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I don't do "Mindset coaching."
I'd much rather get to the root cause immediately and let it go.
Because otherwise, if I were to do Mindset Coaching first without doing this in advance... we'd still just be trying to motivate you to overcome all your past patterns anyway, while still having most of the the roadblocks from the past.
Only now you'd be more aware of them.
There'd still be an element of "having to power through."
My entire methodology summed up as quickly as possible.
1. Who you are now is the sum total of all of your conditioning from the past and also what you assume to be true about the future.
2. That comes together and creates your individual "Model of Reality." You don't experience "reality," you experience the reality you've been conditioned to.
3. The reality you've been conditioned to creates your "Identity." But Identity isn't even 100% real... it's the strongest held belief you have about YOURSELF... based on all your past conditioning and decisions you've made to get to where you are right now.
4. People say, "There's a version of me inside I KNOW is the REAL me... but I don't know how to let it out..." because the real identity is the one burried underneath decades of conditioning.
5. The conditioning comes from significant emotional events and trapped emotions like Anger, Sadness, Fear, Guilt, Shame, etc.
6. What I do is instead of trying to push OUTWARD... we go, "What's the root cause initially of the Anger, Sadness, Fear, Guilt, Shame, etc and all of the core negative beliefs?"
7. We eliminate those at the ROOT.
8. What happens 100% of the time is it's like we just cut the anchor off a buoy. The person suddenly aligns and they're no longer fighting against themselves anymore.
9. Another way to word it is take a Hot Air Balloon for example. It can't go anywhere until you chop all the sandbags. What I do is I help you eliminate all the sandbags RAPIDLY.
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The 5 Keys to Masculine Leadership You Were Never Taught
Yesterday I said I’d share something that could shift everything.
Today, I’m making good on that promise.
This is The King’s Compass.
Not a list of motivational traits.
Not another “alpha male” cliché post.
This is the actual framework I teach high-performing men who are reclaiming power, rebalancing polarity, and stepping into grounded, respected leadership.
Here’s the truth:
Everyone’s talking about masculinity.
But almost no one is defining it.
So men keep guessing…
Trying to lead without a compass.
Getting feedback from people who don’t understand them…
Partners who love them but express it through criticism…
Or their own inner voice whispering, “You
should’ve figured this out by now.”
The result?
They gaslight themselves into thinking they’re failing, when in reality, they’re just missing a few critical pieces.
What this guide gives you is clarity.
The 5 actual keys to lead yourself, emotionally, energetically, logistically, sexually, and spiritually.
When those align?
Everything rises to meet you.
This isn’t theory. I lived this.
I built this compass after losing everything, my marriage, my business, my identity, and having to claw my way back as a man.
And now?
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It’s about alignment.
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— Jared
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Are men getting softer, or are they finally waking up to what real strength actually is?
Saw a post the other day that caught my eye.
A guy asked:
"Am I missing something, or has the word 'trauma' just become another way people talk about their feelings nowadays?
It used to mean serious events like war, assault, or major loss.
Now it feels like everyone is calling every hard feeling 'trauma.' Is this real, or is society just softening again?"
I thought it was a good question. Here's my take.
It's both.
It is not about softening. It is about evolving.
Shit happens to men. Always has. Always will.
The difference is, we were taught it was manly to ignore it and just get on with it.
The problem is, most men never actually process anything.
They don't even acknowledge it to themselves.
Some become the softer ones, where they open up emotionally and start expressing their feelings in an ungrounded way, because that's what "society" is telling them they should do.
Others get bitter and end up stuck complaining about women, society, and life. How "it's not fair," and they think getting "hard and closed off" is strength.
Others are more traditional, and I respect them, and... they grit their teeth and suffer in silence. That's probably the majority of men. Stoic. Hardened. Numb.
But here’s the truth.
Every behavior you have is the result of your conditioning.
What you move toward. What you move away from.
Most men think they are choosing. They’re not.
They are just reacting to old triggers, even if it looks "strong" on the outside.
That is not sovereignty.
That is survival.
True strength is not pretending you are unaffected.
It is facing what happened, feeling it fully, privately, and clearing it at the root.
Not projecting it onto others.
Not wallowing in it.
Not bypassing it with fake toughness.
Not by asking your significant other to fix it for you or have sympathy.
If you want real sovereignty, it is not about gutting it out.
It is about clearing it out.
When you do, you are no longer reacting.
You are responding.
You have actual choice.
You are actually free.
Now... one guy actually got mad at me for saying this.
He's like "What?! You want me to sit around and feel my feelings?! Try that in REAL life!"
First of all... I did... that's how I turned my life around.
Second, I had to explain to him there’s a massive difference between "feeling your feelings" and understanding how your mind works so you can process what actually happened to you like a leader.
Most men don’t know the difference.
They think ignoring emotions is strength.
They think reacting with bitterness is power.
They think toughness is pretending nothing affects them.
It’s not.
Toughness is survival.
Sovereignty is mastery.
Sovereignty is recognizing you have experienced something...
And knowing how to unhook the emotional charge from it.
Not by avoiding.
But by extracting the lesson, transcending the experience, and stepping into actual freedom.
And you cannot transcend what you refuse to face.
That’s what real masculine leadership is.
That's what real sovereignty is.
You are either at cause for your life like a leader.
Or you are at the effect of your past like you have no say.
That decision right there is one of the most important one's you'll ever make as a man.
Curious as to your take on this...
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Ever feel like you're stuck in a loop? Like… “I thought I was over this already, why is this coming up again?!”
Here’s what I’ve found (and lived through firsthand):
Most of your recurring challenges?
They’re not random.
They’re not even separate problems.
They’re the same pattern, just wearing different clothes.
It shows up in business.
Then relationships.
Then your body.
Different categories, same internal strategy running in the background.
And it usually got installed way back.
Like 0–3 years old.
Before words.
Before logic.
Just a nervous system trying to adapt to its environment and survive.
That’s when the strategy gets locked in.
And from then on… it runs your life.
On autopilot.
Here’s the kicker:
It doesn’t feel like you’re doing it.
It feels like life keeps happening to you.
But your brain?
It’s not showing you truth. Its showing you safety.
It deletes, distorts, and generalizes anything that doesn’t match the original wound.
So you end up stuck in a mental roundabout, looping the same challenges with no clue there’s an exit.
But here’s the wild part…
If you find and collapse the original imprint, the core loop, the pattern stops auto-repeating.
And suddenly, everything starts shifting.
Most men think it’s about more hustle.
More willpower.
But if you haven’t cleared the original loop, all that hard work becomes self-sabotage.
It’s like pushing a boulder uphill with the brakes on.
That’s not mastery.
That’s burnout.
I’m not about “working harder.”
I’m about aligned action, and aligned action only happens after you clear the block.
If you’ve ever asked, “Why am I working so hard and still not getting the results?”
This is why.
Because once you release the root… it triggers a chain reaction.
That one shift becomes the key.
And suddenly, without even trying…
Things start aligning.
Because the old program isn’t running anymore.
You are. On purpose.
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Do you feel like there's a version of you just waiting to break through?
Are you the type of man who knows he was meant for more, but isn’t sure how to show up as that man every day?
If you're here, chances are you've:
You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, but still feel stuck
You show up as the nice guy… but secretly resent not being respected
You sabotage momentum every time things start going well
And you look in the mirror and don't understand why you're not fully at where you know you deserve to be yet
But what you're really wanting is:
To wake up energized, grounded, and fully in control
To feel deeply respected by your partner, your peers, and most of all, yourself
To lead with certainty instead of self-doubt
To embody your potential... not just talk about it
The only question is: How do we actually become that man?
In this podcast, we talk about:
The real reason you keep sabotaging yourself (and how to stop)
The secret to releasing trapped emotions without years of therapy
Why your identity is a story — and how to rewrite it fast
How I went from broke, divorced, and 80 lbs overweight… to powerfully aligned and thriving
📺 Watch the full episode here 👉 LINK BELOW
👇 Comment below if you're done playing small and ready to step into your next level.
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Most men never realize this…
It’s not more discipline you need.
It’s not better habits.
It’s not another book or podcast to “motivate” you.
What you actually need…
Is to reclaim your identity.
I just had a powerful conversation with my brother Jonathan William Simos on the Excel Beyond Boundaries podcast—diving deep into what it really takes to break free from your past and step into the man you’re meant to become.
We unpacked some serious truth around what keeps high-potential men stuck, how to navigate pain, and why most transformation models barely scratch the surface.
Inside the episode, we covered:
...How your identity is shaping every decision you make
...What emotional pain is actually pointing you toward
...How to finally break the invisible patterns holding you back
...Why your purpose isn’t something you search for—it’s something you ignite
...And how to apply The 7 Levels of Self-Mastery™ to rebuild your inner world and lead with power
This one hit deep.
Big shoutout and thank you to Jonathan for creating the space for this level of conversation—and for pulling out the real essence of this work.
If you’re a man navigating a transition right now…
If you’re done pretending things are “fine” when you know you’re meant for more…
If you’re ready to stop chasing change and actually become the kind of man who creates it…
Go listen.
Spotify: spotifycreators-web.app.link/e/v2lPiX8eiSb
YouTube: https://youtu.be/f5rUv1wRkdw
Links also in the bio @ExcelBeyondBoundaries
Let me know your biggest takeaway in the comments. I’d love to hear what landed.
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Check out the full Self Mastery for Men journey at www.selfmasteryformen.com
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Most coaches launch coaching programs.
They stack tactics, teach mindset hacks,
and try to fix behavior from the outside in.
I’m not here to do that.
I want to build an entirely new standard.
I’m not creating another “coaching course”…
I’m leading a movement.
A movement that redefines masculine leadership for the next decade.
This isn’t about modules or marketing.
It’s about identity.
It’s about remembering who the f*ck we are...
Before the conditioning,
Before the world told you who you were supposed to be,
Before you started shrinking to survive.
Men don’t need more information.
They need transformation.
Not more productivity hacks layered over misalignment.
Not another dopamine hit from chasing a goal that doesn’t mean sh*t.
They need to be challenged…
To be confronted…
To be reminded:
You’re not broken.
You never were.
You’re just out of alignment with who you really are.
And when you clear what’s in the way,
everything clicks into place.
That’s the work.
Not just coaching…
Recalibration.
Initiation.
Identity alchemy.
This is about becoming the man you were born to be—
from the inside out.
Because the world doesn’t need more high-performing, half-present men
who know personal development but haven’t integrated it.
It needs men who are fully aligned—
Mind, heart, spirit, and mission.
Men who are grounded, embodied, and fully alive.
That’s what I’m here for.
That’s what I’m building.
And I’m just getting started.
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Speaking & Presenting at David Bayer's Powerful Living Experience 2025 in Austin, TX
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I’m Jared Ganem, founder of Self-Mastery for Men™, and I help men unlock their potential, step into authentic masculinity, and transform their relationships, business, and life using my 7 Levels of Self-Mastery.
Most men read books, watch videos, and attend seminars—yet they’re still stuck. Why? Because surface-level advice doesn’t create real transformation. This channel rewires unconscious conditioning so you can step into masculine power, overcome Nice Guy Syndrome, and take control of your life.
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6 May 2012