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Our video on Jessie’s channel! • JUICY Q&A! Our biggest regret in love...
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
Just my 2 cents for anyone who hates shaving - you can stop. I haven't shaved my legs or armpits since the start of the pandemic. Ok, where I live it is rarely too hot for tights and I prefer to wear sleeves anyway so normally only my partner sees these parts of me, but we recently went away to a popular holiday resort known for its swimming pool complex with some friends and it was fine. I didn't feel like people were looking at me or anything, it hardly crossed my mind at all. But as is the point of the video - do what makes you most comfortable ❤
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I think I understand why some people don't like it when others talk about their insecurities. A good few of my own insecurities have started because I heard or saw other people be insecure about the same thing. I will never blame those people because it's not their fault that they are insecure about their bodies but I can understand the frustration maybe.
For example, I didn't care about my acne scars until I saw a youtuber (not you) talk about how she was insecure about hers. I didn't even know I had them. And then it almost felt like I was supposed to be insecure about that ?
I'm not sure my thoughts are really making sense right now but I'll share them like that anyways and am open to talk about it (obviously also if you are not Mel 😉)
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During my first pregnancy I felt amazing, it was the first time ever in my life I truly felt 100% comfortable in my skin. I think bc I had suffered with an eating disorder from 11-20 right up until I was pregnant it felt so so freeing to eat and get bigger but for it to be celebrated and a positive thing. I’m now currently pregnant with my second, and I’m only in my first trimester (10 weeks) but I feel so much more insecure about my changing body. I think part of it is that I don’t look pregnant yet, but I have visibly gained weight and I feel insecure about people thinking that of me. With my first we were in lockdown and now people at work etc are seeing my changing body without the context of me being pregnant.
Body image is such a weird thing, but I hope you know you’re not alone
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I love the discussion of acceptance vs. love. There is a love you have for yourself to accept things - but you don’t have to get joy from your stretch marks haha
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Love this completely agree, so glad to hear you talk together!
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Love these videos - they help me feel less alone with my own body image issues. Thanks Mel and Jessie 💚
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100% behind you Mel. My sister and I have VERY different body types, and until recent years, I didnt even realize she struggled with the same body insecurities I do, and even some I'm not bothered by at all. I really had to change my perspective because for a long time I thought the things I'm insecure about were "worse" than my sister/others, and they therefore they didnt have anything to complain about (I do NOT think this way now). Ive also experienced friends and family trying to bolster my confidence by comparing me to other people who "have it worse" (eg. "But youre so much more/less blank than that person"), which really doesnt bolster at all and just tears down someone else. I went back to uni last year and was attending classes with a bunch of 18 and 19 year olds (ill be 30 this January) and I'd noticed SOOO many greys, especially at the front of my head. Facially I've been told I still look like I'm in my early to mid 20s, but I kept thinking the hair was a dead giveaway (Ahhhh I look so old). But i tried dying my roots, i went for a blonde balyage to make the white/grey roots look more subtle, and i still have days this bothers me. But every day i work to find something I'm not confident about and flip it on its head (heres a fun one: the grey silvery hairs are because as I'm getting older I'm getting so much wiser and my magic is growing so I'm slowly turning into Dumbledore haha). I'm all for body acceptance/ embracing what you have (much of this change in perspective has come from watching your videos over the many years, so thanks) rather than what the body positivity movement has become. Are there things about myself that I wish were different? Yeah sure, and some days that bothers me more than others. But when people are talking about their insecurities, whether that be to a friend or on social media, how they feel is totally valid. If some people are triggered and make you feel guilty for it, that's a THEM problem. Depending on who you talk to, sure maybe you say something more tactfully than other times. But if by sharing or venting about your experience you get any relief, comfort, or support, you do what's right for you. PS. While it may not always feel this way, I think you look beautiful Melanie. You're facing different - and frankly harder - challenges this pregnancy period than your first. You are allowed to feel exhausted, you are allowed to not feel pretty, you are allowed to feel not your best. But just know you have done so well, are such a fantastic mammy, a loving sister and partner, and I am so proud of all you've accomplished. Love and big cuddles always!!! 💚💚💚
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Such a nice chat between the two of you and I totally feel for both of you. I've had a skin condition since birth. It's always been there and I've learned that I won't be able to love or even accept it all the time. I thought I had figured this all out in my 20, but this year I turned 30 and like a long lost friend, the old insecurity about my skin started to creep up on me again. I suddenly feel like everybody is staring at me and I don't want to go out or meet new people. I honestly thought that I'd never feel this insecure again. I thought I'd reached my "zen" stage and that my skin would never keep me up at night again. But apparently body image and self acceptance comes in waves for me. Only good thing is that I know that I can feel differently about myself as well. Didn't know that as a teen. So this too shall pass. Thank you girls for sharing your insecurities 💙.
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I hear you loud and clear hun 💖 all your feelings are totally valid and I'm glad you can share them with us.
Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy and wishing for a healthy, safe birth for you and your little one 💖
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You are 100% right, the only way we can move forward is to be open, honest and vulnerable 💪🤩 loving your work Melanie 🥰
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Hi Melanie! I genuinely loved this video ❤️ I am a mama of twin babies and I think women's relationship with their bodies is a constant work in progress
Much love
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Loved this you and Jess are so real❤️
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We live in really tough times in regards to beauty standards and body image, because of how we are constantly surrounded by the most gorgeous people (plus photoshopped images) on social media. When I was a teen, more insecure and less nuanced, when I heard people I considered beautiful voice their insecurities, I'd make it about me: "If you think you're ugly, then how ugly does that make ME? If you feel bad about that little bit of acne, then how bad should I feel about THIS much acne?" So their insecurity would feel like an attack, even though it of course had absolutely nothing to do with me. I think that may be where those negative reactions to your sharing come from, and maybe those people just have a little bit of maturing to do. As an adult, I rather appreciate the openness. Like, sometimes I wonder if maybe life really /would/ be easier and better if I was more beautiful, and maybe I can snip and cut and inject my insecurities away. But seeing that beautiful people are still insecure tells me that I'd probably just spend a lot of money and experience a lot of pain and discomfort without it giving me what I actually want. I think the idea of body positivity- being a person worthy of self love and confidence under every circumstance- is perfect, because we should build less of our self worth around looks, but some people get caught up in this forced positivity that is STILL focussed on looks: everything is beautiful, and if you don't feel that way about a feature of yours, your feeling is wrong. Well, it's never good to bottle up feelings, so why should we bottle up and sugarcoat the feelings we have about our bodies. It's always going to be more productive and helpful to talk about it. Some people may not be ready for that conversation, because the topic is too sensitive for them, which is okay, but that doesn't mean that noone else is alowed to have the conversation either
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Only recently found your channel and love your content and honesty....When I first saw you I thought, omg, when she goes grey with those green eyes it'll be so stunning! I know what it's like to cover the grey as I went grey at 15 myself but I grew all the grey out at 35 and never looked back. I actually wish I'd done it sooner. It's so liberating and empowering. One day when the time's right you'll grow it out and it will be so striking on you; totally beautiful. Thanks for the honest chat, girls. You're both absolutely beautiful, and not just in looks but in your demeanours and energy.
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TOTALLY get it! It feels very similar to toxic positivity. Like yes of course the goal is to be happy and all that, but it is okay not to be, too. 💚
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I loved this conversation ❤ I feel like the body acceptance movement lacks the realness of talking about our feelings and confidence fluctuating. My body image changes depending on the day of the month and seeing you two being vulnerable and honest about similar things is truly helpful 💚💚💚
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A literal fetus is right 😭😂😂❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
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You two are both incredibly beautiful, kind, lovely inspiring people
Remember that, Always 💚💚💚💚💚
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You two ar such lovely souls 🙏💕
I think some people believe that you are not allowed to feel insecure about the things you feel insecure about sometimes because they see you as more beautiful compared to themselves and wish they looked like you in some way. They feel as if you aren't allowed the same insecurities as them because in thier minds you are better than they are in some way, so they project that onto you to justify their desire to be like you.
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@bmoore-n-life
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It’s been interesting how a movement on self acceptance, that was supposed to free women and people with body insecurity in general, has been twisted and used to judge us more. Instead of trying to create a culture where we can feel accepted no matter what we do with our bodies, and thus focusing on larger institutions and reactions to those who are not fitting societal ideas of attractiveness, we are ridiculed both if we don't fit these standards, and if we are open about trying to reach them and/or being insecure about it - whether it be weight, aging, skin, etc. ironically, it results in the only ones not ridiculed being those who somehow effortlessly reach these standards or say they do.
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