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The Oh this is what it is supposed to be like/why can't my family be like that--you are describing grief. Grief is not just sadness, but also can be anger. And there is a grieving process that comes along with realizing these things. That is normal. Doesn't make it any easier, though. Having it now, also doesn't replace what you were supposed to have but never did. It is normal, healthy, and necessary for you to grieve this loss. I am sorry for the sadness there and I relate.
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The downside for me concerning chosen family is that it’s less self-evident, and the fact that there’s more pressure on friendships/ a smaller number of relationships.
I mean, yes, they’re there for me and support me, but it’s still not the same. If I need to crash somewhere I still need to ask, for example. I celebrate the holidays with my boyfriend’s family each year now (honestly already enough of a hassle and depleting socially lol), but besides that, whether me and my friends celebrate something together is kind of a question mark each year. That’s simply because they have great, loving families themselves. Perhaps if your chosen family is in a similar situation it might be different. But I also like having friends who’ve had a stable upbringing and a nice family, so I can get a sense of what’s normal/healthy. Even if it does hurt.
I do feel like it makes me more dependent on a significant other, and that sucks (although I’m in a great relationship right now). But I also don’t want to put that kind of pressure/expectations on my friendships. And I feel people aren’t looking for that anyways when they already have supportive family relationships themselves.
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I relate to everything. Thank you. Especially the bitterness about what we should have had hits hard.
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Friends are the brother and sisters we choose along the way .
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Never really gotten peoples obsessions with "blood" family, in my eyes it's a forced relationship. Always had the mind that I'd rather spend time with the people I choose. I'm in contact with some "blood" family members, and no contact with others. Lifes better for the people not in my life, and for the ones that are....They occasionally come and see me, and it always feels like a few hours of small talk.
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It's been interesting, now that you can get decent DNA sequences from ancient remains. Groups that were thought to be "family" often had little to no genetic relation. And they may well have considered each other family.
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I love the Dana watermark
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It's sad when we have better relationships in our minds that we can never have in reality. 😢
I'm glad you have found your place.
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7:20. Yes - I think it's good to acknowledge your own feelings even if you know that the bigger picture is that the reasons why your friends / found family have less time for you are fundamentally good.
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I have family I cut out and family I still see. I also have my best friend who is as important to me as family.
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Wanting a nice family is understandable. I am sorry that you don't have that. I can partially relate.
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hi! for the q&a, what are the main accommodations that help you with like sensory or communication needs with your friends / found family?
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For a q&a, maybe a silly question but what color (brand/shade) is your hair currently dyed? I like it!
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Would asking about any advice or life experiences you've had and/or are willing to share in regards to your cut-off from your family be a feasible question to ask? Sorry if you've done anything focusing on this kinda topic before or if it's not the kind of question you were expecting (I'm kinda new to watching the channel), but I thought it'd be good to hear another perspective if it was something you were willing to share.
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Hmmm😮
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I don't think it's selfish
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@daviniarobbins9298
4 months ago
I lost my dad a couple months ago. I lost my mum 12 years ago. This will be my first Christmas all alone. I got nothing special planned. My Christmas Day will just be me and the dog. Am 49 now. I never had a group of friends I could call family. I am so green with envy that you got such good friends. I wish things for me had been different but you know life tends to have this annoying habit of getting in the way. Oh well. Have a wonderful Christmas. I will probably order a take away from my local chippy on Christmas Eve, that will be my Christmas dinner. Or pizza. Or maybes both? Haven't decided yet.
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