02:58

The Best description of TRANSFERENCE I've found, and it's in simple language! | David Richo

01:36

Visceral Gravitas is a constant reframe game - This is Deef's specialty!

02:52

The Torture Process in 3 Steps | Elaine Scarry The Body in Pain

01:16

Sam Vaknin We should never confuse grandiosity w/ narcissism, it's a very common cognitive deficit

01:23

Integrating Trauma = Memory Reconsolidation Process, the conscious Juxtaposition of inner Conflict

01:39:21

Trauma Keeps You Numb, So You Don’t Wake Up! How to integrate memories & rejoin the world! 7/13/24

02:48

Irene Lyons You Have to build Safety INSIDE or predators will sniff out your weakness!? | 7/19/25

01:56:48

Anxiety Mastery the Path to Thriving vs Trauma Obsession Forever Victim Trap | 9/30/23

01:42

The Magic Sauce of Visceral Gravitas? Deef shapeshifting & acting out your grief | 11/11/23

01:57

The Claustrum = The psychic trap where sadism dominates! This drives NPD? Donald Meltzer's model

01:28:37

Escaping Contact w/ Words: Frame Wars, Spinning Perception, Schizoid Defenses & NVLD | 5/24/25

51:28

Weaponized “Help”: How Codependents Gaslight You by Fixing, Soothing and Controlling | 10/21/21

01:38

Process Groups for Schizoids: No Rules, Just Reality—And It Might Work | Dr Daniel Winarick

02:29

All Fear is Fear of oneself and Inner Children | Artem True Freedom Teachings

00:59

Hatred a Way of Rebellion? fueled by unresolved grief? | 5/5/22

03:37

The Dominance Dance of Addict & Codependent fusion crisis | Jan Woititz ACOA Founder

03:11

Emotional Flashbacks & Projection 1on1 wars in Hanna Segal's Symbolization collapse model | 4/12/25

01:41

Sam Vaknin The Mentally ILL have No Boundaries, Everyone else is to Blame

01:08

Joe Rogan Communication Game = Intellectual One-Upsmanship, Scoring Points, Get them to React

00:33

Wounded HEALERS can't heal beyond their own unexplored WOUNDS!! Sigmund Freud from 1910

01:52

Neurotypical Relationship Social Scripts & No words for Mind Blank - Brain Fart gibberish parts

02:27

How to get out of repetition compulsion? Defenses must be Called out in Real Time w/ Mentalizing

02:00

Induced Terror Contagion = Codependent's core wound = devoiced Rage & Fear | 4/20/24

02:11

Sam Vaknin Self IDEALIZATION leads to Self HATRED, depression & ambivalence

01:58:08

CONSIDERATION & Fairness Emotions: Envy, Jealousy & Resentment vs Bullying, Exclusion & Dominance

03:23

The Joy of Assholery & Permission to be Asshole #Deefism | CoCoach Trio 1/17/25

03:31

Sam Vaknin Psychosis Deny Inner worlds, Externalize & Project, It's all OUTSIDE of me!

03:09

Stephen Snyder Compassion as "Tender Holding" & Self tracking Incongruent Behaviors

01:30:39

The way out of Self Betrayal? Calling + Conscience Reunion | 10/5/24

01:49:02

Innocence Lost & Found, then Reconnected | 8/24/24

02:22

Annihilation itself is NO death to EVIL | George MacDonald Lilith

01:28:02

Self-Betrayal & Grief Binds vs Investing in Secure Friendships | 11/25/23

00:47

Despair is Enlightenment?! We Need a SADNESS master!

02:24

Male initiations vs Devouring Mother cultures | Marie Louise Von Franz

01:09

"A sparring ground for developmental conflict skills" Visceral Gravitas concept #Deefism

01:52

Zen Sangha and Other people are the HARDEST THING on the path!!

02:12

Untrickery is super tricky 6/29/24

03:25

Gangster Animus possession "You should NOT do that!!!" | Marie-Louise von Franz

03:17

Dealing with animus possessed women? Give a Loving Hug & Strong SLAP | Marie-Louise von Franz

01:46

Sam Vaknin The original baby trauma? Rejection of the Subject Object Split, schism & awareness

03:23

From inner Demon voices to Discovering Agape Love of Father God

04:31

How to be & become a Man? Standing up & Living with Principles | 8/10/24

53:52

Two Brothers Erasing Shame - Deef interviewed by oldest brother DJ 9/9/24

02:02

The Self Justification Trap | Zen learnings from Shozan Jack Haubner & Brad Warner

01:17

Michael Taft A good teacher Slices thru Spiritual EGO precisely, easily & regularly

02:19

Nick hijacks the theme! Deef failed as group leader redirected to Deef vs John | 8/10/24

02:08

Mark Stavish Life is WAR ... on emotions (and humanity)

01:50:47

Emotional Maturity | Adult Leadership vs Peer to Peer Endless competing | 11/11/23

02:51

Sam Vaknin The Narcissist mishears you as an negative Inner voice, Intrusive Voice, bad object

01:45:56

How Codependents DISOWN their POWER? Defending against NEGATIVE IDENTITY! 8/25/22 #vgcommunity

02:11

George Atwood Pedophile moral outrage example

01:46

Deef The feelings time travel trap | 8/31/23

02:17:39

Context blind Fragmentation and the 3 THOUGHT disorders | 8/31/23

01:36:25

Mercy vs Justice | Sad & Mad Baby Act-Out TRIGGER-fest | open dialogue group 5/22/21

02:26

Sam Vaknin Exposure Therapy to Confront and Disarm Trauma Triggers

02:26

Sam Vaknin How to be a Good Enough Mother

03:31

Sam Vaknin Three Roles of a Good Enough Mother

02:02:25

The Three TOXIC Defenses: Comfort Conformity & Certainty | BPD, NPD & Codep simplified 9/3/22

01:35

Dr Robert Glover What is Integration?

01:36:25

Softening a Rigid Toxic SuperEgo & Re-Owning Humanity 8/6/22