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Ok to be clear about nor serving food to guests is a way to not overstep boundaries. if you a dinner guest you get served food, if you on a play date as a child you only get served food if it is agreed befor hand between the parents. So if you feed other parents children without agreeing to do so you belittle the other parents. It is like "we are better att taking care of your children then you are." and that is the rude part that you avoid. The other thing was that it is not that fun making dinner and your kid gets home and have already eaten, overstepping boundaries. It usually was more common during the 70s and 80s but is slowly dying of. Dinner use to be a more private and impotent family gathering.
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One thing worth asking: "If you have guests at your home, is the host or the guest expected to express that it's time to leave?" (Assuming the end of visit has not been agreed on previously.)
As a Finn, I still remember when we had a guest from some African country and the guest was still in our home really late in the evening because the guest assumed it's rude to suggest they would leave and Finns rarely recommend the guests to leave, so the end result was both parties were waiting for the other party to take initiative.
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6:30 I am South Korean. Funny thing is, a few years ago, the Korean weather forecast was so "unreliable" that many Koreans searched the Norwegian weathering service instead and it was actually more accurate ๐
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The thing about not getting dinner at your friends house in Sweden was much more true around 20 years ago and before. The background is the swedish mentality that you dont want to be in "debt" or owe anything to other people. My parents would be furious if i ate at my friends house without telling them. First they felt embarrased that the other parents maybe would think that i did not get any food at home. Second: They now would have made food for me and when i came home i did not want it. As a kid you did not think that it was weird that you sat alone in your friends room while they had dinned. Then you could play on their Nintendo 64 or playstation by yourself! Now when i have become older i see that all of this seems a bit weird :D
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Scandinavians have a reputation for being closed off and can be perceived as unfriendly. It should really be perceived as politeness in the way that we respect each other's private sphere. I perceive Scandinavians, or at least Danes, as practical in the sense that we can very well have a conversation together if there is something to talk about, but that we don't do it for the sake of the conversation. ONE of the few exceptions to that rule is that the weather is an excellent way to "break the ice". I am curious as to whether Scandinavians from other countries perceive it somewhat in the same way?
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The Swedish dinner thing, as a Swede we only cook what's nessecary for the people who we know beforehand will be eating so if another person all of sudden would eat there wouldnt be enough food for everyone.. >.>
But if we know before we shop/make the food then for sure we would invite the person to eat there!
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I was born and raised in Saint Petersburg, so I also got used to this kind of weather (same latitude - same issues). We have 62 sunny days in a year (on average), so grey skies and rains are kind of our thing, the same with seasonal depression due to the lack of daylight in winter.
In May 2022, my husband and I moved to Izmir, Turkiye, and we got quickly irritated by the amount of sunlight (yes, the sun is really good for your mental health, although). Here, there are 300!! (that's too much, +-5 times more than in St.Petersburg, omg) sunny days in a year on average. Grey skies and low temperatures make us go for a walk as nothing else, and we are extremely happy when it rains here.
So, we're convinced that southern countries are not our cup of tea, hehe, and we're moving from Turkiye in a few months (our second attempt to find a new home).
P.S. I'm in love with Scandinavian countries. I spent a week in Norway (in the Northern part) and a week in Sweden (mostly in Gรถteborg) as a kid while I was on tour with a choir. Also, we've been to Finland and Denmark for a few days. In my free time, I learn Bokmรฅl (just because I like it, no purpose).
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I don't serve food to people, unless i'm also eating.. except dinners, i don't offer them dinner. That has to be talked about before i make the food.. Of course, if the person needs food and i happen to have extra, sure, not a weird request in my book.
But, Finnish people will brew coffee, you just need to ask, and often they ask you. That is our way to do it, coffee and cookies/cake/etc. It is not at all considered rude, we are all addicted to coffee so "could you make a cup of coffee" is normal request that isn't even thought about as a chore. I live alone, and don't have lot of guests, i usually go out to see people.. but even i have a cookie jar for guests.
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Actually many Finnish cities have pretty good public transportation compared to most parts of the US. Not only that but many cities are quite walkable. For example I grew up in Kuopio and you could basically walk through the entire city, including suburban areas, without needing to interact much at all with infrastructure designed for cars. It was like two different worlds that existed within the same city โ one for pedestrians and one for cars.
The countryside is an another matter but then again what do you expect. You get a few busses a day and that's it.
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From perhaps the 50s-90s, it was not common for children to eat at their friends' houses, unless it was the case that you slept over, coffee was a completely different matter. The reason is that dinner was a family time, it was when the parents had time to talk to their children, about homework etc. the first thing a parent's friend asked when you got to their house was when you were going home for dinner, eating dinner with someone else's child was considered quite rude to the other family as they had planned food for their child and had a family time, of course did it work if one's friend's family called one's family and asked if it was ok. However, this should preferably be done well in advance, such as the day before.
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@lamisbilqis5499
3 months ago
Never having a geography class is wild
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