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In this compilation video, our biggest thinkers share their insights on debating, including how to get your points across effectively, hold your own in an argument, and disagree better.
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
WOW! This clicks on so many levels.
"We create the others in relationships and in communication. It's why we are not the same person with different people, because those people make part of who we are." ❤️❤️
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I made some friends after politely arguing with them 😂 Some books also helped me a lot like (‘Talking to crazy’). When I got my first job in sales (I am not a sales-person whatsoever!) my management decided to place me in a claim department 😅 I was talking to the most angry/upset customers but no one ever screamed or insulted me. I guess the main point is to empathise with a person you’re talking to and instead of treating them as your opponent with a different worldview treat them as a teammate with the shared goal - to find mutual understanding.
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This should be taught in depth in our schools now. It is very relevant for our times to have basic fundamentals of this subject.
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I use to define arguing as fighting until I took a Logic course in school, now I know better.
When I find myself disagreeing with someone I try to keep calm and ask:
"With what certainty (from 1% to 100%) do you believe that?"
"Why do you believe that? "
"What if anything could change your mind?"
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00:32 🛑 Disagreements often lead individuals back to primal instincts of belonging to tribes when feeling threatened, contributing to a tribalistic world.
01:38 💬 Thomas Hobbes highlighted how minor disputes can escalate, impacting not just relationships but also nations, leading to his suggestion of civil silence, yet underscoring the limitation of a life built solely on agreement.
03:11 🤝 Starting a disagreement with a bit of agreement helps navigate numerous differences between two people, preventing an argument from becoming an uncontrollable mass of conflicting issues.
04:11 🔄 Expectations color relationships, influencing how individuals perceive and communicate with others, contributing to the co-creation of each other within relationships.
05:50 🛡 Emotionally charged conflict triggers defensive tribal thinking, prioritizing group allegiance over substantive arguments, hindering the openness to opposing perspectives.
06:56 💡 Pre-debate exercises like considering opponent arguments and imagining a loss help mitigate certainty, fostering a moment of understanding and potential humility or empathy.
08:27 🧠 Depth in communication lies in acknowledging, validating, and empathizing with others' perspectives, promoting a shift from a confrontational dynamic to a collaborative problem-solving approach.
09:30 💔 Feeling alone despite communication leads to existential crises, emphasizing the importance of making others feel valued and heard during interactions.
10:04 🤝 Connection stems from acknowledging both similarity and difference, avoiding dominance, and recognizing that encountering others enriches our understanding more than solitary exp
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8:05 Thank you for putting this into words.
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I love arguments, we grow so much as people during constructive arguments. One problem is that some people have personality disorders (people in powerful positions especially), and that makes it quite difficult to get to any constructive progression of things... such people can also pretend that they are arguing constructively (as they are highly intelligent), and that you in the end agreed on something mutually "satisfying"... and then they'd do whatever they want anyway... So, one must be highly skilled in communicating with "difficult" personalities (any difficult personality, no matter the intelligence)... Another problem is that some people are so stuck in their ways that not much will improve when arguing with them, it takes years (and hours of meticulous search for the right words, comparisons...) with such people, as they simply have a very blurred vision of the vastness of life and natural differences between people's opinions and ideas, lifestyles (but it is possible to help them open, but it is a very big energetic investment...)... So, in general, we would have to raise children differently, conduct our relationships differently than we currently do, we would have to take care or our own intuition and intelligence (both emotional and intellectual)... but I'll say it again, when there is a possibility of a great argument, it is like the most wonderful concert (or series of concerts, as some topics cannot possibly be resolved in just one disagreement). I would like to also add, that women and men perceive language differently, so, one has to take that into consideration and find a middle ground...
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I think that the key starting point is to accept that you could be wrong - even about things that are most dear to your heart. You can't have an open mind without some level of self doubt. You can still have strong beliefs that you defend with passion. But there must always be that small crack (at least) into which you can allow another possibility.
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These Compilations are phenomenal videos.
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There is nothing worse than to be alone in the presence of another.
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That's the problem of modern world we are not agreeing to make argument work
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This is a good video. I have always had a hard time with arguments and didn't know how to approach someone when I disagree. This video had some good tips that I am going to try.
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I was just having an argument about this exact topic, TODAY.
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i agree opinions can hlp find solution instead of never ending argument
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The video I needed to watch
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I think the background music adds unnecessary sensationalism. At least you could consider lowering the volume a bit👌
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If the parties cannot agree on objective reality then there is no chance for empathy.
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As humans, we cant argue with people we dont know anything: it's like listening a language you have never learn. First, we need to learn the fundamentals rules, then we can figure out what happened. And about learning, the thing is always the same, forget your knowedge, be candide, be naive and you will know what you should know and what really matter. In this way, argue is a medium to confront our own narcissism and love for our own idea and way of thinking: just let it go, dont be harsh with yourself.
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You guys should leave the full interview up again for the public. I know you guys are trying to make money but some of this needs to spread more and make this world a better place. We need more Bo Seos'! Less flat earthers...
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@Wilfer88
5 months ago
I think I should watch this once every day for 2 weeks to get this in my head.
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