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As an adult I notice this immediately. I have to talk myself out of it and continue to tell myself "you are NOT responsible for their mood" and more.
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It's exhausting, the belief that everything somehow relates back you.
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I totally feel responsible for the moods and feel like I have to help them and fix it and make everything okay. My entire childhood was that. Thank you Patrick because since listening to your videos I’m almost no contact and I’m doing okay now.
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I think there's another mood - when someone is angry or upset what I do is freeze, make myself small and shrink away if I can. I also get really quiet. I can be in the same room with the person and still I can feel myself shrinking down like Alice in the moment.
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I stopped being available to absorb people’s bad energy.
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Other people’s moods 100% for me. Fawning and feeling anxious and easily controlled when threatened with the knowledge of the bad mood response if I don’t do what someone wants.
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I would say I'm neither overly empathetic nor defensive. I'm mostly just hypervigilant—if I sense that someone is in a bad/tense mood, I literally cannot pull my eyes away from them. I don't really act or say anything, I'm basically just frozen, observing every nuance of their body language and heart pounding a mile a minute. I guess in my head I am sorta going through and trying to trace back to when their tense mood started and whether I did anything to cause it.
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I tend to lean mostly to the side of assuming I caused other people's moods. Where does that come from? Hmmm... Well that's how it felt often as a child and teenager. When I wanted or needed my parents it often had the potential to upset, frustrat and burden them. They could suddenly get very loud, mad, sad or all of the above. Sometimes it would feel like my mere existence was just too much for them and they couldn't handle to be around me at all. As a kid, you don't understand they are responsible for their own mood and/or they have their adult problems. I just wanted them to love me and feel happy to be with me. How could you not turn that inward and start trying to figure out "what did I do?" "How can I act differently to make their life easier and keep them around more?" It caused decades of intense people pleasing and anxiety without ever feeling good enough still. These days, I try to remember just to focus on my own mood. You find that most days, that coworker sighing has very little to do with you at all. Other people have their own lives going on. I'm just not really as big a deal in people's lives as I used to be in the toxic family system. And it feel great to just let myself exist more and more.
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For me I think the problem was the disproportionately intense or unkind reactions to very minor offense or mistakes. Nothing was ever "not a big deal" with a reassuring smile - it was always a mistake... and mistakes were unacceptable.
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Oh I always think it's something I did to cause it. Always my fault...
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As a kid, I knew that the moods of the adults in the house were not my fault; but I also knew that I was at their mercy, and had no real power to fight back or speak my mind or get them to see that they were taking their frustrations out on the rest of us.
That feeling of helplessness, of powerlessness endures to this day, and when I can, I tend to stay the hell away from other people, so as not to have to bear the brunt of their inability to process their emotions.
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The first one, definitely... I think it came from not wanting to trigger a mood... Not wanting to rock the boat... I became super tuned into other's body language, tone, facial expressions, etc.
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The only thing I fear is that I will get physically hit by the other person when they show anger or a intense mood. I’m a grown as$ man and still fear this
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The only thing we have power over, the only person we can control is ourselves. That is enough of a task in and of itself. It’s liberating to acknowledge this.
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I just repeat to myself it's not my business but it is definitely hard to not immediately start taking over to fix it.
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Emotionally immature, unstable, neglectful mother. Her problem not mine. Hope she's resting in peace ✌️
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I know exactly where mine came from — the cold 🥶 silence mood is triggering for me. Me guessing what “did I do” internal questioning myself, over and over …
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The thing that bothered me was not that I felt responsible for the moods but the inability to do something about the people who tried to make me responsible for their moods. It caused so much anger and distrust. I felt separated and, at times, guilty for not feeling responsible.
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This has definitely been me, I didn't know this was a common thing. I guess it makes sense, a lot of us grow up afraid, even terrified of what our parents will do when they're in a bad mood.
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@cinnabun715
3 months ago
Other people’s anger is TERRIFYING
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