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Date of upload: Jul 19, 2023 ^^
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quietly and systematically changed my mindset about myself and once on solid ground about my own worth, got out of an almost 20 year toxic marriage at 65 years old. It took many years to quiet the voices in my head saying I deserved the narcissistic alcoholic I was married to. Free to be me now and celebrate me on the daily.
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I agree a 💯%.. If we are still operating in a space of 'how do I get this person to see me in a new light.. We are still trying to control the external therefore we are still operating from a masculine energy. Embracing our Feminine energy comes with a lot of surrender
As always, thank you Margarita ❤
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I very much agree with Margarita's words and I am thankful she is doing the work of educating, challenging and motivating people in suffering.
The change from an emotional co-regulation style (co-dependency) to a self-regulation style (inter-dependency) is extremely painful as it challenges the very structure of the co-dependent self. It is a change that demands a confrontation with the fundamental fear of being utterly alone and unlovable (a fear with the intensity of a fundamental threat to psychological integrity, a threat to the Self, experienced like a danger of imminent death). I am not exagerating. The experience of threat to integrity of the Self makes the co-dependent rely on a emotion-to-action style of regulation (focus on emotion to organise one's actions). The change to a self-regulation style implicates a change in that style to its exact opposite, meaning, to a action-to-emotion style (focus on actions first so to organise ones emotions). The key word is "focus". The change is not about fixing ones emotions as ones emotions are like the weather, we can not change them. The goal is to practice "attention refocusing". Driving ones attention focus from emotion to actions. from emotion to action. It is extremely difficult but it can be done. And it's easily done when that focus (action before emotion) is practiced outside strong emotional dysregulation.
If you are reading this from that place of pain and worry, be compassionate towards yourself but, also, be brave! You are stronger than you were made to believe.
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It's essential to remember that change is not a one-size-fits-all approach. What works for one person may not work for another. So, let's not compare our journeys to others'. Each of us has unique strengths and challenges, and that's what makes our stories special. I've learned from experience that having a support system is invaluable. Surrounding yourself with like-minded individuals who encourage and motivate you can make a world of difference. Share your aspirations with family, friends, or even find communities online that share your interests.
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Another thing to note is that you can actually put the effort in and change. An yet that person will still see you and treat you the same. Every time a disagreement come up, they will bring up the past, never nothing current. They will never let you move on or forget. They will keep you in that same place in their minds. So eventually you will have to leave and start with someone new. Always change for you because you can not please everyone.
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@MandyJRoss
9 months ago
If you're reading this I'm praying something amazing happens for you today.💗
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