Views : 8,937,257
Genre: Music
Date of upload: Apr 13, 2016 ^^
Rating : 4.925 (4,013/210,847 LTDR)
RYD date created : 2022-04-09T21:33:33.854098Z
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i grew up in poverty and especially relate to the “your mother wouldn’t approve of how my mother raised me” because my mother often had to resort to desperate measures to get food on the table and pay bills, and we were often criticized by others for how we looked and acted, we barely took showers to lower the cost of our water bill. thank you mitski, this song means a lot to me.
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this song is the embodiment of the fear and uncertainty you feel when dating outside of your race (and even outside of your economic class), especially dating a white person. you want to be the best you can so you can get the approval of not just his family but sometimes it feels you need your significant other’s approval as well. until finally, you become sick of accommodating, and realize you and where you come from are fine as it is.
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i'm an asian immigrant. and listening to this song just describes everything i've felt for so long that i couldn't put into words. it was just too hard to admit it to myself. i remember reading this story in my english class called "the other family," about a little girl who draws her family as a white family and how her mother reacts to it– and it never truly clicked that that was ME. i am that girl. at 5 and 6 years old, i was living in america, drawing myself as a blonde girl with blue eyes, and i still have those drawings.
it feels so invalidating. because no one ever hurt me for being asian. no one ever made fun of me. no one has ever called me a slur. and yet growing up in this world made me, even at 5 years old, feel so ashamed of my own race i didn't even want to be myself. i wanted to be someone else. i can't believe how even at 12 years old, i was still looking at my white friends and myself in the mirror and thinking that i'm pretty, but i'd be prettier if i was white. or that people would treat me better if i'm white.
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This made me tear up so much. As a Latina, I look like my father, big nose, freckles, coily hair, brown skin, and pudgy. I caught feelings for a lot of white men and it hurts a fuck ton when you are not what they desire because they want to stick to what they know (which isn't always a bad thing). Last white guy I confessed to stopped talking to me and was flirting with a white girl soon after in front of me. I had never experienced such a whirlwind of negative feelings. Self-hate, anger, resentment, sadness, envy and so much more. I wanted to be a white girl so badly. I wanted to have straight blonde hair, green eyes, a tiny nose, and pale skin. But now I'm in the process of learning to love myself the way I am and maybe some will love me too. :)
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this song hits different when ur a woc/poc .
a few weeks ago a old white lady told me a backhanded compliment …. “you’re so pretty to be a chinese” umm ok, yes i'm east asian but not her assuming that i'm chinese and tbh that made me so uncomfortable and also made me cry all the night cuz i was finally accepting and loving my ethnicity, culture and features and that lil “compliment” made me again (like when i was a kid-tween) wanted to look white, to be white so bad:( ik that from the non poc vision this sounds stupid but i swear that for me it wasn’t
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the reference of the sun and moon/ day and night is a callback to “Sun and Moon” from Miss Saigon, which is a song about Kim (who is Viet) and Chris (who is white). the line “you’re the sun, you’ve never seen the night but you hear its song from the morning birds” symbolizes how white people never will truly face racism and are lucky to have only hear it from others (the morning birds) . when mitski says that she’s “not the moon” and she’s “not even a star” she talks about how she isn’t even the desirable parts of the night. this verse is also when the white woman appears, dressed in a culture that is not hers, which the white man is interested it, culture being the “stars” and the “moon” in the metaphor of the verse.
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this song resonates with me in the most agonising way possible. when i was younger, i moved to a different country and went to school with mostly white students, which was already tough as a chinese kid but it only burned worse, because my best friend at the time was a pretty girl with red hair, freckles, and hazel eyes. she was foreign too, but not the kind of foreign that i was. she was the type where they'd have glimmering eyes at the very sight of her, and i remember all the times the boy i liked would always look at her when he was talking to us, how she was always considered prettier than me, how everyone always liked her better and flocked to her, how boys always were nice to her when they always made fun of me. they adored her and her lovely hazel eyes while they pulled back theirs at the sight of mine. she was everything. i was so little when id realised that no matter who i was or who i tried to be, i wasn't even a flicker of electricity while she was a hundred fireworks igniting all at once. i wish i never knew her, i wish i never had to be the rough patch in her presence, i wish i was her.
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@wow5975
3 years ago
i feel like a really cool detail in the music video is that mitski is kind of the one that everyone is touching up? like she’s the one in lipstick and a pantsuit and the person everyone is trying to fix , like with hairspray and other things. meanwhile the “all-american boy” is just there, in nothing but a grey tank top and some pants, with no one trying to “fix him”. they can’t fix him because to them, he’s already perfect. he’s the standard.
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