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Stop overprotecting your children.
Itâs important for them to understand that Mama and Papa wonât always be there to fix everything. Let them face certain challenges on their own, even if it means watching them struggle a bit. Donât rush to their rescue every time out of loveâyouâre actually making them less prepared for the real world, especially your boys.
Sometimes, when they fall, allow them to pick themselves up if the fall is harmless. Let them cry out for help, and when none comes, let them find the strength to stand up on their own.
Teach them to handle situations without immediately running to you. If my son were to get into a fight, hereâs what Iâd consider before reacting:
- Was he bullying someone weaker?
- Did it result in a serious injury?
- Was he the one who started it?
If itâs a fair fight among peers and he was just defending himself, Iâd give him a high-five. The world is tough, and our kids need to be tough too. Iâm not raising my children to turn the other cheek when slapped or to be passive. They need to be resilient, not crybabies.
If my child comes home saying they were beaten up at school, Iâm not running to the other parents or the school authorities. Instead, Iâd look them in the eye and tell them, âThe weak get beaten; itâs part of life. Defend yourself.â If theyâve tried and failed, thatâs when Iâll step in. Help should come after theyâve put in their own effort, not before.
Too many parents today are raising their children to be overly soft in the name of love and modernity. Have we forgotten how we were raised? Even if we donât replicate it entirely, we should at least strike a balance. My Dad would mock us if we came home crying because some kid beat us up.
We can do better. The world has become tougher, but unfortunately, many men are becoming weaker. Letâs change that.
Abu ImrÄn
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Courting According to Islam: Essential Principles
Many people misunderstand or overlook the proper Islamic guidelines for courting. Here's a brief explanation to help you navigate this important process, but I encourage you to do further research if needed.
Proposing or Approaching
The first step in courting is to propose, known in Arabic as âkhitbah.â According to Islamic teachings, this can be done in several ways:
1. Propose directly to the sister.
2. Propose directly to the sisterâs family or representative (wali/guardian).
3. Propose through a friend or family member to the sister or her representatives.
A verbal acceptance of âkhitbahâ is considered an engagement and a mutual pledge for marriage. While it's not legally binding, breaking it without valid reasons is considered immoral and dishonest.
Impermissible Types of Courting
1. Courting a Married Woman: This is completely forbidden, including courting a woman who is in her iddah (waiting period) after divorce.
2. Courting a Woman Already Being Courted: It's not allowed to propose to a woman who is already being courted until her situation is clearly resolved.
3. Courting When Married to Four Wives: A man cannot court another woman unless he has divorced one of his four wives.
4. Courting a Relative of a Current Wife: A man cannot court a sister or aunt of his current wife simultaneously.
5. Courting After Three Divorces: A man who has divorced his wife three times cannot court her again unless she has been remarried and divorced by another man.
6. Courting During Iddah After a Husband's Death: A woman in her iddah after her husband's death can only be approached indirectly, with direct proposals being allowed after the iddah period.
Looking or Observing
It is permissible for a man to look at a woman he intends to marry before proposing, but with specific conditions:
1. Looking for Marriage: The man can stare and repeat a look for the purpose of marriage, which is otherwise not allowed.
2. No Fulfillment of Desire: The intent must be to assess suitability for marriage, not to fulfill desire.
3. Only Looking at a Potential Match: The woman should be someone the man could potentially marry.
4. No Private Meetings or Touching: The interaction should be respectful and within Islamic boundaries.
5. What Can Be Seen: Generally, only the hands and face are permissible to be seen, though some scholars allow for more. Research further if needed.
6. Photographs: If photos are used, they should not be kept by the courter, and their distribution should be controlled.
Interaction Between an Engaged Couple
Talking is allowed between a man and a woman considering marriage, but certain conditions must be met:
1. Presence of a Wali: Conversations should occur with the presence of the womanâs guardian or representative.
2. No Private Meetings or Touching: The couple should avoid private meetings and physical contact.
3. Truthful Communication: Both parties must be honest, particularly about any issues that might affect the marriage. Concealing important information is sinful.
Finally, it's crucial to remember that even after engagement, the couple is not yet halal for each other until the Nikah is finalized. Intimacy or private meetings are not permitted until marriage.
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May Allah guide us all on the right path.
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"Donât rush into another relationship as a way to move on. Instead, confront what happened, take time to heal, and learn from the experience."
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"If you want a healthy marriage, it's essential to maintain a good balance of personal time, family time, and time spent together as a couple."
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Dua for singles:
âAllahumma inni auzubika min hubbi bila zawaji wa audhu bika min zawaji bila hubbâ
âOh Allah I seek refuge in you from love which doesn't lead to marriage.
And I seek refuge in you from marriage with no loveâ
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Divorce is not haram, and we must stop treating it as if it is. Making what is halal into haram is just as sinful as making what is haram into halal. We are not God, and we cannot 'improve' on His perfect law. Let's stop playing God and cease ostracizing those who are divorced.
â Yasmin Mogahed
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A successful marriage is not a one-time achievement; it is a continual process.
â Shaykh Yasir Qadhi
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When you feel broken and hopeless, let Allah help you, transform you, and make you strong. Always remember Allah.
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For a couple to have a successful relationship, they must understand each otherâs needs. A husband must recognize that a womanâs needs and expectations differ from his own. Great intimacy can only be achieved when a woman finds a complete and fulfilling relationship. So, what are women looking for in a marriage?
Women get married to find a special best friend. They want someone who will share their secrets, laugh and joke with them, love, cherish, and adore them, be romantic, and make them feel beautiful and wanted. They seek emotional and physical attraction through their partner's appreciation of their personality and body.
A woman wants a partner who will journey through life with her, rejoicing in good times and supporting each other through bad times. She desires a man strong in his faith who can take responsibility for the household and help raise children according to Islamic principles.
A woman wants her husband to be her friend, companion, and soulmate. Any good husband must realize that a womanâs primary need is emotional. He should heed the prophetic tradition, âThe best of you are those who are best to their wivesâ [Sahih al-Bukhari], and strive to be the best to his wife.
Men have been assigned the responsibility by Allah to care for their wives, which includes treating them with love and respect and striving to make them happy. If a husband can fulfill his wife's primary needs, he will be rewarded by Allah, and his wife will be content with him, leading to a more harmonious life together. Moreover, when a womanâs needs are met, she will be more willing to fulfill her husbandâs needs, bi iznillah.
The best way to satisfy a womanâs emotional needs is to listen to her and respond with compassion. By listening intently, giving her your undivided attention, and taking a genuine interest in what she says, she will feel loved, cherished, and important. Understand that when she approaches you with her problems, she doesnât necessarily want solutions; she wants sympathy and understanding.
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Body Language Hacks:
1. Avoid Excessive Smiling - Too much smiling can be perceived as submissive.
2. Keep Your Hands Out of Your Pockets - Walking with hands in your pockets can make you appear closed off.
3. Don't Fidget - Fidgeting can give the impression that you are bored or nervous.
4. Maintain a Calm and Slow Tone of Voice - Avoid filler words like "umm" and "like" to sound more confident and composed.
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Our goal is to help you make both your pre- and post-marriage life pleasurable and blissful. This channel is dedicated to discussing Sunnah intimacy, relationship tips, and marriage-related issues in the context of the Quran, Sunnah, sayings of the Companions, and the works of classical scholars, insha Allah.
We dedicate this channel to our beloved Prophet Muhammad ï·ș, as his blessed Sunnah provides the guidance to save Muslim families and homes from divorce and destruction.