengthens the FS. It really is who they believe themselves to be. Ns do not love themselves, in fact they hate themselves which is why theyโre reliant on a FS. The N loves who they see when they look in the mirrorโwho theyย thinkย they are.
Shattering the FS wounds and disables like no other. It constitutes the worst narcissistic injury (NI) that a N can face. When done successfully the N canโt meet it with abuse or manipulation in that moment, or in its wake, since itโs the Nโs True Self (TS) that remainsโdevelopmentally equivalent to a defenceless young child.
In order to mortify the N you must induce an overwhelming sense of humiliation and shame. It could be as simple as contradicting them, or using irrefutable evidence to prove a lie. But itย mustย be done in front of an audience and those in the audienceย mustย be of significance to the N. If you can do all 3, the N should withdraw and discard you forever.
You will constitute a very real threat to the Nโs psychological well-being from the perspective of the N. They cannot take the risk of you ever doing it again.
I would say; it should be something youย haveย to do rather thanย wantย to do. Itโs not an enjoyable thing to do to anyone and if you have a healthy amount of empathy then doing it to a N will feel no different from doing it to anybody else.
To enjoy a process like this, and a simple one it is, means to enjoy their suffering โ temporary or not โ which is bordering on sadistic. I get it that people wish to avenge the traumatic things they were forced to endure, but to deliberately hurt another and believe youโre entitled to do so and it be amusing is exactly what a N would do.
I challenge you to find somebody who cares to distinguish between an actual N and those who appear as one.
Iโve employed mortification on 2 occasions and neither felt good, but both were necessary for my health and stability.
It did work, neither have spoken to me since.
Stay safe! All the best!
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