@riverstein7251

1 year ago

As an extra tip, consider that college is hard and you’ll want to cry sometimes but won’t have access to the privacy to do so because of your roommate, or two, or three, and whoever they decide they want to bring over in the dead of night. Scope out the campus for quiet places to go cry. Consider that if it’s nighttime a chosen building on campus might not be open, but generally libraries on American campuses are quiet with lots of places to hide and they often don’t close until 2am. You’ll want to look for a place like that. Just bring a jacket or something to cry into that’ll muffle your voice, and cover your face with a low hat or hoodie or something so no one sees your face. If you’re fortunate enough to have a car I’d recommend that as the best safe space to let it out. There may also be private study rooms on your campus to rent that’ll give you all the privacy you need, they may even be sound proof, but in my experience these have shorter operating hours than the library. Also, if you’re having a hard time, most colleges in the US offer discounted therapy/counseling sessions. Therapy sessions on my campus go for $25/hour. It may help you to just let it all go and talk to someone about the stress you are under. Edit: The range in the reactions of these comments is about what I expected. Honestly, if you can afford it, get a place where you have your own room. The dorms are way too expensive for what they are and your mental health will be better overall. Edit 2: I'm surprised this came up in my notifications again and is doing concerningly well, lol. I will say that if you are required to live on campus, on campus apartments are always a thing, and dorms vary a lot in design, so make sure you look into them. Some may even let you have your own room or a dorm all to yourself. You can even be able to opt out of dorm living through certain ways (at my school, if you can't afford the dorms, you can opt out). If you absolutely feel you have to, you can curtain off part of the room to give yourself some privacy from a roommate. If you have a loft bed, putting a curtain on the underside your loft bed could give you a nice place to sit in private. I never meant to scare anyone with this so I also just want to say that college is amazing--you get to meet so many new interesting people, explore who you are, and have the time of your life. Its also expensive and a lot of work, on top of now having to take care of yourself as a legal adult. It can be a really fun time if you take care of your mental health and properly process/get help with the major life shift into adulthood. It's hard to have fun at all when you're not taking care of yourself, and you're less likely to do it if you're newly an adult. Get counseling, attend workshops, and do whatever you think you need to do to adjust if you are struggling.

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