@CorvusAlyse

2 months ago

Also, people who aren’t close with your kids, especially strangers, who insist on hugging your kids is a red flag in my book. I mean, I would be asking her, why do you want to touch my child so badly? Why do you want to touch children in such an intimate manner so badly that you would discipline them for refusing? Yeah that’s a total red flag for me. And for the record, my kid has no reason to obey any adult other than his parents. He was raised to respect certain authorities, like the police and doctors and teachers, but that at any time he felt uncomfortable, or queasy deep in his belly, that he had every right to get out of that situation and find another adult. Especially if the first adult wanted him to do anything out of the ordinary or go somewhere alone with them or take any of his clothes off without another adult present. He has proper respect for the authority the position brings, but I also taught him to know the difference between the title and the person. And like me, he’s pretty smart and uses his intuition properly. He has never used it as an excuse to get out of something. Every time he got that feeling deep in his belly, it’s because we found out later that the person was, indeed, sus. As parents we need to be communicating these things to our children, not teaching them to blankly obey if an adult says jump. It’s for their own protection and will also help them to develop that intuition to know when a person or situation is developing that they need to be two states away from.

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