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I believe it. Im a guy and Iām a stay at home caregiver for my mom. Lot of bad things happened that led me to doing this, schizophrenic sister, dad with copd, mom being disabled and bedridden for years, dad and sister both passing away. Iāve been out of work for 14 years caring for both parents, now just my mom. It was the right path to take but hasnāt been an easy path. One thing Iāve realized is that nobody treats me with the same respect they did before I quit working. Iām always being harassed about being jobless and broke and have been since it started. All of my relationships with family, including my mom, have been hurt by this. Itās sad and itās been difficult, but Iām still glad I did it. Not sure why but people who stay at home, regardless of their reasons, arenāt treated as equals. Makes no sense to me.
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What justification does a man have for divorcing a stay-at-home mom that protected, clothed, bathed, and fed his kids, not to mention she took them to the doctor and helped them with their homework, their emotional issues, tolerated their tantrums, defiance, and messes???
If you are the one initiating a divorce from a woman who has not cheated, committed financial abuse, or deceived you in some way, then yes, she is entitled to a huge payout.
Your kids were or are still safe in her care and she probably has no job prospects due to years of being out of the workforce, which gives her no competitive edge.
If you donāt want to have a SAHM for a wife, then simply DO NOT have children.
Having children and then requiring her to work to pay babysitters and daycares to look after them is purely asinine.
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You hit the nail on the head. My husband moved me 2000 miles from my home and family. After 15 years he deserted me with 3 children, no job, no friends, no family. This was 30 years ago and I still don't know where I found the strength to make a new life. It was tough.
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What you meant is the husband feels like an ATM and the wife feels like a free babysitter who gets no break
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This makes me sad. My husband was an engineer. I was home with our kids for 16 years until my youngest entered 3rd grade. Our kids were our top priority. My husband was thankful I was home caring for them. Together, we invested and saved enough money to retire early. We make a great team.
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The husband feels like an ATM because he doesnāt see the money as ātheirsā. He sees it as giving āhisā money to her. His worth in society is tied to his net worth. He sees her use of their resources as diminishing his worth. She puts too much focus on the kids because they become a reflection of her worth. She is invisible other than being mother. The way through is a deep mutual respect for each other, both having financial literacy, open communication, and celebrating each otherās growth. Also, society can work to disassociate worth from net worth, prioritize financial literacy in education, and teach communication skills.
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Before we were married, my then-boyfriend and I discussed how we would run our home. He expected me to work to earn money for our home like his mother did. I told him I wanted to be a homemaker like my mom. He really struggled with this and discussed it with his dad, who admitted that having his wife work outside the home probably cost them more in childcare, fuel, professional clothing, convenience food (since no one was at home to cook meals from scratch), and several other incidental costs, than it would for her to stay home and take care of her family. My husband and I have now been married for 12 years and have children. He has repeatedly remarked how much he appreciates me being home and caring for our family (we also homeschool), and how our home feels better than his home growing up.
But we both have to be on board. I canāt just wear designer dresses and go to the movies every day and buy expensive junk we donāt need. Every dollar is accounted for. We garden a lot and I put food up. I cook mainly from scratch and do laundry and clean and teach and taxi and all the things our household requires. When he comes home, I make sure his needs are met. And he makes sure our family has what we need.
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She is right. Stay at home moms do not get much respect for their work at home.
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My wife was a Stay at Home Mom when the kids were little, then she started to work at their Elementary School so she could be off when they were out of school..."Stay at Home Working Mom???".
My attitude was to work hard to provide for the Family, but when I came home, it was fun to give 100% to the Wife/Kids when I walked through the door.
-Gave my wife 30 to 60 minutes off when I got home
-Weekends the kids were 50% mine to take care of, so she could do somethings she wanted to do with friends or for herself
-When we went out to dinner, I made sure the kids were NOT being wild so she could enjoy a nice dinner
-We went to a movie when the kids were babies, I would take the baby out of the movie if they were crying, so my wife could enjoy the movie
Just because you are a "Stay at Work Dad", does not mean you get to take a Vacation from your family when you get home...Your wife and kids NEED your 100% support when you are at home.
***Of course, my wife make sure I could take a power nap or some quiet time or to watch a Basketball Game.
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Say what you want. Iām a stay at home mom and it wouldnāt change my choice to hear this. I have been married for 32 years and the only job I held was when my kids were school age and I was a substitute teacher. I would do it again!
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You should not be nervous because you are revealing the problems. If people can see the problems, they can avoid it! You are a wonderful lawyer!
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It seems to me that SAHMs are pretty vulnerable in divorce situations.
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Itās the most common because our society has decided to respect stay at home moms so little and their husbands latch onto thatā¦.. Meanwhile other people pay someone else thousands a month to watch their kids, clean their house, cook meals, shopā¦ If society acknowledged it is a job that they should consider is worth the amount they will pay others there would he no contempt from anyone.
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Poor data set. Teacher, nurse and homemaker are probably the three top occupations of woman, so it would make sense they are the top.
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I stayed at home for a little, accidentally while I was very young. I quit my job because it was a toxic environment and was stay at home until I found a new job. I thought it would be the dream and I actually hated it and quickly became depressed. Itās very isolating and the work is mundane. I felt like I was wasting away. I also absolutely hated having my man pay for everything all the time, it didnāt feel like I could relax it just made me feel tense and like I couldnāt get what I really needed/wanted. It also created more tension in our relationship because my whole life became waiting for him to get home, and it was hard for me to give him space to do his own things because I was craving social interaction so much. Iām thankful for the experience bc I realized I hated it and didnāt have to realize that after it was too late.
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I am a Princeton grad with a masters degree who worked at a financial firm in New York City for 15 years before leaving to stay home with my kids. I can definitely understand why stay at home moms would feel vulnerable. Itās a tough, extremely isolating job. That being said, I donāt regret leaving my well paying job to do it. I think my children benefited immensely from it and my husband would definitely agree. I think this video actually speaks to how difficult it is for stay at home moms to reenter the workforce. Itās not easy and it leaves women trapped in bad marriages. I wish more companies would work on programs that help transition intelligent women who have been home back into jobs that match their skill set. And to any stay at home moms reading this - I get it. My most stressful day in finance was still easier than staying home with kids. Itās an extremely tough around the clock gig so donāt ever feel bad about yourself for having that gap in your resume. No one can understand how hard it is until they do it.
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Judging by the title, I thought it was going to be a smear against stay at home moms. She was very respectful and spoke the facts. I think instead of this looking bad for stay at home wives and moms, let's choose to learn from it. If both people want a more traditional household, how can they make that happen while avoiding these pitfalls?
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The real issue is that a legal agreement should be worked out when one parent stays home, giving them proof of work and paying into social security.
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My husband who has an excellent high paying career always looks down on me for not having a job and being a sahm. If I dare complain about one thing or ask him for help, he says what do I have to complain about, he gives me everything I need, blah blah blah. I seriously just had to use the bathroom today and when I was done, our 2 year old was on the dining room table, poised to fall off. He was home, just in his gaming room playing his guitar, where he always is when he's home. He avoids us and says I make our home unbearable.
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@philterzian9162
3 months ago
Itās ironic, because the most important job a parent has, by far, is raising the children. I was an engineering manager in a huge company, my wife was a stay at home mom, I never thought for a moment that her job was easier or less important than mine.
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