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At the moment, I won't be releasing a weekly podcast but
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In this second episode, I talk about how the surrounding community gets someone processing their childhood trauma wrong. This episode will focus on a hypothetical case example compiled from what I see is like a culture of essentially abuse denying and the psychology around that and the blaming and the shaming of a Survivor for their own childhood trauma.
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Date of upload: Sep 22, 2023 ^^
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
What I really hate hearing when I talk about what happened to me is “I really hope you can forgive them someday!” This is so infuriating.
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As Patrick has stated many times:
" 'Half-safe' is not 'SAFE' ".
And he's correct.
It's as simple as that.
Now read that again.
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I hate to say it, but my mother's death was very freeing for me. 💔
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Whenever I see comments from people claiming that, "Everyone wants their victim card stamped," I assume that those people have a lot of unresolved trauma of their own. They feel like they can't face their issues, and so, no one else should be allowed to either.
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My mom told me not to blame her for my problems once. But she’s happy to blame her parents for hers.
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funnily enough the "live your life" crowd doesn't know is when we confront our trauma and make peace with those feelings, that is when we actually "get over it" so to speak and live a good life.
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"CONFUSING SEEKING HELP WITH ATTENTION SEEKING IS AS DIFFERENT AS NIGHT AND DAY." Thank you very much for this validation 💖💖💖
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I was so scared going into this because growing up in my family people spit the word “victim” but the word “abuse” didn’t exist. I feel so affirmed after listening to it.
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Our society in the US is all about producing and consuming at a fast pace. There seems to be a widely accepted perception that you just take an antidepressant or pill and get on with your day. As though it's never okay to stop to process. Or that it's okay to not be okay sometimes. Just numb it and move on. Seems people who never really had adverse experiences don't really understand because they wouldn't be in a stuck place. They think you just take the meds or suck it up.
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Patrick you have achieved the status of SUPER HERO in my eyes. Your work, your free video content has saved more lives than just mine. You are indeed saving people all over the world because of what you are doing. I had no idea how damaged i was or how to repair the damage of so much abuse until I found your videos. Thank you for helping me heal, for helping others who need it, and for those who have yet to be healed. Saving the world....is just what Super Hero's do.
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my college therapist told me that my husband who was hitting me was probably stressed and i should understand that. last time i saw a therapist.
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I was already traumatized as a teenager when I came across Louise Hay's teachings which I thought were mind blowing and positive for me. 'You can heal your life' was one of her books. She encouraged positivity at all costs. 'It's only a thought and a thought can be changed' was one of her core ideas. As I learned and discovered more about myself, about other people and most of all about trauma, I found out it's not that simple. You have to feel and process your feelings. That is a damn hard job and it takes a long time. You don't have to be positive all the time. It is essential to be able to see reality for what it is and to see your childhood for how it really was, to be able to distance yourself from the abusers, which ofen include your own parents. Louise Hay encouraged to forgive them in order to be at peace with yourself. That type of positivity is toxic and is based on denial. I am so glad for the resources that exist nowadays and I did appreciate this podcast Patrick.
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Those "stay positive" stories and comments sound like early '00. Toxic positivity was really on the rise then.
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I'm listening the comments in the audio for the hypothetical situation and I am getting sick. It brings so many memories. All this crap but nobody says "I'm sorry... Are you ok?", like an sentient, empathetic human being. What's wrong with the world??
I keep listening. But I really needed to say this. It's putting in perspective so many memories...
Thanks!! 🙏❤
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I came across an autistic psychiatrist on YT who discussed how disordered "normal" people are. In fact, he jokingly stated how pathological "neurotypicals" are, in general. It was parody, but there's truth to it.
I don't think emotional juggernauts exist. And even those who've put in the work, for whatever reasons, don't always 'get it'. I come across as using platitudes myself, at first blush. But I only talk about myself, and there was a lot of messiness that came before I could reach any of those points. People love to overlook the in-between, and messy, steps. It's a huge part of the problem. One that even well-meaning, ignorant, "normal" people feed.
I may not be normal by any definition of the word. But if self-righteous superiority, based in cherry picking and ignorance, is "normal" I want no part of it.
I don't want to be isolated. Don't get me wrong. But, if those were my only choices, I'd rather be alone than become more like that.
Flippant attitudes, when confronted with a person who's suffered, is always based in some sort of ignorance. It's not attractive.
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Suggestions for reframing by a therapist was the single most damaging thing that has occurred in my life outside of the actual abuse!
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Yep I’m old now and I JUST figured out my family will not or cannot value me enough to treat me like a human being. I’ve tried repeatedly to engage with all of them. I kept believing if I only adapted myself better to their needs and past traumas or helped and supported them more or more skillfully validated their feelings and experiences they’d want to remain connected. Couldn’t be further from the truth. More I adapted the more contempt and avoidance I received. Some are tone deaf at best 🥶 ice seems to run in others veins. Half safe describes a positive encounter. Discarded like an old shoe. I can no longer deal with their consistent betrayals.
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I'm 9 months into going, no contact, AGAIN with a family member. I recently was contacted, I felt sick to my stomach, I'm done.
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Alanon can be helpful as Patrick says, but sometimes you can’t “detach with love”. You just need to detach. Period.
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@babycakes8434
7 months ago
When I told someone that my dad didn't like me too much....They asked me "So were you a bad child"?....No I was a good child. I just wasn't the golden child.
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