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More importantly, we explore the psychological and emotional risks often encountered by scapegoat children or adolescents when trying to move out AND an effective strategy to protect yourself when moving out from under a narcissistic parent’s control.
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Date of upload: Sep 16, 2022 ^^
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
"You're defective for wanting to leave", for setting boundaries, for saing NO to abuse or manipulation, for doing things good for yourself etc.
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It's like an abusive marriage. The parent will stalk you after you move out.
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These parents will still control your life even after leaving, moving. Going no contact is when their true nature comes to destroy everything about the scapegoat child.
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I left 5 nights ago and the back pain I’ve had for 6 years has already gone.
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Great topic Jay!! As a child, I used to tell ppl my career goals were to "get out of the house". 😁
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You have to smile and be nice to the narcs. Get money, save every dime and keep it secret. Do not tell narc parents what you are doing. Use the internet wisely; sell stuff online and keep learning. Get out as soon as you can and disappear. Go no contact. Do not be "hoovered" (sucked) back in by anyone so they can continue where they left off. Do not give out your new address or phone number. Make it impossible to be found.
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Living on my own has been pretty tough but I had no other choice.
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I’m 32 & finally realised this what I’m dealing with, the day I finally leave for good will be the best day of my life
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i didn’t even realize i needed to escape, i just went to college, then wondered why i felt so much more free and alive
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I just read a comment that the armed forces are an option for Scapegoats that need out quickly. Good comment. Often females will opt for marriage to quickly get out of the parent’s house, but unfortunately, because of our childhood abuse, we consistently choose partners that have the same controlling behaviors as our parents. And that turns into a lifelong battle against narcissistic partners. I’m a senior now and finally got out of my last narcissistic relationship. Thanks for the tips on leading a healthy life!
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I'm in my mid-30's and I still live with and work for my narcissistic parents. Unfortunately, work and home is in the same neighborhood and my parents are participants of a smear campaign that has ruined my reputation and turned almost everyone against me. Even though I have a Masters degree, I don't have the confidence, energy, or drive to find a job and live independently. I'm afraid of failing and not being able to make it out on my own. I've been waiting for my parents to retire but I don't think I should wait any longer. I should live for myself, not for them. I should have done this a long time ago but I only realized they were narcissists about 2 years ago. I don't have any support. The only person I trust is my brother, who is the scapegoat and is currently worse off than me (in terms of health, education, outlook). It may take some time, but I hope that I can escape with my brother in the very near future.
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I needed this 30 years ago. However, after a narc parent, nothing worse can happen unless you let it.
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Moving is hard when you yourself are so vulnerable, have social anxiety, triggers and struggle advocating or speaking up for yourself
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My mother told me that I would certainly be raped should I move out into a house that I purchased on my own and without her input. I moved out anyways!
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True as well when leaving a marriage to a narcissist. My mother escalated her abusive behaviors when I differentiated myself as I grew into adulthood. My multiple attempts were not quite successful so I chose marriage at age 20 — unconsciously thinking this transition would be acceptable. It was terrible. And of course - I had unwittingly married a narcissist. Be compassionate with your self talk. You can do this. Jay’s channel is a huge gift.
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My mother keeps asking how i am. I know better now than to answer that question. It's a trap! Just don't engage, they will lose interest.
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The whole "I love you/ I hate you" splitting from the narcissistic family is so confusing and the cause of so much self-doubt about leaving. I finally started college courses in my 30s where I take psychology classes. That is where I gained my self worth and power to leave my family of origin. When I started college, my family disgraced me and belittled me about it. Now I understand they don't want you to grow and learn because they know you will figure them out and leave.
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It's yet another bizarre aspect of this that they don't seem to want the scapegoat around, yet they don't want them to leave.
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I am process of planning. U can do it we can be free
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@narcissistskryptonite5734
1 year ago
Today is my first day living on my own!! 🙏
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