@redheadbelle

2 months ago

It can have several reasons why a once confident person may now feel a bit insecure. I agree confidence is attractive, but it’s not to force/stress someone out. Depending on the circumstances, you can built it up step by step (and remember, in some times you may have felt more confident-you will get there again!)confidence as well the own perception of oneself fluctuates always over time. That’s perfectly normal 🙂 Do things that make you feel comfortable in your skin. Don’t worry about attractiveness as I believe it has mostly to do with how good you are feeling with yourself. And when I like someone, I like them so there is no stressing about it. I also tend to find shy/nervous guys cute :) just try to start a conversation/a connection when you see someone you like :) often, it can also be with few words, much talking is not necessary for example if that makes you feel more at ease. What is the most attractive for me is a guy who approaches me, is pleasant to be around and makes me have a nice time. That’s all. Trying to do things that are giving you strength & happiness like pursuing your hobbies, maybe sports, having a circle of friends which whom you feel comfortable with, is important for you. If you then decide to enter a relationship if you want to in the future, then you are balanced and can focus on your bond with your person. The bond can be very strong but no person in the world can make you happy alone. It always needs parts of your life that make you happy as a person, too. And makes sure you are in a healthy relationship as both people are bonded and growing together. If you have experienced otherwise, it doesn’t matter - that does not define you! you can decide do do it in another way now. I can imagine negative past experiences may have shaped thoughts, perceptions, feelings, insecurities and fears. They are fully valid. But you can decide that you want to make new experiences from now on. So write down your goals, try to boil them down in small achievable steps and then - just go. Even if you don’t feel like it-it will come as you gain new experiences! People who are making you feeling good, appreciated, happy are the ones you want to look for. You don’t have to change your whole personality of course - just try to do things that give you a good feeling & good future results. Your life and being alive is so precious! ❤ it’s a gift no matter what - we are now here on earth in this body. For a reason. So try to enjoy it the best you can and see difficult circumstances as roadblocks or chances to grow & and be stronger afterwards. Besides, people who never ever had challenges in their life will get bored at some point or will lack the skills to solve future situations (this can lead to being g depressed too). This was a long comment - made me really passionate writing my thoughts on that here. Being interdependent doesn’t mean a relationship which lacks love & connection - it means both people are super happy together and happy to life their life too. They share their experiences together. Of course, you can do what you want, romantic relationships are not a must if you don’t want to. I love romance so this is a way for me. Anything that makes you happy, keeps you healthy and kind of balanced in your mood is a good way in my mind. ❤❤

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