@HarvestGremlin

1 year ago

I've heard that alot of people have ragged on lana for supposedly "romaticizing" domestic violence, especially with this album. I'm wondering if alot of the people who are criticizing her/this album in that way haven't experienced domestic violence first hand, and/or been in an abusive relationship of any kind. It's hard to come to terms with how powerful of a hold that type of relationship can have on you, especially when there's a trauma bond aspect in play. As a person who has gone through some seriously rough relationships, I don't see it as her glorifying it, I see her lyrics acknowledging how powerful trauma bonds can be, to the point that you feel any attention from your toxic partner is perceived as validation/affection. "He hit me but it felt like a kiss." "He hurt me but it felt like true love" These lines hit me so hard because it can truly feel that way, your perception of what healthy attention/affection means can become so skewed if you're in an abusive relationship. I think she was able to highlight so eloquently the way that those scenarios can feel, when you're so desperate for attention from your long term partner that any interaction, even physical abuse, is somehow a form of validation. It's terribly sad and I really feel that I can see what lana was trying to convey by making this specific song and also alluding to unhealthy attachments and codependency in other tracks throughout her discography. She's honestly a brilliant writer and story teller through her music and it's very disheartening that alot of people are unable to tap into and understand her deeper intentions and displays of emotional turmoil through her lyrics.

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