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What do you do if your husband or partner is addicted to porn? It's very common for clients to come to us and say, my husband is addicted to porn or how can we stop porn addiction? If you're wondering how to live with a porn addict or how to get rid of pornography addiction, we are here for you. Watch this video to learn how to deal with pornography addiction and how to get on the same page with your spouse or partner.
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Top Comments of this video!! :3
Being so vulnerable on camera and presenting such a complex and personal subject without judgement is truly an accomplishment.
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I am always amazed at how much John can look directly into the lens (right into the viewer's eye) when talking about very vulnerable topics.
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Iâm so glad Alicia and Jono were open about this. So many people think theyâre awful for using porn, and they donât realize that so many good people have had the same struggle. And Jono is clearly a very good person, so if he can struggle with it, then clearly having that struggle does not make you a bad person. In fact, the fact that you care about whether or not youâre a good person says a lot.
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This is needed. The way I grew up, it was all shame and guilt. I think we need more open conversations about sex and porn. And why and no judgement and shame.
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The amount of honesty and openness and sincerety in this judgement-free conversation has been really healing, thank you guys for sharing this. I've been stuck in the cycle myself and is something that I know will have to be kept in check throughout a hopefully long and healthy marriage in the future. It gives me a lot of hope to know that even if I slip up, having a relationship like the two of you have will be a strong foundation to build back up from. Love you guys!
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"And as long as we feel alone, we feel hopeless, right? But once we're not alone, there's hope, right?." Someone to turn to in times of weakness. Probably the best statement in this video.
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Like anything else, it's important to watch porn with your brain turned on and to always remember that this is not what sex in real life should be like. This sounds completely obvious but I honestly think that men who have sex with women often forget that when they watch porn and are surprised when women in real life don't actually do/like the things that women in porn do/like. It can make sex very one sided and it can make men feel inadequate when a woman tells him that she doesn't like something or that she wants him to do something different. I've even heard men say that they learned how to satisfy women from watching porn.𤌠Believe me, you won't learn to satisfy women by watching porn guys.
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The people I admire most in life are those few people who have the absolute BALLS to be vulnerable and open to others with their worst life screw ups.
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Too much of the time the trauma betrayal that the wife is going through is set aside and the focus is on the husband and his addiction. This is the opposite of what needs to happen. I have not experienced any recovery of my own staying in relationship with someone who will keep secrets and lie. I hope women will begin to focus on their own healing and recovery instead of avoiding what is going on inside of them to be a "support" system for someone who may never reciprocate. Leaving was my best solution.
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Iâve had partners whose porn consumption was a point of contention in our relationship because they wanted me to groom and act like the women they were watching on screen. Iâve also had other partners where there was no negative effect.
I do think it would be interesting to look at if there is any difference in consuming what I usually see called âfeministâ or âethicalâ porn versus mainstream porn.
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For years I thought I was addicted to porn and then I was able to change my perspective and become free from the shame I felt from my "addiction". In reality I was not actually addicted, but I was in an aggressive shame cycle linked to my pornography habit. Once I was free from the shame it was easy to not consume porn compulsively. Breaking free of that shame also allowed me too actually examine the other reasons I was compelled to consume pornography and begin to treat those root challenges in my life and marriage as opposed to hyper focusing on the symptom of porn and ignore those larger issues.
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I found that overcoming my addiction was first, admitting it to my husband but then second, I promised him that I would tell him if I slipped up and knowing that I promised him would make it easier to say no. And Iâm so grateful how forgiving and understanding and sympathetic he is towards me.
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Porn led to worse and worse behavior and cheating with my ex. The person addicted to porn always wants more.
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I have a bit of religious trauma and it is so healing to see you two having such a raw and healthy discussion of something considered 'shameful'.
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Thank you for being open about this! Pornography has affected my marriage negatively in a lot of ways, and we're just now (after 7 years) finally making some progress. I often feel gaslighted by internet culture and the prevailing belief that porn isn't bad or damaging unless it's child porn or abuse porn, etc. But what about my experience? My hurt? The betrayal I felt when I found out? Thank you for validating my feelings đ
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I'd like to know more about what Jonathan meant when he said, "the more I learn about the industry".
Because to flip this whole discussion around to those actors in the porn videos, they are often (especially in the darker ones) victims themselves. They are frequently forced (especially but not solely the women) to participate, through coercion or sexual slavery. There is a world-wide industry that looks for vulnerable people and sucks them into this industry through many means (drug addiction, fear/threats, kidnapping/enslavement).
So when you or someone you know is 'consuming' porn, please be aware you're supporting an industry tainted by sexual slavery. It's not as harmless as you may believe.
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I've been a fan of Jonathan through Cinematherapy for a few months, I think that channel is amazing... I'm an even bigger fan now! I've been struggling with leaving porn for a while, my reasons are pretty similar to Jonathan's (industry, treatment to women, portrait of sex), I've been aware that porn gives me (us) something as coping mechanism to whatever shit goes on in my (our) life. Seeing you guys talk so openly and towards the end both crying from the pain and the healing process was beautiful. If you ever see this comment, I'd ask the following: I did tell my wife a few times that I would like to get rid of porn and tried to get her to help me with it, but she has these very strong feelings against porn, and almost refused to even talk about it, like it's a complete absurd someone who consumes and watches porn. I don't blame her, I don't think less of her, I just haven't found a way of showing her how common it is and what the psychological processes are that lead men (mostly, I guess) to using porn as a release (bad analogy again? đ). Would you have any tips as to how a husband who understands well what you guys just brought up in this wonderful video could help his wife (who doesn't speak English well and couldn't fully get this video) better understand the struggle? And perhaps start the path to healing? Thank you very much for what you do! Keep the awesome job up!
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FIRSTLY. MAD MAD RESPECT FOR JONATHAN. Secondly I really love the way you look at each other on camera; it really shows your connection, respect and attentiveness. Often couples on youtube look mainly at the camera and not at each other when they are speaking and its very weird and unnatural.
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That thumbnail. Lol. I thought you were joking, but when I realized you weren't, my respect level for you went way up. Not that I didn't respect you before, I did a lot. But the vulnerability you expressed just made me respect you more.
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@benhommes3450
2 years ago
Mad respect for Jonathan being open about this.
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