Views : 899,567
Genre: Comedy
Date of upload: Mar 15, 2017 ^^
Rating : 4.716 (2,703/35,386 LTDR)
RYD date created : 2022-02-26T04:18:53.166517Z
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
I love how this is a continuation of the confessional booth. Ted confessed about how he is one of those who secretly admires his friend and he felt that Martha feels the same. In another video, he was ranting about his problems and is feeling depressed. In the confessional booth, Martha complains on how a certain friend always talks of his depression and she's just tired of hearing the same thing.
Each video tackles different themes but the characters are well developed. They have continuity and consistency.
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I don't think the actual problem lies in friendships, but in how people view romantic relationships as being something so alien to friendship. Big cinematic romantic gestures, gifts and sex are the things people focus so much effort on that they ignore the solid foundation that should be beneath it (friendship).
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Wow, after looking at the comments section, it seems to me that many people are missing the actual message of the video. The video presents the irony of Martha and Ted professing that they don't want to have a romantic relationship while describing their relationship using characteristics that are central to strong romantic relationships.
For instance, Martha says that they're "just in a situation of permanent mutual support and understanding." They seem to ascribe that characteristic solely onto friendships, and seem to think that intimacy of that sort becomes impossible in romantic relationships. Hence, they discuss in the latter part of the film how they don't receive the same level of companionship from other people they "go out" with and have sex with. However, what is a true romantic relationship but one of permanent mutual support and understanding? Aren't companionship, trust, and support what we should be seeking in our romantic relationships?
Honestly, I think that the video presented an unfortunate reality on the general discourse about relationships: friendships and romantic relationships are mutually exclusive. As a society (maybe generation?), we've come to believe that we cannot be friends with whom we have sex and vice versa. We've come to believe that we can't receive the love we get from friendship if we receive the more physical love characteristic or romantic relationships.
Solely within the context of Martha and Ted, I thought that the video was really expressing how these two people are so afraid of losing each other's companionship that they don't want to ruin their friendship by making it into a romantic relationship. There's a reason why the final scene of the video was of Martha and Ted engaging in a moment of emotional intimacy on a bench with the inscription M + T while professing that they could never be in a romantic relationship together. Their relationship is primed for a powerful and stable romantic relationship, but they refrain from moving their friendship to a romantic stage from fear of losing the existing trust and support. It is _ironic_, and in my opinion, bittersweet.
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the part about "just friends" really hit me because i've been saying this shit for years. if i even mention just meeting a guy no matter who it is, a collegue, a friend etc. my mom will instantly think that there is something romantic going on or that i want it to be romantic.
personally i value friendships a lot higher that romantic relationships. when i hear how people talk about their spouses and what they expect of them all i could think is that they would never talk like this about their friends. shit they would probably punch the person who talks like this about their friends.
I'd rather never have a permanent romantic partner than never have a long lasting friendship. we expect so different things from friendships and relationships yet one is supposed to be more important than the other?
they both involve loving someone but it's so different kinds of love that it pisses me off to no end when people say they are "just" friends. Be friends. celebrate that friendship. treasure it. cause chances are it will outlive almost all of your relationships
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I was a female "best man" and I couldn't have been happier to fulfill the role. The question was always asked "Why haven't you two got together?" and I've always given the same answer "We know & respect each to much to ruin it with sex and complications."
Now, if I can only find the worst bridesmaid's dress for basically the real life Dumbledore...
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I had a casual hook-up. Later, she became a regular booty call. Eventually, she became a good friend, that I sometimes bang. Now, she's my best friend. I have little doubt that as time goes on, we are gradually and unspokenly going to just naturally become life-partners. There will never be a conversation about it.
Relationships are weird. They take a lot of different forms.
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People think that being a couple is separate to being friends. The fundamental core of a long term relationship is being friends with that person. Even if you fell in love at first sight, even if you feel lust for them, ...the most important thing is friendship. Being in a relationship isn't any different to being in a friendship.
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@SebastianSeanCrow
7 years ago
"Oh no we're just in a relationship" I love that lol
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