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āhe hit me and it felt like a kissā is a song by The Crystals from like the 60s, and was written by a woman who was being abused by her husband.
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Youāre absolutely right about the Jim Jones mass suicide reference..Where the followers were brainwashed to drink cyanide laced Kool-Aid. The footage for her āFreakā music video was originally meant for āUltraviolenceā.. it features a Charles Manson-like cult, and Lana drinks Kool-Aid in the video. She also talked in interviews about how she herself used to be in a cult which she was lucky enough to escape from. She said the leader had an abusive ābreak you down in order to build you upā mentality. That inspired this song. A dark, tragic, poetic lens into the mind of a submissive woman brainwashed and blinded by a toxic love. Features many extreme symptoms of someone who might have Dependent Personality Disorder.
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Lana has many ācontroversialā lyrics, some even more so than this song. Iāve never understood the accusations that sheās glamorizing these subjects. Her music is her art & I feel like she has the right to sing about experiences sheās had whether theyāre good or bad. Iāve always got the impression that she writes her music for herself first & foremost then she chooses to share it with us, thankfully. I can see how it could potentially be therapeutic & healing for her. But I can also see how it could make some people uncomfortable regardless of her intentions. None of my comment is directed specifically at you or your reaction btw, just some general thoughts Iāve had regarding this song for a few years now. Loving all of your Lana videos! ā¤
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victims of abuse should be allowed to talk about it without fear of judgment and without fear of making others uncomfortable, so that they can understand what they are going through and get out of that situation. Great video šš§”
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she wasnāt singing about how she wants the abuse sheās singing about her trauma and how he manipulated herā¤
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This song in my opinion is in the Stockholm system mindset. I went through it. With a guy I loved since we were kids. A lot of people get mad and say that sheās glamorizing abuse in the song but I donāt see it that way . I see it in a therapeutic way of talking about it and that was the mindset of how she thought of things at that time which I relate to. When she came out with this song it helped me get out of the 7+ years of it that I dealt with. This song helped me leave. I instantly knew how she meant this song the first time I heard it.
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"I could have died right then because he was right beside me." Is the most intense lyric in this song for me
To me she is saying she's so happy with him she could die because he's by her side
But also that her life is in danger because of abuse and that she could die at any moment should he go even further.
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Man you upload so often i am impressed at the amount and quality. Good job, please dont burn yourself out.
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I never got the people who blame her for āglamorization of abuseā. I think she captures it as it is, an experience like any other. Itās shocking to others because they havenāt experienced it or been in that state of mind. Sometimes even if you are in the depths of an abusive relationship, it can feel like you are deeply entwined with the other person (or thing). Sometimes that entwinement even feels comforting or it feels like you deserve it, no matter how toxic and hurtful and unhealthy having that point of view is. That is a nuanced and paradoxical situation to be in which she captures perfectly. Even the unhealthy and dark parts of human experience deserve to be captured and expressed. That can even be a cathartic process and it could even be the thing that convinces you to break free from the abuse (seeing your art reflecting back this gruesome experience which is all kinds of twisted). What matters is that she got over this.
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I read somewhere that Jim is Jim beam... apparently she said that in an interview. She has referred to Jim in more than one song, "jimmy jimmy coco puff" ...
Also, "Jim raised me up"
She was sent to a boarding school as a teen for alcoholism.
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This is exactly what Lana's "Question For The Culture" post was criticizing. Mainstream girls like Rihanna and Beyonce have multiple songs about violence in a relationship, assault, etc. For example Beyonce's Drunk In Love lyric "Eat the cake, Anna Mae" Yes it wasn't sang by Beyonce but it was still on her song, if she had a problem she could've done something about it. Or when Rihanna said, "Just gonna stand there and watch me burn? Well, that's alright, because I like the way it hurts" What's the difference between that and Lana saying "give me all of that ultraviolence" or perhaps "he hit me and it felt like a kiss" which was actually a song by a woman who was being abused in the 1960's. Nobody undertsands how hard it is to leave someone you have known or been close with for a while regardless of what they put you through, that is why she sings about it the way she does. Many times when a long term relationship gets abusive, many people go into a stage of denial as you mentioned in this video. "I can hear violins" or "It felt like a kiss" is her trying to convince herself that everything is alright. No victim should have to be shamed and criticized for speaking up about there experience, people do it all the time and are praised for it, many mainstream artists sing about it yet for some reason it's only a problem when it comes to Lana.
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"he hit me and it felt like a kiss" is not a way to romanticize abuse. I don't understand why so many people see this line so literal. She's talking about how it gets easy for someone to see things that way once you are stuck in an abusive relationship. There's this constant build up and break down that many abusers do, that's one of the reasons why it's so hard to get out of these situations because we're being manipulated.
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Ultraviolence could also be the words ultraviolet and violence put together, ultrviolet being a very energetic and damaging type of radiation no one is able to see. Lana could also be talking about an abusive relationship no one sees
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As to me the strongest lyrics is 'Jim told me that', it gives me chills every time. It makes think about how we could completely entrust ourselves to people who embody all our insecurities and past traumas
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Lana has some ācontroversial lyricsā but you canāt help but appreciate the bravery of writing down and creating music out of your own experiences
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im glad you also picked up on how ultraviolence is the violence being done to her that isn't seen! i heard someone once talk about how it's like ultraviolet light, unable to be seen by the human eye. your take on the song being about her alcoholism is also really interesting to me. people have speculated that "Jim" could reference jim beam, jim jones, and also jim morrison, who she mentions in another song, "gods and monsters"
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He Hit Me and It Felt Like a Kiss is also undoubtedly a reference to the song of the same name by The Crystals, which also hints at the toxic and abusive relationship between Phil and Ronnie Spector, a lot of disturbing music history there as well. I also find that in light of her music video for candy necklaces , I'm so stunned at Lana's ability to look at her lineage, whether it be her family or the women / history in music and Hollywood that inform her context today, she is constantly creating new meaning and juxtaposing the past with her present.
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I will be honest I resonated a lot with ultraviolence the song because it really mirrored how my mindset was when I was in an abusive situation. It is like vent song for me because I needed to be able to explain why I stayed in that cycle of abuse and trauma bonding. "He lift me up" then he'd take me down low. I thought I was such crap and being hurt was what I felt like I deserved. And he made me feel like I deserved it. So I felt like him hurting me was what I needed and that was what was going to help me repent for my sins because I saw him as my everything. I put him above me. Abuse is hard and some abuse survivors don't make it out. Luckily I did. I don't see this song as glamorizing the violence. I see it as an expression that is accurate. Sometimes the truth is uncomfortable. Some ask " why do abuse victims stay"? This is why. It's ugly and awful and warped
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You DEFINITELY should do Pretty When You Cry, it's from that same album and it's the final point in this relationship.
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@logan4231
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āHe hit me and it felt like a kiss, Jim brought me back, reminding me of when we were kidsā also reminds me of the way kids are taught that when a boy hits you it means he has a crush on you. Itās instilled in us from a young age to accept that behavior.
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