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Top Comments of this video!! :3
This makes so much sense. Never diagnosed, but I can definitely relate. I have fairly regular periods of extreme fatigue when I barely function. There's no particular sadness that comes with it, just an overwhelming desire to disconnect and retreat.
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Thank you so much for this. I recall a video with Tony Attwood, where he said something that resonated with me. That, unlike depression, the deep despair (and even suicidal ideation) of autistic burnout/meltdown can shift rather quickly as soon as the neurological system is more regulated. So it can feel like the end of the world one second, and as soon as the noise, smell, anxiety-provoking stimuli is gone and we're back to a more regulated system, things are fine again.
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I remember, when I was 19, a doctor telling me I was the happiest depressed person he'd ever met, and promptly handing me a prescription for an antidepressant that made me feel like I was existing in a fishbowl. I knew quickly that whatever he thought was wrong with me... wasn't wrong with me. And I've always felt like an alien - in my family, among my peers/coworkers etc.
As I've grown (I'm nearly 45), I've come to realize how trauma, ADHD and I'm almost certain autism have impacted my ability (or inability) to interact with a so-called "neurotypical" world. I have not been given an official diagnosis, but after taking some of the online assessments you've shared, I have no doubts and it has helped to explain so much.
Your videos have been so helpful in working through some of the confusion and, frankly, astonishment. I find myself wondering aloud, "How could this have all been so missed?" But I know. I know why, and I don't blame anyone for not better understanding what may have been (was/is) going on with me.
I'm just so grateful for you and your openness! I wish we could be friends. 😊
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About a year ago I was diagnosed as suffering major depression, due to not being able to get myself off the couch to do literally anything. The part that never made sense to me was the feeling of being overwhelmed by any task and major decision fatigue. No antidepressants helped in any way, which really made me wonder what was going on. Knowing about burnout now, makes so much sense.
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Oh, the “there’s nothing wrong with you” really hit me in the heart. There have been so many times during my life where I haven’t had any energy to do anything and people would say “you’re depressed”, but I wasn’t sad. I just felt (and currently feel like) I just want to go into a cozy hibernation for a while before I can function in the NT world again. It’s hard not to beat myself up about the lack of productivity though. Those societal expectations are so ingrained in us.
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I’m concerned that you’ve been pushed towards your own burnout trying to people please this week. 😢 while it’s great to see content/ concepts evolving real time, let’s just remember that the reason we are here is that we are at the bleeding edge of self discovery and everyone’s experiences are not the same and finding the right words to please everyone is hard. At this point in time please: Remember, you are a whole, beautiful person worthy of love and respect.. (where did I steal that from?)
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Anyone else here that's had full-blown panic attacks from a burnout--particularly a late diagnosis and resisting your stims?
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I'm an aspie! I was diagnosed at age 67! Microdosing has helped me so much! I do have major things in my life! (breast cancer diagnosis) but it seems to help in all ways!
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That was really helpful when you said that with depression, you don't WANT to do things that you used to enjoy but with burnout, you may want to do them but feel you CAN'T. That really resonates with me. I had major depressive disorder when I was 26 (but didn't know it until a couple of years after it was over) so I've been very aware of how it feels and try to monitor myself for it in case it happens again. I've sought treatment for it at least once since. It's just interesting to note that I've also had burnout at least twice since then but didn't seek depression treatment for it because it felt different. It's interesting to look back and notice the differences in how each feels, even if they are similar, and it's helpful for the future.
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I just recently discovered I’m on the spectrum and I’m dealing with the grief of things I went through that weren’t needed or useful. I was at a point where I was on 12 pills a day, assuming I was bipolar. I was miserable and they always only made things worse. I’m realizing I was experiencing burnout and shutdowns. Such an eye opener.
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For me the hopeless feelings are qualitatively different with burnout and depression. In depression it's more pervasive and seems to come from nowhere and everywhere, whereas the hopelessness I experienced in prolonged burnout was more directly linked to being unable to understand why I was so ineffective and feeling like I'd never be able to fix it. Now that I know what's going on (usually) I'm less hopeless when I start to burn out.
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This has given me so much to think about. I'm not officially diagnosed ASD, but it is near-certainty. And I'm so burned out almost all the time. My symptoms match your venn diagram for autistic burnout much better than the depression circle. Those times I tried antidepressants, they didn't fix my problems that much.
Most notably, I've experienced a pattern that I've always struggled to understand. I'm very nightowl-ish, and have been diagnosed with a circadian rhythm disorder. In addition to that, however, I experience a pattern of waxing and waning energy nearly every other day. One day I have the energy of a normal adult, the next day is like crawling through molasses, the day after that is back to normal energy, and so on. The good energy days are nowhere near what one would consider hypomania--they are simply what you would expect from a well-rested adult. So I've never taken seriously the notion of ultra-rapid cycling bipolar or anything like that, despite the fact that I'm like two different people on those alternating days--normal person one day, exhausted the next. I've always attributed this pattern to a circadian effect, as if my circadian rhythm were drifting in an out of alignment every-other-day (pulled out of alignment by its natural tendency to drift out of phase and pulled back into alignment due to good sleep hygiene and daily bright light). But this video really has me wondering.
I've been masking for so long, I don't even think about it anymore, but it is subtly draining, not to mention the energy it takes to process everything to the extent that those of us tend to do. The result is I am highly creative and effective in my job...every other day. I wonder if this strange pattern I've experienced my whole life is better explained by daily autistic burnout.
There's another pattern that fits this theory. I travel to scientific conferences for work, which are weeklong marathons of crowded conference centers, scientific conversations, socializing and cacophonous poster sessions. I've noticed I can often go most of the week without crashing (perhaps on adrenaline and a little help from stimulants), but when I return I am often ruined for a week or more. I've often attributed this to jet lag and the time zone changes (something those with circadian disorders are sensitive to), but I wonder how much of this is plainly sensory burnout. I've noticed the same pattern on big vacations as well.
I wonder how many of your viewers with ASD have also been diagnosed with a circadian disorder, or who experience a similar rising/falling energy that may be due to rapidly alternating burnout and recovery.
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I always described my experiences of depression as "more functional than emotional". I felt such profound lethargy, urge to self isolate, and increased anxiety etc that I thought it /must/ be depression, even though feelings of hopelessness and sadness were barely present at all (or only presented after a long time in that "depressed"/burnt out state). Discovering that I'm autistic and learning about burnout makes so much of my life experiences make so much more sense.
However I definitely think it is possible for one to lead to the other, and its important not to let the healing isolation from burnout turn into harmful social isolation and understimulation leading to depression.
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I started crying when you mentioned some of the symptoms of burnout. I was diagnosed with Asperger's in 96 at 20. I have fought depression since the late '90s and after passing 45 I noticed I lost all love for things I once enjoyed only 5 years earlier. I have always believed I was a burden on society and my parents and that I was worthless due to my diagnosis and not feeling I have contributed to society in any way. The whole time I thought I was depressed and lazy. After watching this video some of it makes sense now. I love those eye masks. I found those probably around 2015 on amazing. I was looking for an alternative to wearing a bandana as a way to block out light.
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If you try to add ADHD into this mix, it gets far more difficult to distinguish what exactly is going on.
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As someone who has experienced both (autism is a very recent diagnosis for me), sometimes separately, this was so useful. My depression was odd that usually didn't involve anhedonia -- i WANTED to do things, but I COULDN'T -- and it was strange to me that it presented so differently. Turns out there was a reason for that!
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Just realised that a time where I was struggling after starting a master's degree, whilst working, during lockdown was me going through burnout. I ignored it for so long and had a full on breakdown 9 months later. I was undiagnosed at the time.
Really giving me the tools to reframe my experiences.
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Nothing,i eat or drink lately have been satisfying to me . Had a meltdown today. First time in a while.
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I dont know why the begining of the video made me think of this, but doesnt anyone else have trouble talking to objects like they are people? I have a hard time talking on the phone, cameras, discord and to smart home devices because it's doesnt feel like I'm talking to a person. I intellectually understand when there is a person there but its like my emotions don't believe me.
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@IsabelleAuthor
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Depression: nothing matters. Autistic Burnout: I don’t have the energy to make it matter.
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