Views : 493,868
Genre: Education
Date of upload: Apr 3, 2017 ^^
Rating : 4.947 (225/16,882 LTDR)
RYD date created : 2022-03-29T09:59:22.975427Z
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
My eyes are wet with tears whenever I try to complain. People around me (mainly family and really close friends since they are the only ones to whom I would complain) would then belittle my feelings or become impatient while I try to talk with my trembling voice. They would say things like "It's nothing. Get over it."; "Don't be such a baby."...
I totally understand that people are not interested in the dull details of others' daily lives. They don't mean to hurt me. But still, I am disappointed that my compassion is not reciprocated.
Now, I am a cold fury. I complain to absolute nobody to avoid humiliation or negligence. I secretly feel that my voice is not deserved to be heard and nobody would try to understand. I know it isn't true but that's just the way I feel.
But, journaling is a great way to vent. I can weep with sorrow, curse with anger, smile with joy during my writing without being judged, laughed at and rolled eyes at. Give it a try if you also find difficulty in mature complaint.
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I love how hearing things we already know can be so refreshing. It's not like we don't know that screaming doesn't help, it's not like we don't know that keeping things for ourselves will only make our feelings worse. But still everytime we hear it we think 'oh what a delightful wisdom'
People are weird.
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This one hit pretty deep. I very much doubt that complaining rationally and confidently gets any better results than the "cold fury" approach most of the time. Most people that hurt you probably don't have your best interests in mind, which is why they felt fine about hurting you to begin with. Having the kind of self-confidence and self-love to complain well is probably better for us internally though.
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Thank you so much for this video! I had just recently yelled at 2 of my closest friends for a passing remark because I have felt so belittled by them for so long. The video described what I did, how I felt and what I want to aspire to so accurately and gently, I feel more empowered to work a way to save my relationship with them. Thank you!
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i'm currently the happiest i've ever been in my life (although only 16) and you, the school of life, i have to largely thank for my happiness. i truely wish every person who contributes to this channel all the best. You're really making a difference in peoples lives like you have in mine. Thank you and keep it up. i give you all my love<3
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Does anyone not question their own reasons for becoming offended in the first place? My thoughts are that discomfort with what others say or do, often points to places in our psyche in need of healing... that the pain others cause us is frequently not intentional. Blaming others for how we feel is the coward's way out, and ignors a perfectly good opportunity for introspection, healing and self growth. As well failing to recognize that emotions are a self generated choice.
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@riesnatt510
7 years ago
the school of life literally teaches me what i should know about that other people dont teach.
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