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Re: Gender Expression, this is an infographic I found helpful: www.itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2011/11/breaking-…
(*The umlaut of Päter was added after the fact to indicate the pronunciation and avoid confusion with other artists. Also, it's frickin cute.)
Love to my musical collaborators who appear in this video and have encouraged and uplifted me continuously: Alex Purcell, James Cudworth, Kevin Howley, Charles Tilden, Ben Graffam, Kyrah Harder and Lily Scriven.
Intro music by Päter
Background music made with Cymatics Loops www.cymatics.fm/products/eternity-vintage-collection
Sound effects sourced from www.freesound.org/
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Date of upload: Apr 12, 2020 ^^
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
This got me thinking about gender expression. Im a big bearded guy who likes to paint my nails and be cute when I can. And ive been wondering does this mean im gender fluid or do i just have a different gender expression. Or whats the differences, what constitutes one or the other? I really don't know yet, so im just going with what I like.
I'm glad i found your fantastic music, and that it led me to this video!
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I like the name Pater. Also the Irish accent part is hilarious! You are so charismatic.
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me and my boyfriend were scrolling tiktok while waking up and were blown out of the water by your songs! like, holy shit! time to share these kickass songs freakin everywhere!
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you expressed a lot of things i have been feeling about my gender expression, too! even though i was born and have always identified as female growing up i was perceived to have a lot of masculine qualities: loud, aggressive, assertive, insensitive. i grew into that role that initially just was a result of me not knowing how to deal with my emotions and developed a lot of toxic masculine traits. at 16 i began to realise these traits kind of made me an asshole and i also had this huge feminine side that i wasnt expressing. so i overcorrected with hyperfemininity. i started to wear skirts and dresses every day, spoke softly, dyed my hair pink and overall repressed my masculine side completely. i thought i finally had developed into femininity because i was sure that i wasnt trans so my masculine traits seemed like a phase id grown out of. this development intensified over the years and reached its peak about last month when i had a dear friend speak to me and say this isnt you. you are repressing your masculine side and it's harming you. and he was right. the hyperfemininity had led to me holding myself to a toxic beauty and personality standard that did not fit at all with my assertive masculine character traits which meant a lot of internal conflict. i'm still trying to find the right gender expression for me but i'm also wearing a lot of button up shirts right now lol. i wish you all the best.
leonie
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Wow... Your "Dam, Damn" song automagically appeared in my 'discover weekly' Spotify playlist a couple of weeks ago. Loved it (go Pater and Algos). I knew nothing about you as an artist though and was curious - so dug a little deeper and found this gem of a video. Was delightfully watchable and intelligent. Thanks for keeping it real.
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PATER! You are so powerful. Seeing you grow as a person and an artist is so inspiring. Also I just want to say as a fellow Iranian, how much this means to me to see this. Your strengthen is what we all strive for. Im just lost of words, but I send you nothing but love.
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You are incredible! Seriously, I happened to be scrolling tiktok when I saw your Day 29 clip of a song and I couldn't stop listening to it. I sent it to some of my favorite people and then decided to follow your yt and insta. I honestly have a huge crush on your music. I'm glad I watched this video! I underwent similar types of feelings trying to figure out why a felt a certain way and who I am as a person. And I came to realize I'm just a person. I accept all of who I am and I'm actually loving it, though I still have that recurring voice in my head telling me that I'm not "girly" enough. I just think that's from years of pruning the wrong way. Anyways, you are great and I adore the name Pater (:
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I love everything about this ^^ I'm so happy I "found" you during my time in canada and get to take you home with me to Austria. Your voice is incredible and the glimpse of your personality that I got to see so far is just brilliant. Hope to hear many new songs from you and keep Patering ♥ (I'm sorry for that last part, I'll let myself out^^)
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I found you on tik tok on day one of your song writing challenge and instantly felt such a good vibe from you. I am nonbinary and really vibe with what you said about having to shed toxic masculinity as WELL as hyper femininity and I think it's a trap a lot of gender non conforming people fall into. When I was in high school I knew that people liked me best when I looked hyper feminine and I leaned into it really hard, going as far as dressing like I was in the 1950s. When I got to college, far away from home, I started dressing in boys clothes all the time and exploring masculinity but I sort of swung too far in that direction once I learned I COULD. I'm trying to find the right balance and know that I can wear anything, be anyone, as long as it makes me happy. I like Pater as a name a lot :)
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A whole mood. I’ve known that I’ve wanted a more feminine expression (or what’s considered more feminine by people I guess) for a long while. But until recently I couldn’t figure out where that ended and where my actual gender identity started.
Having to chuck out the “clutter” of weird ideas about masculinity has made things more slow than I’d like too. Trying to get over the “REAL MAN” tm craze that people push on you before you know if you’re even a man at all is...messy? Disorganized? It’s doesn’t feel like the first step, but I don’t feel like I can ask those harder questions until I answer the ones in front of me.
It’s nice to see someone going through something similar and, maybe not on the other side of that journey, but farther along it at least, and in a better headspace than I’m currently in.
I’m glad I found you and your music, I can’t wait to listen to more! 😊
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Loved it. Haha I wanted my name to be SoundGarden for the longest time but the radio already had it when I found out afterwards and apparently the another band... That's a secret tho. Haha. You inspire me alot girl! I miss you and always wish you the best. - Eden
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Wow! This was such a great video. I love the name Pater. I've struggled with gender expression especially when I was younger. I wasn't (and still am not) into painting my nails, wearing dresses/skirts, the idea of having children. I used to wish I was a boy so that I could do what all the boys did without being judged. I'm more comfortable in my body now that I'm an adult, but I still consider myself more masculine than feminine. And I'm doing the work to balance both yin and yang energies. Your song Dam, Damn really speaks to me as I'm very familiar with sticking all my demons behind a dam and hoping it doesn't break. Spoiler alert: it always does. I would love to see more videos of you chatting like this because you've got such a cool personality!
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The Umlaut threw me, wasn't sure how Päter was pronounced, but I like your explanation of the Irish boy. Found Dam, Damn a while ago and it's delightful. My identity is very masculine, but I find my expression isn't always. I have a skirt, I want to paint my nails, I hate sports and I have no idea why sports even really became the masculine thing. There are women's sports.
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I'm not saying you named yourself "daddy", but...
On a more serious note I think that name is amazing and it fits you really well! Even if somebody else doesn't like it, your artist name is for you and you alone to decide) it can be as personal as what you described here or something out of nowhere. I'm going though some gender stuff myself at the moment and this video is honestly pretty comforting))
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i relate so much with what you're saying. I'm agender afab so as i was growing up my family and society held me up to "femenine" standards while internally i held myself to masculine ones. that made me feel a disconnection between what i wanted for myself and what everyone else expected of me. i ended up bottling my emotions trying to act rough while hiding my true self from everone else
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Yooo you’re so good on YouTube!!! Love this!! Go Pater 👍🏼
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hearing your story is really nice and reassuring,,
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you're amazing!
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choosing a name that created gender euphoria and witchy energy for myself forever changed the quality of my music writing and performance. My name is Salem. 💗
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@ieatpie315
3 years ago
"The critical voices in my head, they've got a vibe" oh mood
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